I 100% don't feel bad for my fetishes. More than likely, unless they're on drugs, guys with fetishes I have encountered have been waaaaay more fun than with vanilla guys.
Also, I've said this time and time again IRL, you can play so much safer, than what boring, vanilla, just fucking guys do. I sound with guys - not sharing rods and using rubbing alcohol before insertion and using piss for lube, I fist guys - gloves and don't jerk off with your gloved hand and shove it back into him….there's just so much more you can do with a guy, that doesn't evolve genitals to mouth and/or ass.