Yes, yes and yes.
The sex parties were the most disappointing. They were private parties at public venues within a lock-in approach. I spent most of the time just wandering around, not finding anyone who really took my fancy, and, unlike in a bathhouse/sauna, there's little chance that someone new would appear in the next half an hour. Instead, people would just get sated and leave, so it would slowly empty out. Maybe I would have enjoyed a more intimate party better, especially if I already knew people there. The big claim of the organiser of these parties is that they only allow in younger (18-40) guys that they deem 'fit'. It seems that our ideas of 'fit' differ somewhat in reality. Two of them were held in a sex club and the third in a bathhouse. I only actually went along to the third one because I met a guy at the second, and we agreed to meet up again. It ended up that we both felt the same about the parties and so we just met up 1-on-1 after that.
I actually started going to bathhouses just as a way to get a shower and a rest after a night out, rather than booking a hotel room for the couple of hours before my train. It transpired that other things go on there too… Most threesomes (and moresomes) I've had have been a result of spontaneous meetings in bathhouses. One of my favourites was meeting two guys who were there as friends on a quiet Wednesday night and having a threesome with both of them, along with whoever happened by our room, for the rest of the night. The only time I've had one that's been pre-arranged was after meeting a guy in a club and keeping in touch with him. On contacting him again, I found he had a boyfriend, but, rather than this putting a downer on plans to meet up, it turned it into the hottest threesome I've had, with me fucking the first guy while his boyfriend fucked me.
A lot of this has been spurned on by an exhibitionist streak I seem to have had since I was a teen. Most of the time I prefer sex in a well-lit place, ideally with others watching, but too many guys want to take things one-on-one. The only time I prefer that myself is when you get other guys persistently interfering when you've made it clear you're not interested. Then, the only option really is to take it somewhere else.
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