So there was a torrent that featured a bunch of pics and vids of a boy that was doing all sorts of gayish poses and even assplay and the commenters were going on blah blah hes so gay. Which I found lazy and ignorant. I made the case that straight boys will do lots of kinky things that doesnt mean they are gay or even bi. They could exclusively like females and not be gay or bi but still experiment.
Some commenters didnt seem able to understand what I was meaning and I didnt know if this was some wider misconception with people in and out of the gay community.
I explained how I personally have had many interesting experiences with completely straight guys that were friends. One commenter expressed astonishment about this and I further explained my perspective... I wanted to see if other generations outside millennial generations had experienced this but my observation was as in the comments was as follows:
"...after the gay marriage ruling - and leading up to it - I personally had many friends who knew i was gay, they were completely straight - and felt comfortable exploring experiences with me. Felt as though i was a 'bro' in a way but also knew i was completely judgement free, and (privately) openly gay, meaning I wasn't and never have been flamboyant.
This mix of almost exclusively straight 'bro' friends and being openly privately gay has led me to many amazing experiences with entirely straight guys who were over time comfortable enough to ask me questions privately, knowing they could trust me, and ultimately several wanting to fool around just for fun. Maybe its a millennial sort of thing? Not sure if other similar millennials had the same experience?
I fear the recent masculine backlash era we are in has changed that some"
Guys this happened with are entirely straight traditional guys. Some now with kids. All still good friends. Since high school (and even before which I really dont count messing around with other young boys when i was young) I've had many many experiences with guys that for all intents and purposes have been straight they aren't closet cases.
Not sure if this was just my experience or.... Anyhow i find it all interesting. People like to categorize everyone into boxes of sexuality when its such a more fluid gradient reality in my opinion.