Posts made by thespecialk

Sadly, most of my experiences have been pretty vanilla. Then again, can't say I ever got an itch to do things in exotic places, so I suppose I shouldn't feel deprived.

My advice would be don't do it unless you're absolutely sure your friendship will survive.

I was real close to my best friend in high school and we wound up doing stuff one night, which I never saw coming. I won't bore you with the story but suffice to say, it got awkward after it happened and it wound up destroying our friendship. Within a year or two later, I was completely out of his life (partially due to his getting married with a girl that was friends with us both and I have always suspected she found out what we did and wanted him to stop talking to me).

To this day, I regret doing it. Sure, it was fun for that night, but it really did cost me my best friend. It doesn't always turn out bad, but IMHO it wasn't worth the risk.

Wisconsin just struck down a ban this past week, too.

@Amazonios:

Hey y'all,

I have been involved lately in a debate about homosexuality. Given the shared knowledge in Psychology, Social Sciences and Biology, I would like you to tell me your best mouth-shutting arguments regarding its normality. I'm just so annoyed seeing people repeat the same stuff about how wrong it is.

I will give you some typical statements, tell me your arguments.

"A gay man is not man."
"Homosexuality is a choice, you are not born with it."
"Bible says bla bla bla"
"It's immoral"
"Homosexuality is as perverted as pedophilia"
"Homosexuality means degeneracy. Gays are not a valuable element to the society."

I have an answer to every one of them, but sometimes I feel that I am becoming personally involved, offended, and at times I end up using the same arguments all over again, leading me to unproductive thinking, because of my emotions causing a rationality black-out.

I am 90% sure that we will get similar takes to our answers, I just want to see how the 10% would combat these irrational beliefs.

Note that everyone is entitled to an opinion, but posing religion and laws (which are subject to change, historically evident) in order to justify one's distaste is so old-news. I respect every homophobic's opinion, unless they have vague statements with no scientific back-up or they are products of mere ignorance and stereotypical approach.

There's not much you can do to combat ignorance. You can try to explain your own experiences, but most people have their mind made up so it's probably a waste of time. I'm as guilty as anyone as arguing with people about it, but lately I've realized it doesn't do much good.

What's worse is that I am a person of religious conviction too, so when I tell someone that no one 'chooses' their sexuality, I'd think I have credibility given I also have a spiritual perspective. But like you said, ultimately it comes back to the same tired arguments.