@salas:

ok first, gay relationships (even marriage) is not inferior to staight relationship. In fact, gays couples are more stable than straight couples… why? because between two gay guys, they know what's going on, they know they are both sluts, and they are ok with it (i'm talking about younger couples). Older, more mature gay couples, they are very serious ans very monogamic (except for open-relationship). I know many gays couples like that.
Straight couples... not even let me start with them... All i will say is that they are crapier then gays couples most of the time.

second, Loving a man is so much fullfilling, and so intense... so pure. I'm in love myself and let me tell u that it makes me feel alive, even thought he is in belgium and i'm here in the fuckin united states...
My straight best friends (a girl) agrees with me, and some other straight guys i know agree that gay love is sometimes more honest than straight love (go figure  ???).

aw I agree, love is fulfilling.

but when people continue to perpetuate stereotypes about gay youth being promiscuous, it makes me sad.

• "they know they are both sluts"

=/ who have you been meeting?  call me an optimist, but I see the acceptance of polyamory and monogamy coexisting better in the near future.  different strokes for different folks right?

OP:

You've gotten some awesome advice so far.

true, it is kinda unclear what your specific fear is….

my only "advice for getting over [anal]" is:

1. become comfortable playing with your anus with your fingers that way you are in full control, and you can see how deep, how wide etc you like.  I advise you to wear gloves. not mandatory, but insertion is smoother, and clean-up is simpler.

2. get a toy, start small and scale up to the size cock you want to take (I recommend with vibration)

3. lots of lube, take it slow, your inner sphincter is not as controllable as your outer sphincter, so you may have your partner put pressure against it until it seemingly relaxes, and then should go smoothly.

Don't be scared!  Be curious and have fun!

@raphjd:

Some recent studies say that the average 18 - 19 year old males masturbate 7.07 times per week.  The average 20 - 35 year old male does it 6.85 times per week, with the number being reduced by 1.2 times per week for every 10 years of age after that.  I haven't seen a study that breaks down the difference between hetero and gay, though.

If you ejaculate at least 21 times per month, you are 38% less likely to get prostate cancer than a male who ejaculates only 7 times per month.  Ejaculating 7 times a month makes you 15% less likely to get prostate cancer than someone who ejaculates 3 or less times per month.

I am fascinated by all these claims. yay studies.

anyways, typical week for me would be 7 times, usually once when I go home from work or before bed.

But it's not like I'm limiting myself or trying to masturbate more or less.  For example if I take my pain medicine (which makes me unrealistically horny for some reason) I can go three or four ejaculations in one evening.

Slightly unrelated, I recently watched this speech that claimed that pornography use contributed to erectile dysfunction.  This is puzzling to me, because while I love porn, I also love just using my imagination….  rolls natural 20 Cums

@noah228:

tickling and post-orgasm polishing

I've loved tickling for as long as I could remember, so when I saw post-orgasm polishing for the first time, I was understandably intrigued and apprehensive.  Good for me, I loved it I thought it was awesome (i mean kinda torturous… but awesome)

Also, strangely enough my favorite position is definitely standing up, this combination of weak-knees and light-headedness is just swell ^_^
Be careful though, that light headed feeling can cause ya to faint if ya aren't careful

OP:

In high-school I was usually wanted to date some gay guy I met, but after my first boyfriend and I split up we stayed friends for… coming up on a decade this September.

I'm the president at my LGBT Pride club at the community college, and I have no interest in sleeping with ANY of my club members.  (that's not the point of pride club, it seems inappropriate for me to be a representative of the only active LGBT organisation in my city and be sleeping with the constituents.)  But they are my friends, and sometimes, better than family.

Honestly I don't go out of my way to make gay friends.  Mostly because I don't care much about anyone's orientation, but also because I seemingly have less in common with the gay people I meet in passing, and have severely different communication styles.  This makes having  a rewarding friendship more difficult.  Just off the top of my head, recently I met some gay guys that listened to a lot of pop music, and liked to go out to the clubs and dance... I don't like any of those things.  They are not enjoyable to me.  But I FEEL like a minority within a minority saying that.

Then again you won't see me at any gym either (maybe that's another place you can look for gay friends) IDK I'm clearly bad at this.

something about natural body odors is really arousing!  underarms smell good to me for whatever reason, I mean, to an extent (please have showered, no deodorant).  I never licked anyone's underarms yet, but I'd love to.. I bet it would kinda tickle which would be even more arousing  In this fantasy of mine, I would prefer trimmed hair as opposed to totally shaven or grown out

I don't like the smells of deodorants colognes or perfumes.  They irritate my nose, and I'd much rather people smell natural.  Also… I don't know if it's just my imagination, but every person I've ever met has a unique smell, and if I smell something familiar I instantly remember who it was.  This is not too surprising in that smell is strongly tied to memory.  And I read an article once about how people have these kinda "dust clouds" which help make up your smell (think like pigpen from peanuts) only these are microscopic and most people don't notice.  these so called "dust clouds" would be comprised of things like: skin flakes, bacteria, dander(human and pet) personal health and hygiene care products  as well as diet and sweat. It has been explained to me, that sweat while not having much smell at all, does allow bacteria to grow, thrive, and die/excrete waste on your skin, making for what most people refer to as stink, and inevitably, your unique smell profile based on your specific skin-borne fauna

I've never really gotten much into it, but I've followed some people posting pup play stuff (usually videos) on tumblr and I find it just heart-meltingly cute.  Also, I really like the masks, They can seem kinda weird at first, but the one's i've seen look kinda cute and dopey, and just happy in general like a puppy ^_^

In one video I saw in particular really stuck with me because you could see his eyes through the mask clearly, and with out being able to see the rest of his face, I could still tell his expression was this mix of glee and anticipation.  The two pups got curious and WOWEE it's just so awesome.

I can't resist contributing to this discussion because although I've been interested in SMWHSWM topic for a long time,  my curiosity begs to know more about it.

So right out of the bag people start saying labels are useless and restrictive etc.  I couldn't agree more, but the title says "straight" which is every bit a label as "Gay" "queer" what ever people are identifying as these days.

I only have anecdotal evidence for you today.  I'll use myself as an example I came out as being gay early in high school trying to own the fact that I knew I was more secure being a little different.  These days if someone asked if I were gay, I would probably say yes, but only because it makes that discussion go easier, and then we can go back to life.  I've been aroused by women but it's incredibly rare and far between and the few sexual events I've had with exclusively women felt very unsatisfying.  For this reason, I find it easier to tell people that I'm gay, as opposed to "mostly gay" or "kinda sorta bi sometimes."  I have romantic and emotional feelings for men and women both, but stronger for men, so far this is all lining up.

But then I want to address the idea that a horny guy will fuck anything (for example straight needs to fuck, will fuck a guy).  I am willing to believe that this is somewhat true, but the idea is so incredibly foreign to me.  It doesn't matter the gender of my partner, if I don't have this affectionate, emotional attachment, I can't perform ( and don't want to).  Due to these reason, I get sex from boyfriends, or long time friends, and it's gratifying but trying to find someone on an app or website, or a rendez vous with a stranger just doesn't arouse me.

Sometimes I'm jealous of people that can have more casual sex, or don't mind what gender they are sleeping with.  They make it seem like it's fun and rewarding (and easy to find?), and I don't feel any of those things in the few one-nighters I've had.

I need to talk more about this casual sex idea.  I recently was talking with a group of men, and multiples said that they hadn't masturbated since teenage/ early adulthood.  This seemed odd to me, cause if I feel like masturbating when I get home from work well.. I'm going to!   Anyways so I ask them, to explain, and they said that at a certain point in their life, they just were always going out to meet women, or had fuck-buddys or whatever, and that when they were horny they would go find a person to fuck.  This baffles me, because while I think both masturbation and romantic/emotional intercourse are amazing, I would definitely much rather touch myself than go through all the trouble of finding someone to shoot my load into(if all I'm looking for is that release).  Sounds like a lot of effort and money, and socializing.  What if you are horny so you go out to a bar or club, and you strike out, or no one of interest is there whatever, it's last call, lights come on and suddenly (because you don't masturbate) you need to find someone that will help you get off before you are asked to leave the bar…  When I proposed this hypothetical to the guys, they said that they would rather take someone to screw, that they were not attracted to, before they would go home and jerk themselves to sleep (lol).  I struggle wrapping my mind around how a person can even fuck another person if they are not attracted.  I've given it a shot a couple times and had no luck in this regard.  maybe "luck" isn't what I should call it...

writing all this, portrays me as if I have some diminished libido which seem inaccurate, only that I get arousal from affectionate, emotional, and romantic endeavors, instead of the fuck til your dick is raw style other prefer..

(Sexuality is a spectrum right?)

A poster here talks about having sex with another man because his wife is not enjoying anal intercourse.  That's fine, and I agree that I wouldn't much call that "Gay" because it seems that the arousal came from the fetishized nature of anal intercourse.  In this case I can see why gender would not matter, as all genders seem to be fully equipped with anuses.

=]

So one of my neighbors is bi, and he is married and has kids, but we still fool around sometimes, and while we aren't seeing each other romantically, or anything, at the same time, there is a weird emotional romantic element to it.  We are comfortable talking about our love for each other, but sometimes I wonder if it's accurate or if he just likes being railed from behind, as he has his wife wear strap-ons too.  Again.... labels aren't helping me make this point.

so SMWHSWM are they really straight or are they something else?  My only answer to that, is: I don't care, but I feel sad for them that they feel the need to clarify their sexual orientation.  If you are looking for homosexual relations of any kind, who gives a fuck what your orientation is.  Who you pound (or get pounded by) does not define you.  Although I will concede, to what another poster said about "if the guy is straight I want to fuck with him more..."  I totally relate to that, I have fantasies about straight guys, but at the heart of it all, the fantasy isn't that I want to sleep with someone who has no attraction to me, the fantasy is really about, having something seemingly unattainable or taboo.

oops my two cents is up.

@alrey:

@everyman:

I was 14 and it was with a classmate the same age

Way too young, bro. Did you do that at school?

Silly >.>.

Same for me, I was 14, and I met a guy at school.  To me it only makes sense to have low-risk exploration during pubescent times.

To answer the second portion of your question OP, I could count on one hand the number of people I've had penetrative sex with, but seeing as there far more ways to get off, then I'd consider I've been easily able to keep track with the 13 different partners over approximately 10 years.

Fun tip, It's easy to keep track if you have a journal for that kind of thing ;]

@timewarp:

Hey Guys,
I'm running a Macbook Pro. Looking at getting into a MMO (Massive Multilpayer Online) game and seeking suggestions.

Not really into World Of Warcraft. Would like a good free one, and one that supports gay characters?

Any suggestions would be great! Thanks

Thanks! 

yeah WoW is awful but that's beside the point here…

So Anarchy Online, while not technically having a marriage system, does host weddings in game, and I've seen many a gay marriage on it.

Alternatively, I just got into a beta-free2play MMO called Lucent Heart online, it seems to a be a revival or reboot of a game that was lost in development.
The game almost REVOLVES around social interaction.  There is a cupid system, where you are matched with a romantic prospect, and you get to choose some criteria for that match, the last of which being "straight" or "same gender".
I've finally matched with another male character on the game, and look forward to the perks the game provides for those into the cupid/matchmakin system.

@GabrielK:

Well, not the usual MMO…one gay couple storywise, a big LGBTQ base...and my personal favorite "The Secret World"

The Secret World is a blast!  but admittedly, they could have made the ONE gay couple in the game less creepy >.>