Awkward
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I like to be spanked, but I find it really awkward to bring it up with guys. I generally wait until the third or forth time I'm with a guy before I try to bring it up. Most guys don't seem to understand that I'm not interested in little love taps, I want to be seriously SPANKED.
Anybody else find it difficult to bring up in bed?
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I used to think it embarrassing just as you do.
I have always wanted to be spanked severely over the laps of one of my best friends who's straight and knows that I'm gay but certainly didn't know that I'm into spanking sexually. For several times the words for begging him to spank me came right to my lips before I swallowed them down for I thought it's super awkward to speak of such subject and I might freak him out and lose him as a friend. A couple of months ago, I pissed him off, and when I was apologizing to him I suddenly came up with the thought of breaking him into spanking. So I explained to him my desire for being spanked by him and sincerely hope we could solve this problem through that. He agreed and I finally had my longed spanking over his laps! He spanked really hard, much harder than I imagined! And ever since that I have regular spanking from him when I feel like some nice strokes on my butt. It's like some kind of favors I'm asking from him. Every time I'd call him and tell him that I need spanking, and we'd start hanging out in either his or my place like some normal friday night and all of a sudden he'd say, "Hey dude, time for your spanking."
So I'm no longer awkward of speaking about this. Now quite a few friends of mine know that I'm into spanking, and some even express their curiosity too! I think you just need to be brave and tell that guy, since you got nothing to loose! The worst could happen is –he won't spank you.
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Spanking should be brought up at the start of a relationship, so you know if the person is comfortable with that.
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This is a 'chicken and egg' situation.
Do you approach friends and if you think them responsive get them to spank you or do you find other spankers and if you bond with them develop deeper friendships?If you are the intuitive type of outgoing person then the former is easy for you. Its safe but runs the risk of alienating old friends and can explode very publicly if handled badly.
However, if you are shy, retiring and a little nervous then the later is much easier. I have responded to blogs, chats and ads where chatting beforehand with a total anonymous stranger is very easy.Just use your common sense that you would use for any anonymous meeting. I never allow myself to be tied-up, always agree the severity of the spanking and try and meet in a public location before going to a private or secluded position. If the guy wants sex, for me thats an Ok, but you can always lay down the ground rules even before you meet. -
I think you should grab his hand and get a little slap in your butt. And see how it goes from there. I mean, whos gonna be scared of that? And if he likes it, then you can ask for more. And more. And MORE. :police:
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I had brought it up once, doesn't end up well,but I am glad that I did, since being spanked is something I love if it doesn't work out with him then thats it, Im actually trying to figure out how to deal with this myself, I guess there really are no right answer.
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In fore play I usually give the other guy a couple of smacks and see how he responds. If he gives me a few spanks I try to increase the intensity if he is into it you will soon know. IF he doesn't respond you also know.
