**Garrett is prettier, but Brent is sexier! **

I truly think for men, when we hear that "sex is only 10% of a relationship" if only in our thoughts we respond " yes, the first 10%" and since by definition in a gay relationship we are talking 2 men***, maybe that figure should be 20%.

If the sex is great, we will overlook A LOT in our partners. However, if the sex is just OK and/or way too infrequent by our standard or desire, squeezing the toothpaste tube incorrectly can suddenly become a hanging offense!

It is a mistake to think sex is only important the first year of a relationship or "it's only natural that it lessens over time". Maybe for women (some if not most), but certainly not for men! In 90% of heterosexual relationship, it's the woman who is the "gate keeper" of the couple's sex life. One needs to look no further than expressions like "pussy whipped" or "get lucky tonight" or the ancient but always relevant, "not tonight, I've got a headache" to see this is so. It's a more than rare occurrence for the wife to angrily leave the bedroom to go sleep on the couch because she wants sex and her husband is "not in the mood"! Additionally rare is the husband who is no longer interested in sex with his wife because she had a baby. I know this happened with Elvis  and Priscilla Presley and as odd as he was he's probably not the only one with this "condition".

It is also a mistake to use "straight" relationships or marriages as the blue print for ours. Yes there are many aspects of relationships that are universal and non-gender specific, but it is equally true that relationships with two men or two women*** present situations both positive and negative that are unique. For 90+% of "straight" couples there is never a "discussion" about whether one is a TOP, bottom or versatile, something essential for two men as it's not only essential for sex, but it sets a "tone" for many of the other dynamics in the relationship.

So to sum it up more succinctly, a good sex life is an indispensable part of a happy relationship!

***I chose to address gay male relationships in this post because lesbians and lesbian relationships are a whole different universe from gay men.

Honestly, I've never seen it work long term. I've known MANY couples in an "open relationship" where one of them find someone else from their "NSA trysts".

One thing for sure, if you want any relationship to work, you both must be on the same page when it comes to monogamy. If either is making a "compromise" here, the relationship is doomed.

If one really wants an open relationship, but compromises because of their desire to be with the other, he will eventually become resentful and unhappy and this festering will cause the relationship blows up.

If one wants to be with someone so badly that they swallow hard and accept an open relation, it is only a matter of time before what I think is a "natural" jealousy kicks in and things blow up. This person is the one more likely to find someone new, someone who shares his values.

for me the weirdest place is also the hottest place…so am reposting here what I posted for hottest!

On the hood of a police car in front of the "Rawhide" in NOLA during So. Deca 2000.
Cops pulled up, parked and went inside to do a "run thru" with flash lights hoping to catch guys in backroom. A fuck buddy of mine, a cute blond boy from memphis thought he'd be funny and bent over the hood as if to "spread `em" for the cops. I don't know what possessed me....who the fuck am I kidding? I know exactly what possessed me! I ran up behind him and pulled down his shorts exposing his beautiful speedo tan lined bubble butt. I was immediately hard as a rock when I pulled out by cock and shoved it into the hilt ......no lube, no spit, just lust....and began to pump! To say the least we attracted a small crowd almost immediately!
Then began this amazing relay. Someone inside shouted to someone by the door the cops location in the bar play by play as they moved aroud. "Their by the pool table....in the bathroom.....". The guy by the door relayed this info to us. When we got the report we pulled up our shorts and backed as if nothing happened when the cops came out of the bar. They got into their cruiser and drove off none the wiser that while they were looking for "indecent activity" in the bar, some major activity was going on outside!
I've had sex in a lot of unusual places before and after that night, but I doubt that I will ever be able to "top" that night in NOLA!

on the hood of a police car in front of the "Rawhide" in NOLA during So. Deca 2000.
Cops pulled up, parked and went inside to do a "run thru" with flash lights hoping to catch guys in backroom. A fuck buddy of mine, a cute blond boy from memphis thought he'd be funny and bent over the hood as if to "spread `em" for the cops. I don't know what possessed me….who the fuck am I kidding? I know exactly what possessed me! I ran up behind him and pulled down his shorts exposing his beautiful speedo tan lined bubble butt. I was immediately hard as a rock when I pulled out by cock and shoved it into the hilt ......no lube, no spit, just lust....and began to pump! To say the least we attracted a small crowd almost immediately!
Then began this amazing relay. Someone inside shouted to someone by the door the cops location in the bar play by play as they moved aroud. "Their by the pool table....in the bathroom.....". The guy by the door relayed this info to us. When we got the report we pulled up our shorts and backed as if nothing happened when the cops came out of the bar. They got into their cruiser and drove off none the wiser that while they were looking for "indecent activity" in the bar, some major activity was going on outside!
I've had sex in a lot of unusual places before and after that night, but I doubt that I will ever be able to "top" that night in NOLA!