This one was inspired by my first poll. I'm not quite sure how I would answer this one personally. Feel free to elaborate on your choice if you desire.

@boyjohn:

I'm finding gay relationships to be more and more polygamous especially as the relationship grows with time. This is not so with heterosexual relationships.  Do you think this polygamous characteristic is a good thing or a bad thing?

I agree 1000000% Long term gay relationships that stay monogamous are very much the exception, the longer the relationship goes on the greater the likelihood that there will be infidelity or that the relationship will morph into some variant of an "open relationship" In my opinion this tendency is a bad thing. Although it may seem fun or even natural when you're younger, as you get older it just ends up robbing you of valuable years of youth with little to show for it.

Interesting answers, I have to agree with one of you that my younger self probably wouldn't be interested in my present self although as naive as I was way back and given how desperate I was to meet someone gay or bi (this is in the time when the internet didn't really exist) it wouldn't have taken too much convincing to get my younger self to accept my present self. I also find it interesting that most would top their younger selves. Personally I would have sucked off my younger self, eventually done all the other things but I would have started there. I think it would have been quite satisfying to meet someone who truly understood me and with whom I could share everything without fear. Without going into a whole time travel causality loop paradox discussion I think it would have made an interesting relationship. Might start up another poll along those lines.

@jonas32:

@umstud19:

Yeah, in my experience it usually means one or both are bored to some degree either with the partner or the sex or both. Personally I think 3 somes are hot to watch but not nearly as fun to participate in, invariable someone ends up feeling left out to one degree or other. Never had a threesome with 3 random people, that might be different, but when two out of three are in a relationship of some kind it isn't as hot in practice as you would think.

My husband and i have 3somes once in a while with a good friend. And i dont belive we are bored with our sexlive or eatchother. And i have never felt outside, because i have 2 cocks to play with. And i also have 2 holes and 2 hands so no one is left behind

As with anything there are always exceptions, it's great that you and your husband are able to pull it off without any adverse effects to your relationship, I would venture to say that most people can't.

I too get the impression that I must be missing something with regard to this topic. Either guys are no longer engaging in sex acts for spending cash or they're referring to it by some mysterious name I have yet to come across. Obviously I get that there are top dollar hustlers/escort/massage but those are a different category in my book. I can only think in large cities of homeless/junkies who might be persuaded by smaller sums of money, there is an xtube account with a guy who has a couple of videos where such guys were willing for less than $20. Regardless I don't know where you would find those guys short of trolling the seediest neighborhoods etc. Today there is also the ever-present risk of getting caught up in some sort of police sting.

Agreed, lots and lots of beer (or the fluid of your choice) If you're not the type of person who can pee through an erection then the only thing which will enable you to "squeeze" some out will be to have a very full bladder. Also helps to do it in long comfortable sessions where you can take breaks and get soft, then do some sports then break and so forth.

I used to do it pretty regularly but stopped. For relationships that have ended and for which there is no hope or desire of resurrection I made the choice not to tease myself mentally with re-living something which will never happen again. I found that stopping that helped me to move on because I stopped reinforcing those feelings by masturbating to those experiences. With random porn it's emotionally different because they're all just anonymous strangers with which you have no emotional connection.

Men's underwear section in Walmart, I actually shoplifted the cover art from a pair of underwear (leaving the actual underwear behind) and took it home, used it to jerk off for ages.

In retrospect the best thing that happened was that I came right in his mouth without even thinking twice about it and he didn't give me any shit about it, also introduced me to how pleasurable nipple nibbling can be.

Yeah, in my experience it usually means one or both are bored to some degree either with the partner or the sex or both. Personally I think 3 somes are hot to watch but not nearly as fun to participate in, invariable someone ends up feeling left out to one degree or other. Never had a threesome with 3 random people, that might be different, but when two out of three are in a relationship of some kind it isn't as hot in practice as you would think.