How do you feel after coming out? Any experiences?
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How do you feel after coming out? Any experiences?
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I felt relieved Like this giant burden was lifted from me. OF course I was afraid before but was lucky to get a very positive reaction. All in all it was much better to come out
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Relieved, most of the times; hornier, other times
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Well the one time that it did feel like coming out went like this.
It was a co-worker of mine and she is a really cool person in general but she decided to not ask directly.
So she was like "hey talk to me about yourself etc". At which point we had a conversation about exes and stuff and while I was telling my story I did pause and told her "btw I am referring to a he, I think you already know". And she was like "reallyyyy???" hahahaha… I am pretty sure she has plenty of awareness on these matters and definitely could tell but she probably did not want to make a suggestion that might have been unwarranted.
But it did feel rewarding because one moment we are both skirting away from the actual fact and then I'm like "fuck it why am I even hiding it from this girl, she is cool for sure".
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Coming out cured my depression. I can't imagine being closeted again.
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kinda embarrassing but proud at the same time
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Obviously coming out is different to everyone, but I found that different situations meant that I was "coming out" multiple times. So what I mean by this is that whilst I told my close friend group and felt relieved because I was able to be more "myself" around them, I also came out to my parents, and work colleagues on separate occasions.
I'd say that in 99% of situations, it's better for your mental health, but it also isn't for everyone as well. My personal experience was that I didn't feel like I could come out to my parents until I was independently away from home with a solid car and a job for fear of being kicked out and disowned like all the horror stories you hear of. That's certainly far from what happened, but sometimes you just hype yourself up that way and it was a huge relief lifted off my shoulders after feeling like I had been hiding my true self.
I also adopted a strategy early on that I wouldn't hide and if anyone asked if I was gay, I'd tell them straight up and not dodge the question, but if they asked if I had a girlfriend, I wouldn't make excuses or anything, just say no, and if people pressed and asked why, tell them straight up I liked guys. It was much better than hiding and dodging and less tiring trying to fake a smile when someone would say "no worries, mate, you'll meet the right woman soon".
There was a running joke at work for a little while when I was in a relationship and my work colleagues noticed my mood lifted and they kept asking me, so who's the lucky girl, and I'd just joke and say "Me!". Because I was playing coy they termed me "under new management" and were very surprised when I introduced my then "boyfriend" as "new management"
We all had a good laugh and life rolled on because everyone through i was straight and it became an in-joke for others that didn't know in the building that didn't work in the team I was in.
