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@Kade6767:

So what I am asking is, why so many gay men always have to look alike, dress alike, etc.

My favorite is… "I know that accent! I've heard it before somewhere. What part of the country is he from? Oh, wait a second..."

I saw that topic over there, but I didn't reply, because they don't like replies that aren't open minded. (Example: say something like "I don't like fisting and felching." will get you pounced on.) Of course, I saw the topic here and I thought to myself, "Is someone doing some research with all of this?"

In any case, the thing I regret about being gay is being lumped in with all gay people (and then also being branded for any of their perceived negative behavior). I suppose this is as much about other gay people as it is people who lump us all into one group. But in middle America, the kind of exposure that people got for years was those wacky gay pride parades with leather daddies yanking around their 'pet' on a chain, and other over-the-top images. Take a story like gay marriage, and the local news is fed (from the national network) pictures of older mustache-men kissing. And that's what is going to be in everyone's head.

I purchase my a house, and everyone expects me to be Christopher Lowell or something. Or, because I'm gay, I'm totally defined in a sexual role that some people can't unfixate themselves from. "Gay people will have sex with any man! Hey, I know another gay guy, let me set you up. You're gay, he's gay, it is a perfect match!"

So, what I regret about being gay is the baggage that comes with the label. The image in middle America is so much more negative than positive. It drags you down.

EDIT: Typo fixed.

They're starting to make some progress on the recovery now, and they have a dummy page up at their regular website address, which invites you to their IRC forum.

I had no idea that Jamaica was so anti-gay. INFORMED! Thanks, GayTorrent.ru!