Posts made by beachbro

He stopped doing gay porn, for a while he was going around the california upper class events circuit along with some daddies. Now he works for a liquor's brand in San Diego where he lives. I think he works at a bar also, not so sure.

I'd pay to have sex with someone I'd really want to fuck, so pobably someone unattainable and out of this world hot. Sex for sex, you can get anywhere for free easily.

Definitely all black or all white. Stripy, patterned, colored look teenish to me, and I am into a more adult look. My bf has a black one with thin grey stripes that look pretty good though. So I guess there are exceptions.

I prefer the pubes to be trimmed, not shaved, a little hair is nice.

I like the balls and ass to be shaved though.

I don't buy that these guys are straight. Not at all.
They all seem to be in denial. Regarding everything.

Vadim: "lost my sports career" (because of gay porn). Really? Well if he had a sports career going on, seems like gay porn becomes more of an option, than something he needs to do.

Sean: "why the hell would you not do this?" Err, I can give him a thousand reasons not to do it. SPECIALLY if you're not into the whole thing.

Vadim: "it's so hard to come up with something that i could've done that I didn't do" Not really, for the majority of the world population, porn would be the last thing they would do (probably along with prostitution)

I'll jus do these guys a favor and never watch anything with them on again.

I met my bf through instagram, and we've been together a little over a year now.

To be completely honest I consider myself lucky, because I found someone I really love, regardless of my ideals. In other words I can say that he's not exactly the man of my dreams, and I think that applies to him also, but still, I consider him to be the love of my life and fortunately we're in sync in that matter.

I scanned through the OP's website and find that the part "what i look for in a potential boyfriend", is mostly the reason why it's so hard to find a relationship these days. I agree, to the user raphjd when he says that most people are looking for a relationship. The reason why I think it's so difficult for people to find one, is mostly because they are way too focused on their own selves, "what i look for" "What I want" "what I need", and usually those personal demands are quite delusional and unreasonable. People are not really opened to others, they don't allow themselves to be "enchanted" by whatever does not fit their ideal. Before I got to the relationship I'm in now, I went through a number of attempts in which this was clearly the case from the counterpart.

The search for a boyfriend, has become like shopping, and people like products. One little thing people find about someone and it's enough to disregard them as someone who could make you really happy.

It matters when it's either way too small or way too big.

Hello Mrmazda, now allow me to shed some light over everything that you just said.

It seems to me, and forgive if I'm wrong in what I have to say, that you have a little problem taking things personally, not being able to stand up for what you think and taking responsibility for your own actions.

Firstly, you need to stand up for what you say and think. You chose to deliberately rant and insult people here, then you apologize for that, but you still keep your words. That's immature, false and coward (not saying you're any of that, just your attitude), because if you were really sorry, you would edit your text, and say everything you said differently. If you think I'm an idiot, then you think I'm an idiot. I know myself, and whether I am an idiot or not, I would not be offended, especially by someone who doesn't know me, because if I am an idiot, I am an idiot. And if I'm not, I'm not.

I hardly think people like me are part of the reason people with HIV do not disclose their status. On the contrary, people like me SHOULD be the reason why you have to disclose your status right off the bat. Because why would you get romantically involved with someone whom you don't know will accept your condition? That's a bit self-destructive, don't you think? How are you gonna find those who do accept your condition if you're not honest about it from the very first moment?

People who are HIV+ do not disclose their status, because they have fear of rejection and being discriminated. Nothing else. Not because of me, or people like me, or whatever other reason. So take responsibility for it. Because in the world there are "people like me" and there are people who are NOT LIKE ME.  It is not my fault. Not because I am an idiot. Just because it is really not. I believe, and said it before, that there may be a very long list of things, for someone to reject you, when it comes to dating, or any other interpersonal relationship. The only way for you to find those who will accept you as a lover or a friend, is being truthful and honest about yourself.

I really don't need to explain myself, or justify myself. But I'll just do it in order to show your ilogical thinking. I am a very curious person. And I have done a great share of research on the subject. Also attended many seminars about it, in school, at work, etc. And have also spoken with a few virologists on the matter. If I knew HIV of being something that does not perversely affect my overall daily health  and does not compound my situation if I got sick, would I be the least concerned about it? It doesn't make sense.

It seems that you're the one thinking that you're the only one with feelings and emotions. Or do you think your partner threw your stuff out in garbage bags and changed the locks, because he does not have feelings? You know what you feel. But have you ever stopped to think about the way HE felt? Because that seems to me like a radical decision, and radical decisions, are usually taken, when you feel great emotion about something, and have to do something about it. Maybe he did it because he loved you too much. Maybe he thought that you got infected during your relationship and felt betrayed. Maybe he did not believe you that you got infected in your previous relationship. It seems like you want the world to feel empathetic about you, but you don't feel any empathy about the rest of the world.

Just to make it clear, and I thought I did on my first post. I DO NOT push away people who are HIV+. It is my decision, not to have a knowingly sexual relationship with someone who is. And my decision is exclusively sexual. And consequently romantical too, since in order for that to happen sex plays a great part at it. If I were to meet you right now in person, I would treat you, and relate to you just like ANY OTHER PERSON. Stop playing the whole "me against the world" thing, because not the entire world is against you. Your condition may lead you to think that, but open your eyes, there are all sorts of people in the world.

I am fully empathetic with your story, how you got infected. It is really sad to be deceived by someone you love. I really, really feel for you. And I have a friend that happened exactly the same as your story. However MrMazda, is always very easy, to blame on others, and exclude our own responsibility. And believe me, we are always responsible for whatever happens to us. Even if partially. Even if it was not actively caused by us. We ALWAYS have our share of resposibility.

My suggestion to you, is to chin up, what's done is done, whatever happened and is not in your power to change, happened. Do not look into the past. Look into the present and future. Look for the people  who will stand by you, and support you, no matter how hard that may be.

And if you ever need, feel free to pm me!

I live in Brazil, and there are groups TODAY, of people who are HIV+, commited in deliberately trasmitting the virus. It isn't a thing of the past unfortunately. It still happens today. And there are also people called bug chasers who are looking into getting infected.

Unknowingly is a lame excuse, for me. Because nowadays most people know how to get infected. If they're ignorant about it, they're generally ignorant about the difficulty of how it is to get infected (they may think they get infected by kissing, as an example). So most people know when they had a risky situation, some may think that a safe situation was risky, but usually not the contrary. And I said before, there are several centers who test for free. I used to live in LA, and there were even vans in the street doing rapid tests for free. Not knowing  your status, when you've had a risky situation, is not wanting to know. Therefore, to me, is as irresponsible and criminal as knowing it and not saying anything.

It is indeed a very sensitive matter.

I am risking sounding a little discriminating here, however I am not. I do not discriminate people who are HIV+, however I am a little paranoid with my own health and would not like to risk contracting the virus. No matter how hard it is to catch the virus, it being undetectable or not (believe me, my level of paranoia led me to inform myself of everything related, so this is not an ignorant decision from me), I would still not risk having sex with someone who is HIV+, protected or not. I would certainly like to be informed of a positive status, and that would definitely influence on my decision of having sex with that person. It is my personal decision and it cannot be taken away from me. And that decision is exclusively related to sex. Not any other type of relation.

Some people may not care, and some people might. It is NOT up to the person infected to decide that. As sensitive as it may be, it is a very simple thing.

I do not buy fear of rejection. When we are into and getting to know someone, THERE WILL ALWAYS be some sort of fear of rejection. Many superficial reasons may lead into rejection, we are living in very superficial times, people have become disposable to one another. And in my opinion, your own health is not a superficial reason. There was a brilliant skecth on Amy Schumer's show, in which she's going out on a first date with a guy, and the guy tells her he's HIV+. She does everything to sound politically correct and not discriminate the guy, as awkward as it may be, and ends up coming to the conclusion that it is not a problem for her. She then tells him she's a celiac, and the guy being a foodie, finds celiac disease pure bull****, and ends up rejecting her for being a celiac. I think this was a very funny skecth to example what I am saying.

Other thing I don't buy is the person not knowing they're infected. There are several centers everywhere, in most countries, who perform the tests for free. It's about being responsible and going to get tested when a risky situation occurs. I myself get tested every 6 months, even though I do not have relations which are considered risky. So there is no excuse not to get tested and therefore, not knowing.

It is not the role of the State to babysit people. People need to be responsible with themselves and people around them. The role of the State is to create laws to regulate and then punish those who are not responsible enough to abide by them and may put others in danger.