How scared of coming out were you?
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Pretty cautious, not necessarily scared. I had my reasons and I wasn't convinced that I had to "come out", because I had a sneaking suspicion that the all those who believed so strongly in heteronormativity wouldn't get it. I was right. However, it feels good when family members, friends, or random strangers affirm my choices, whether they do so in private or in public.
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i was pretty freaked out at first. It does get easier the more confident you are about yourself and your sexuallitiy. And it also depends who you come out to and how much importance you put on that person.
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For me it was easy to come out. My mother caught me in bed with my boyfriend. She was suposed to be with her man. It was in the early 90s. I was 19 and my boyfriend (today my husband) was 32. She open my bedroomdoor and i was standing toward the door on my bed on all four, with my boyfriend fucking me from behind.
"Okey so youre fucking" was all she said. "When youre done, we can talk" and closed the door. Afterwards we talked (well first she wasnt thrilled about he was 13 years older than me) but she want to know if we protected us. And when we said, we are only with each other, she answered "Thats okey. You dont have to spend money on condoms!" She also said "No iknow where you went every time you were out with "a friend" I didnt have many or (any at all) friends when i grow up.
When i asked if i could follow my boyfriend home, he lived by him self. She said ofcourse. And asked if i would stay over. " I guess you two dont get mutch sleep" she smiled. I was so red in my face when we left. But we hadnt left the driveway before i take out my boyfriends cock and sucked him while he was driving.
My father died when i was young, and he was religious, so i didnt have to come out for him.
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I definitely was nervous. I came out to my best friend. I knew that she would be accepting but there's always that 1% that she would reject me. Luckily she accepts me for who I am and we still joke about the day.
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Very nervous at first. My cousin was the first person I told and I remember my voice choking up as I continued talking, but I just followed through with it and told her everything. So glad I did it - it’s a very good feeling afterwards, like huge deadweight lifted off your shoulders. Very supportive too!
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I'm scared of losing friends, or alienating them. I've had three friends abandon me after I blurted it out that I was semi-maybe-bi back in senior year.