This was a very illuminating discussion. I've given away 3/4 of the seed bonus I have earned for the torrents I have appreciated. I've been blind to the "appropriateness" of the gift to a particular uploader, because I can see so little information for most members.
I am also uncomfortable with begging for points, but it's never a happy situation when you have to make more rules.
Social engineering that helps people do the right thing can also be effective.
So rather than tell people that they can't/shouldn't beg, just say they if they want to request bonus points, then the “beggars’ bonus records is made transparent to all–so that the donor can see what the requesters behavior has been. Bonus point privacy is waived if you want to ask for them. This would differentiate the needy from the whore.
For me, if I see a person is really needy, like the gift to the new user described above, I will want to given even more help.
if I knew that someone is wealthy with 4000 points they don’t need, I would send them a message or make a comment to tell them of my appreciation. Along that same line, if I have 100 bonus points and I give half of them away because I want to encourage the uploader, I would feel foolish to learn later that the uploader had 4000 bp. If they are not needed, perhaps the uploader could acknowledge the appreciation, but decline the gift. Right now, I don’t think that’s an option.