Gay that insults Gay
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I believe gay world is of a small community
shouldnt then we help each other out?why will some gays insults some other gays (calling them ugly, crushing their confidence, etc.)?
why will some gays consider themselves aristocrat and deem some other gays peasant? (separating/calling us and they):cry2: ??? :cry2:
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I believe gay world is of a small community
shouldnt then we help each other out?why will some gays insults some other gays (calling them ugly, crushing their confidence, etc.)?
why will some gays consider themselves aristocrat and deem some other gays peasant? (separating/calling us and they):cry2: ??? :cry2:
Just jealousy, that's why. If gay A is more handsome and successful than gay B, then gay B could start offending gay A in an attempt to crush his confidence in order to make himself feel better and above gay A. This is a simple human psychological fact I face everywhere pretty much on a daily basis and not just with the LGBT society. Psychological analysis on human beings (regardless of their sexuality) is my hobby and often when someone insults me I tell him/her the truth about them in their face and the result is always a telling silence.
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I'm not sure why it is … and I know this problem can get so severe that it actually discourages a lot of us guys out there to stop associating with other men just like us (which honestly ... is a good source of friends and support and an assurance that you may be around other people that can understand you better than a lot of others can). I've heard it labeled the "scene" more times than I can count, which generally just means the places in each little town where we tend to gather together, usually bars or dance clubs. The tone of contempt that people speak of it, though, goes far behind a dislike of social alcohol consumption, and loud music.
... it becomes about the culture we build up for ourselves. The cattiness.
You're right. One of the flaws that is easiest for a gay man to fall into is superficial judgemental nastiness. The fact that we also tend to cultivate talents for cleverly barbed language synergizes with that in horrible ways.
I do think YohioLover is right. When you see someone that tears another person down that they've never met, and they're talking negatively about someone based solely on a 10-second-look from 50 feet away ... you can probably Vegas-Level-Odds assume that the person is trying to draw attention away from their own insecurities, even if it's all subconscious to them. Are any of you heavy, or are friends with heavier people? I'm sure if you're that person, or know that person, you know the experience of the fat person pointing to the EVEN_FATTER person and joking about it.
I've struggled with being both the the abuse-er and the abuse-ee, and I'm at a place right now where I try to love and remember the humanity of everyone. When I can. If I forgive and forget when the 'reptile brain' of others takes control, I'm a lot happier. I've been through enough social soap operas that I've learned that the same basic pieces inside of us that make us tend to verbally tear down those we perceive as "lesser"s ... that's also the part of us that makes us care so much when other people say bad things about us.
Just be.
AND.
Be happy about it!
...there's not a man on this planet who isn't thrillingly beautiful to SOMEONE out there! Find that man, and let him fill every last bit of you up with shining praise.
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The abuser is just trying to make themselves feel better about themselves.
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I don't think it's an exclusively gay thing but more of a people in general thing.
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Gays are people. And people are mean. It's as simple as that…
It's a general problem of humankind. Has nothing to do with being gay. -
The only hatred I've seen from the Gay Community is towards Bisexuals. It's kind of funny, really. You'd think the gay community would be the most understanding and sympathetic about you not being straight and struggling with the discrimination, but they have only have nasty things to say about you being bisexual. Not trying to generalize at all here but it's quite common, unfortunately.
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I believe that all the willing to insult someone comes from the personal insecurity … I have that with one my gay colleague ... he often make jokes about my hair, my clothing, my shoes ... my manpurse ... but actually he is the ugly one that has no sex at all ... and i have sex every day
Hense: the one that insults = insecure about himself
