Worshiping "Alpha Straight Guys"
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Something I've been thinking about a lot now. So much of gay porn (not all obviously) but a good majority seems to be comprised by muscular straight men. While yes, I get off and appreciate their muscular worked out bodies, it leaves me thinking gay porn is slowing turning into a worship session for straight guys. Especially when it comes to webcams (maybe it's just the ones I watch) but it seems to just be straight guys cashing in on our desire to look at them or worshiping them. Especially those ones that are degrading to the viewer, calling them a fag, saying how they can never "have them," that the viewer is weak, referring to themselves as gods, etc…I am guilty of this, I get off on it. But I guess I'm just wanting to open up a dialogue about why this is happening. Is it classic case of wanting what you can't have?
Lets talk!
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Are you saying there's a shortage of buff gay guys? I don't know what you mean by degrading to the viewer are you looking at porn where they actually roleplay domination? Personally, I can't watch men under 30 who aren't buff or hairy, twinks do nothing for me but it doesn't bother me that lots of actors like in all categories are actually gay for pay. They look hot and my favourite videos are ones that look like they're having shit loads of fun (definitely no pun intended). I'm bi, so maybe that's why I'm not put off by straight guys doing this but ehhhh :fap:
As for "cashing in on our desire", what's wrong with that? Do you feel used when you watch porn knowing that might be the case. That's the last thing on my mind when I watch and in an industry like porn that's like the whole foundation the industry is on, straight or gay.
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A lot of straight guys see this as simply doing a job or playing a role. You may get some that do things that cause us to go, "Hmmm", but by and large it's a job. Straight guys tend to have a lot less hang ups about the audience they cater to if they're going to do this kind of thing.
While I don't fall over myself for a hot straight guy, I certainly do have in the back of my mind that if he doesn't specifically say "no" that there might be a chance. Is that really the case? Maybe, but I doubt it. Yet because something has happened before with this type of guy, you can never really close that door. If you never ask, the answer will always be no.
To me, in the end, we hang in there for the possibility.
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The reality is that 90-95% of men are straight, so there's always going to be a portion of men in pornography that are. Most gay men are attracted to masculinity. Most straight men are masculine.
I don't think we need to worry too much about it, although I do find the "masc for masc" concept quite narcissistic and sad.
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The whole thing's basically a huge put-on. You can't 'act straight' any more than you can 'act gay'.
Statistics on the matter will always be inaccurate as long as being non-heterosexual carries any sort of stigma. You can't depend on honest answers in any study related to orientation.
A lot of gays are conditioned into insecurity and as a result, try to latch onto the hyper-masculine ideals that don't really exist in the world. In porn, this is played off of.
There are also plenty of them who are enchanted either by straight boys 'playing gay' (when in reality they're probably not so strictly straight), or by feeling like they're getting a glimpse at some sort of forbidden secret. The reality is that straight boys are just as pressured, on the whole, towards that same hyper-masculine nonsense.
In many cases it's 'the grass is greener on the other side' – it becomes alluring when they feel they're privy to something they'd otherwise never be able to witness...or at least, that's what they imagine.
I do think it's always troubling when one comes across these obsessive, often self-loathing types so fixated on playing pretend that they end up being just embarrassing and sad. There are people of all kinds, male and female, gay, straight, and everything else, that believe in these stereotypes. But what people don't often think about is that putting on a 'straight act' is often as embarrassing and insulting as the other way around. Funny thing, I was shocked the one time I can remember seeing it pointed out once on a show...Dante's Cove, of all things!!