Is it even possible?  I started going out with a guy, and after a few dates I felt like I was 100% in the friendzone.  I'm an old fashioned guy and I don't like sex on the first date…usually...so we went out a few times and just had fun, had nice talks and so on...but I want more.  I went in for a kiss and got the head-turn away.

Should I just stop at this point? Am I in the friend zone with no escape?

Disagree completely.

Even as a gay man I don't go to many gay clubs.  I find them to be very superficial and concentrated only on outward appearance and fashion sense.

Straight men that go to gay clubs could also be homophobic, they could just be working on that particular issue in their lives.  I think homophobia would be something that's hard to express at a gay club.  Homophobia expresses itself at other venues, in daily life, at the work place, in more public places.