Hi
As what i'm aware of, spanking doesnt do any harm to one's physical well-being if you dont spank too hard like bleeding or something. In East Asia, like China, Korea, Japan, in the ancient time(a few hundred years ago) spanking with rods or whips was a common punishment utilized by the government, and from a medicine book written almost 2000 years ago in China in Han Dynasty which was also the dynasty when spanking was officially adopted by the government in Ancient China, It explained the reason for practicing spanking rather than other punishments which is "the butt is the thickest meat on one person and it is separated from visceral organs, so spanking the buttocks causes the least harm when using corporal punishments on one person." Besides, spanking is used as the most common corporal punishment THROUGHOUT the world, so you can easily deduct that spanking is not harmful.

For you second question, it's actually a very professional question and I only know a few about it. There are basically two big reasons why people enjoy spanking.

The first being physical, also the reason why many enjoy sadomasochism. When people are hit or hurt , some special chemical called Endorphin would be released in their brains in order to alleviate the pain, this being a very common and natural reaction most creatures demonstrate as for pursuing advantages of living., and it creates a feeling of being slightly anesthetized and therefore feeling easy and joyous. But like caffeine or morphine, some get addicted to the feeling endorphin enables them to feel so they are looking for chances to re-create the situation, which leads to the development of masochism, as well as spanking. PS. fun fact, some people love to eat spicy food, also because hot stuff stings their tongues to stimulate the brain to produce endorphin and it's absolutely enjoyable for them! XD

The second reason is mental or psychological concern. For someone who doesn't receive punishments growing up as a child, he or she naturally feels curious or even jealous of their peers who do. Often being people lacking parental care in most cases(in different ways), they want to attract attention and absorb care they should  receive as a child. So they resort to being spanked again as adult to feel this "privilege" they enjoy.

this is all i know about why spanking is so hot to us…
hope it helps!

I used to think it embarrassing just as you do.

I have always wanted to be spanked severely over the laps of one of my best friends who's straight and knows that I'm gay but certainly didn't know that I'm into spanking sexually. For several times the words for begging him to spank me came right to my lips before I swallowed them down for I thought it's super awkward to speak of such subject and I might freak him out and lose him as a friend. A couple of months ago, I pissed him off, and when I was apologizing to him I suddenly came up with the thought of breaking him into spanking. So I explained to him my desire for being spanked by him and sincerely hope we could solve this problem through that. He agreed and I finally had my longed spanking over his laps! He spanked really hard, much harder than I imagined! And ever since that I have regular spanking from him when I feel like some nice strokes on my butt. It's like some kind of favors I'm asking from him. Every time I'd call him and tell him that I need spanking, and we'd start hanging out in either his or my place like some normal friday night and all of a sudden he'd say, "Hey dude, time for your spanking."

So I'm no longer awkward of speaking about this. Now quite a few friends of mine know that I'm into spanking, and some even express their curiosity too! I think you just need to be brave and tell that guy, since you got nothing to loose! The worst could happen is –he won't spank you.

@agogpry:

I like feet ONLY in socks.

I used to think like this as well… but after my feet were licked and my toes were sucked once i changed my mind... XD

i agree with that too…
since I love socks more than feet, i think i can survive here... plus, even if there's one group for underwear and socks, but there arent enough posts anyway... it's after all not so popular around...

I couldn't agree with this more! Even though it seems to be a while ago…
I always refer to spanking as both erotic sexual enjoyment and life-long individual well-being. For long have I imagined a sort a relationship where I could practice both whenever needed. The erotic kind of spanking should be mild, from my point of view, since for me what turns me on is not the severe pain(it depends on one's level of endurance) but the whole process of the spanking ritual. And the serious spanking, or simply addressed as discipline or corporal punishments more popularly, which is adopted as a method to keep one in line if he thinks adults still need to be castigated and righted when making mistakes, should be really painful. It should be strictly education-oriented, no sexuality involved, old-fashioned and therefore renders one squirm around, kick legs, and possibly shed tears and cry out loud.

@jamesbr66:

Hey,

Thanks for bringing this up

I think there are a variety of folks into spanking, and that includes all genders, some straight guys love being spanked by another guy, but without the
sex, for other guys sex plays a mild or heavier role depending on the appetities of the two individuals.

In the case of partners definately it is included in foreplay or perhaps more and I guess it depends on the relationship as well.  There are also lots of different levels of spanking, from mild erotic to heavier role play and all can be a precurser to sex, or as part of.  In my own situation there are both, we sometimes enjoy erotic sessions followed my some amazing sex and on the other hand as we practice domestic discipline, I can be spanked as punishment which I can tell you always begins with one hell of an erection, but that soon tapers down as my partner reddens my rear end but at the same time that can also lead to some pretty sizzling sex later on …...

Being spanked during our more intimate bedroom fun is always really hot, anything from a few swats to being taken over his lap while we are both naked can be ... well you get the idea I guess

Anyway there is what i think!

James

This post seems to be a long time ago..
i'm curious how things worked out eventually.

May I speak my opinion that seems too late after two years. I quite agree with the "sexual maturity" statement someone made up there, since I'm exactly the age that 19-yr brat was two years ago, which reminds of a gazillion of examples I've encountered of guys being in their teens or early twenties who argue who'd be the one to fuck and to be fucked. It bothers me a lot since I'm that kinda person who find flip-fucking  a huge turn-on and gets disappointed easily when someone insists not to be fucked. (I have that Hemorrhoid problem too, which is a huge bummer and I'm seriously considering getting rid of it officially through surgery) And in their position, sex is all about "penetrating and being penetrated" if they are not into other sexual activities. I regard spanking as one fairly important role in my life, as both in sexual intercourse and individual's life-long well-being, which requires more investment one's mental performances than his physical behaviors.

Not knowing what the result turned out to be, I would hold my comment as making advice. Actually i should be asking questions… @leatherbear:

Hi Sye,

You probably remember me best as LBC from another site  :hug:

The whole Spanking and Discipline bonding that is created between 2 men takes a certain kind of sexual maturity that most 19 year old's just would not understand or appreciate. I really think that was shown by his "not if I can't fuck you" statement ~ a real lack of sexual maturity. My second clue is the dancer/actor description ~ cliche but often true ~ they are very self centered to begin with and therefore I do not believe he could ever wrap his head around the complex sexual dynamic you desire.

The only option you have is to be very blunt about your desires and see if he is willing to give it a go both passive and active ~ at least from my perceived understanding of your desires. If he had a bad experience you have to explain that he was with a true Sadist who had no respect for boundaries. Explain in detail how things would and should work with you as his partner ~ he knows you are not that jerk at least by now. The risk of slowly breaking him into Spanking and Discipline considering his bad past experience could be dangerous for your relationship and his mental well being.

Sometime you have to risk it all to have it all.

Good luck and best wishes for success.

i see many of  you are into underwears and other gears…
i only discovered till recently that I have socks fetish! I always love guys in white socks/black suit socks and hate it every time when i watch the porn star take off his socks!!!
Anyone here also have feet fetish? Lick it or anything? I'm quite new to this actually...

there aren't many people as in other forum… i guess spanking is after all a "minority" in the gay community...

David beckham is surely hot as hell!!!
no matter it's ps or fake, i'll take the "nude" pictures of him. XD

I have two pictures of naked prince harry from last year but the definition is really poor and the images are quite blurry so i think i'll just keep them to myself…

i'd say bareback since every guy would love that! but in terms of hygiene and protection, i suggest use condoms with strangers and once you become fuck-buddies or boyfriends, just be as bareback as it can be! ;D ;D