Do you have a good gaydar?
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Dunno - never tested it on real people.
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Not in my case. I'm very bad at identifying gay people around me...
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PS: The torrent for "Boy Meets Boy" is an unnecessarily large DVD/ISO file. If you want it in .avi/.mp4 format, let me know and I can share it.
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Problem with such shows is that you cannot really check them - their supposed orientation could be designated at random (or specifically) by screenwriters with the real thing being completely irrelevant.
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@fezobe said in Do you have a good gaydar?:
Problem with such shows is that you cannot really check them - their supposed orientation could be designated at random (or specifically) by screenwriters with the real thing being completely irrelevant.
That's true; like porn, they're fiction. But I can say that I lived in Los Angeles for a while and hooked up/dated one of the gay-identified guys from "Boy Meets Boy," and he was most definitely gay. (No, I'm not going to say which one, out of respect for his privacy.)
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I used to have good gaydar in the early 80s. But, somehow things have changed, and it's become more difficult for me. Our culture as changed significantly, and now we have more trans people that exists more than ever. I think it takes a lot more careful observation to spot a gay guy nowadays. (just my opinion).
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@anythingold said in Do you have a good gaydar?:
Our culture has changed significantly, and now we have more trans people that exists more than ever. I think it takes a lot more careful observation to spot a gay guy nowadays. (just my opinion).
I agree. A radical take on this would be from the [late] sociologist Michel Foucault, himself a gay man, who saw "gay," "lesbian," and "bisexual" as social constructs, rather than actual categories of people. He didn't deny that GLB people exist, only that they were sociologically more similar to "left-handed people" who aren't a social category. (This is a simplification of his view.)
I'm not saying I agree with him, but it's an interesting idea to consider.
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I'm like the Highlander. I can sense when a fellow gay is near.
That said...every now and then I encounter a bisexual and they don't always ping.
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Nope, especially as the years go by and straight guys generally become more metrosexual and gay guys are just as lazy about things like shaving and dressing nicely. And of course for the past decade plus, straight guys have generally become more accepting about things like kissing a guy non-sexually, hugging, holding hands, etc.
I went to a group thing yesterday and every man there was gay and some of them could have easily passed for breeders at some mall or on a TV show.
Gaydar is meaningless now other than maybe so you can cruise in public. I've always lived in large cities where folks can be open so it's pointless for me to develop but I can see someone in the middle east or Russia/China, etc. needing to cultivate it.
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I have excellent gaydar.. even with closeted gay people.. even with people who don't even realize they are gay yet.
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On the most part I do, but there's the odd person from time to time that I either think is gay and isn't, or that I don't think is gay and turns out that they are. Most of the time though, I'm good at being able to call it just by talking to a person.
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@lololulu19 So even with pregnant women who have future gay babies waiting to be born?
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I have a superlative one. It rarely fails. It either gets me the action I want or it gives me the trouble I'm not asking for. Not only that, but it's been my whole life's experience that I somehow attract straight men. Most of my long term relationships are with straight men that are married. Maybe they are bisexual. When I ask them why, they all have the same answer. It's my character, they say they feel comfortable with me and since I am straight-acting it's a plus.
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I tend to assume most guys are gay or questioning until proven 100% straight.
The last time I started a new job there were 4 other men on my team, and I immediately decided what level and under what circumstances each would mess around with another guy.Now do I know if any of those theories were correct? Of course not, but I definitely like to do that with new guys I meet now.
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yes and no. I think in general men have become more comfortable in expressing their femininity so it's hard to tell who is straight or gay anymore
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its very hard to know if the closeted gay is gay but those gays who are out are easy to detect
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@jokuihmemies my gaydar is excellent. In fact, sometimes I know when someone is gay before they do!
My best friend of 6 years just started taking it up the ass 8 months ago.
