As others have said, experimenting/putting yourself out there is your best shot at figuring it out as well as reflecting a bit on what your experiences made you feel.

In my case I'm definitely a homoromantic homosexual male. However for some 10 years I agonized over if I'm actually bisexual or not because I never had a sexual encounter with girls even though I knew I could appreciate the female figure.

The clincher moment for me (even though I've had oral sex several times with males) was when I took a shower with my best friend's girlfriend. I had joked we should shower together after swimming because I felt I was gay and she surprisingly agreed. I looked at her and she was very beautiful but my body didn't react in the slightest.
Perhaps thats a poor example but that experience allowed me to completely affirm that I both love and would sleep with men at least 99% of the time. I still allow for the fact that it is possible that there may be a woman out there I'd go for since I've seen some masculine looking ones that I would check out at the very least.

@nickys1177:

can you be a muslin and eat pork? totally contradictory with each other

And yet it happens. Just like how christianity or catholicism or whatever tout in their book about acceptance or blah blah or doing something mundane like eating crustaceans makes you eligible for getting hit to death by stone throwing.

That aside, as I understand it there are two facets to a person's sexuality.
Romance and Sex.
That is, a person can have romantic interests that are separate from who they would choose to have sex with.

Honestly if everyone was able to think of it this way we'd all probably have more sex with less taboo. Guys could fuck whoever they felt they wanted to fuck and then go flirt with the person they potentially want to marry.

@nickys1177:

No one..there is no rule that you should really come out as gay out and out

I agree with you assuming that the reason you may choose not to come out is purely & truly because you could care less if people knew.

That aside, I think the first person to know was a girl-friend I had in middle school, 6th grade I think.

My impression of "being out" is that the person is completely comfortable in their sexuality and is open enough to admit to their sexuality when asked in an appropriate (and safe) social situation. They are also out to at least their immediate family.

If I use myself as an example, I'd say I'm out. My parents know and all my friends know. However, I don't go out of the way to share my sexuality because its not exactly something you just throw out into conversation. When people talk about who they're attracted to or such topics that is where I freely state my interests. Unless of course someone in this group stated they have strong feelings against homosexuals, in which case I keep my silence because even if I like who I am there is no sense in inviting an idiot to start harassing me.

I binge-watched Dr. Who a few years ago all the way up to the end of the 11th Doctor. I really liked the series even though what was going on was kind of lost to me at times.

Lets see… people are more or less free to say whatever the hell they want on social media. So if they want to point out that they only want white dick and risk being framed as a racist or something that is perfectly okay in terms of their freedoms. Being direct is better than to lead people on and if you're the type that likes a specific ethnicity more than others then you will naturally choose to pursue them in a in-person situation anyways.

In the frame of "okay" in terms of what it means socially, then the answer is no, its not okay. Homosexuals are already persecuted by the societies they live in, its ironic that we go out of our way to do even more to one another.

My approach is what everyone else already does on apps like that, if I'm not interested in someone I don't reply. If they're insistent then instead of simply ignoring them I politely explain that I'm not interested. It seems like the hardest thing for gay guys to do on these apps is to actually say "no". Its something about not hurting anyone's feelings but to me it seems to be much worse to unintentionally lead someone on because you couldn't just say what you're really thinking.

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If you'd like to chat about fun stuff like fantasies then lets add each other as friends!

Compatibility/Chemistry, Cooperation, Communication, Compromise.

Assuming there are these factors being handled well between two people there shouldn't be an issue regardless of age.

However, I think the point where one partner needs to be "taken care of" is where the line should be drawn. What I mean is that they truly need to be taken care of, being paid for, given a place to live, etc and they do not contribute anything and barely have means to make something of themselves. Basically if the weight of responsibility is heavily one-sided on the older guy then that partner is too young, regardless of his actual age.

From what you say I am assuming you may be Asexual, Demisexual or Pansexual.
Asexual being that you truly have no sexual attraction to either male/female
Demi being that you need a strong emotional bond before attraction
Pan being that you may not care for their genitalia nor their gender-identity and may end up liking them for who they are

By the way everything I'm saying here is by my own logic and understanding of sexuality, I do not have formal training in psych/sexuality aside from what I've done for my major in college.

In any case you may be one of the above or something else, you'd have to do more research on these however.

That aside, it is possible that you have a narcissistic attraction to yourself. As I understand it, regardless of sexuality it is entirely normal to do something like looking at yourself in the mirror while masturbating. Of course you know yourself best you know how to please yourself and you probably really like how you look physically. Nothing wrong with that.

I suppose its really a pretty complicated thing. It could be that because you haven't known anyone else your best choice is you and therefore you turn yourself on. If you end up dating someone and after getting close you prefer to fantasize them instead of yourself then your current issue is just from lack of experience.

Then on the other side of it even if you do date someone what will matter is your perspective on it… That is, did you get with that person because they happen to look very similar to you and that was the majority of the reason you're together? Whether yes or no the other part is that even if you did get close with someone else if you still prefer to exceedingly turn to fantasies of yourself versus your partner then it is most likely that you're narcissistic.

I believe that the true meaning of incest is that the two persons having sex must be related by blood.
Everything else is simply two people banging who happen to belong in the same extended family by someone's marriage.