In Love with a straight guy?
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Hi
I am 18 years old and I have crush on a person who is in his mid-fifties. I am so obsessed with him that I can't sleep, I can't eat and just think about him all day. He is a teacher in my school and he likes me as a student. I really want to hook up with him but there is a problem. HE IS STRAIGHT and MARRIED and has 3 kids. He is the only person I have ever loved and I love him so much that just can't stop thinking about him. I want to have SEX with him but I am afraid that he might refuse. Can you please advise me (on how to persuade him to have sex with me
).Thank you
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You are in lust not love ~ trust me on this. This is a bad idea that only works in porn and could ruin your life and his.
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Attempting to hook up with one of your teachers is bound to get messed up along the road.
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if it is lust, there must be a way to keep me from it
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There is a way ~ man up and do the right thing ~ use the Big Head not the little head to control your actions. I could tell you stories about myself but the point is learn from some one who did the wrong thing and learned the hard way. Hell we all went to the school of hard knocks because we did not take good advice when offered. Life's goal is to spend as little time at Hard Knocks Uni as possible. Maybe you will learn this sooner than later.
I so wish that this would become a Porn scenario that would end with him leaving his wife moving you to Gay Paradise and living happily forever after. It won't. That is fantasy not real life. These things never end well. Some one will be hurt, if not everyone. I would rather that you not be hurt by lust mistaken for love.
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While we are all but volunteers on this tracker, there are professionals who can help you with your feelings. I'm not sure about where you are but here in the USA there are plenty of free teenage help lines you can call that have people ready to help you evaluate your emotions and deal with them.
If you do not address these feelings they will turn from lust to resentment and ultimately revenge. The man you desire does not deserve to be put in that position….especially if he has ZERO knowledge of it.
If you cannot find a counselor or other professional to help you anonymously please send me a PM and I will help you get in touch with one in your area.
Finally remember that this is not your 50 year olds fantasy's fault. He did not ask to be the object of your affection. Nor is it your fault. Sometimes our desires can warp what is real and reasonable.
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dont try anything you can put his job at risk.
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I've gone through the same thing, and I agree it can be a living hell. I'm afraid theres nothing you can do. You might want something more, but if you try and fail, I can't ensure the outcome. I've lost a very dear friend in the past over merely the fact that I had feelings for him. I told him I wanted nothing more, and merely wanted to be honest with him, but he still was never comfortable around me again. Do not risk what you have now over something so meaningless.
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Are you writing that you want your teacher, who is married and has 3 children?
Well, keep going your life, forget that man and try to live your own sexuality.
You are 18 y.o. and in your life you're going to meet a lot of married men of middle age maybe free and maybe better than your teacher.
Avoid bad thought and try to find a wat to live your life, too.
Life for you will be bright, don't worry :hug2:
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I know how hard can be trying to control your feeling for him, but… don't let them make you do anything stupid.
Try to understand what make you feel that way. I mean, which characteristics of him drive you crazy.
Maybe you should try to have some sort of sexual relief with somebody that looks like him.
At least, try...In the end, if you feel that things are not working, try to find some professional help.
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Hi
I am 18 years old and I have crush on a person who is in his mid-fifties. I am so obsessed with him that I can't sleep, I can't eat and just think about him all day. He is a teacher in my school and he likes me as a student. I really want to hook up with him but there is a problem. HE IS STRAIGHT and MARRIED and has 3 kids. He is the only person I have ever loved and I love him so much that just can't stop thinking about him. I want to have SEX with him but I am afraid that he might refuse. Can you please advise me (on how to persuade him to have sex with me ).Thank you
As another poster before me said this is lust and not love. But if you cant get the idea out of your head you should at least wait until you are no longer his student and he is no longer your teacher. I have no real great advice for you because I have had a dull life compared to this brave plan of yours ;=)
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Why make life complicated? I would say that if he even makes advances toward you, be a man and walk away from him. The worst thing you could do is put the three kids at risk. I would not want to develop a reputation for being a homewrecker.
I would also probably say that if your teacher would ever have wanted to experiment with his sexuality, he would have done it 30 years ago and not be up for it today.
Move on, find a great guy, or find a new friend and you'll be much better off.
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Straight or Gay, chasing someone who can't/doesn't love you back is a dead end road. But it makes you human. I agree you might want to get some counseling for the inevitable phase of grief/depression that follows a shattered illusion of love. Most major cities have a Gay Center of some type that can steer you in the right direction. You can also probably find one online. Good luck!
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We cant always get what we want. I had a teacher like that in grade school…many years later I still think of him and have cum MANY times thinking of him.. the pain fades, but the arousal is still there. Hang in there!
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Poor kid, I think you just love him because in your deep mind you can not own him. So do not misunderstanding your true feelings, and by the way, it is definitely wrong to seduce married man.
