Is it racist to post that you're not interested in black/asian/other non-whites?
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No as long as you make your point without being rude, for instance, I cannot stand other blondes or men with blue eyes, those are my features and I don't like them for I don't feel atracted to them, my brother married a brunette and my other brother dates a redhead so that's a family tray it seems. Am I being ugly because I say that? In the end is how you say those things and if there's a point, you can just excuse yourself and don't answer at all. It's better than being either ugly or rude, I don't care about that but in the end you fuck what you like.
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I think if were going to be honest here, we are all racist to a certain extent.Some more than others.I much prefer to have sexual relations with my fellow UK anglo saxons than other Euros(preferably Nordic types)then southern Europeans but NEVER with with any other races apart from the exception of some Japanese guys.As a person who thinks multiculturalism is the biggest evil known to mankind,I avoid contact with all non europeans living in Europe and only acknowledge them due to respect for fellow human beings.I do not blame them for wanting to better themselves by trying to get to western countries and making new lives for themselves but the real blame lies in the hands of liberal whites who should be tried for treason for facilitating their garbage ideology.I'm not here to make friends with anyone but when I continually listen to the utter crap that some gays spout and think we all think along with them then I feel someone has to put the record straight here.YES! I AM A RACIST and most people,80% at least think along the same lines as myself.The MSM are literally DYING a quick death due to their inability to understand how real people think.You can flood the TV with adverts with 50% of adverts of people race mixing,movies with black man beaten by white man wins in the end,Period tv shows set in the English countryside from the 1800's with quota actors.Spot the white Newsreader or weather(PERSON)man/woman.In a country that's over 90% or more in parts, this is just asking for trouble.My predictions for all of this are not pretty for the the future. We will either form new countries which will be white only when it becomes insufferable to live beside other races due to the collapse of the welfare system in 5-10 years due to the rapid mechinization of the workplace and mass unemployment of unskilled workers.The other option which is the worse one is that we start 'removing' people from Europe by denying them resources and don't for one minute think what happened to the Jewish people couldn't happen again.Remember we Brits INVENTED concentration camps.We killed thousands of fellow whites (Boers)in this camps.If I was coloured I would be seriously thinking of my options and getting the hell out of western lands ASAP.
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Yes. It's 100% racist to say no asians, no black and etc. You are allowed to have preferences. Everyone has those. You are not, however, allowed to make racist generalizations about entire races based on the stereotypical physical attributes you believe that race has which is based entirely upon your own bigoted experiences with specific people from said race. When you make racist statements like this you are literally saying I would never find myself attracted to more than 5 billion men that I have never even met or seen in my life. There are skinny asians, fat asians, hairy asians, muscular asians, submissive asians, dominant asians, dark skinned asians, light skinned asians, asians with a wide variety of facial structures. For you to say that you would never be attracted to even one of these asians is straight up racist. Period. That said, you have every right to be racist, because you can do whatever you want. What you shouldn't do is make your racism known. It is very damaging to young people of color who are still trying to figure out their self worth to see profile after profile that says no asians or no blacks. What this does is it sends an implicit message to these young gay boys that they are unattractive entirely because of what race they are apart of. If you want to make your preferences known, make them known. Say, I generally go for white guys, or I generally go for ____. Don't say, no [insert race here] as if we're walking past a segregated store window from the Jim Crow era.
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its a preference
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Of course it is racist and discriminatory. That said, everyone discriminates, and it takes balls to admit it. Also I believe that talking about race is racist, since you are acknowledging the existence of people categories based on physical traits. Personally I think this is bull-crap, but that is another topic.
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lets say…..if an asian is against other asians.....that makes him a racist? and he is into whites....latinos....middle easterns.....and sometimes hot blks....but just no asians.....
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I think it depends on how you say it and how you act toward other people. If you say it like I only like white guys and are still respectfull toward others, then this isn't racism. It's just your taste. But if you call people names or something like that, that's racism.
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Sorry, but the answer is yes. By definition, stating preferences by race is racist. Also, the huge diversity within one "race" (remember this is a term that was made up by colonialist Europeans to explain why they were genetically superior to others) makes it a bit odd, at least to me, to say that you are categorically not interested.
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I look at potential playmates on a case by case basis. Further, I'm attracted to a combination of physical features and personality. If I'm being totally honest, there are some ethnicities or "races" if you will where I don't find many attractive guys. At the same time, I don't find it necessary to make a blanket statement like "no [whatever race]". If I don't find a guy attractive, I just say, "No thank you," or something to that effect. That's just my approach and my experience. Other people may have completely different experiences and may feel the need to make the statement up front. It can be unpleasant to hear. I know I've felt stung by people who have very bluntly refused me because they think I'm too old. In summary, two things: 1. I don't think we can really help who we're attracted to or not. 2. No one has to be rude or hurtful about refusing an interest.
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It's not racist, but I would say it doesn't reflect well on you. At the very least, it seems superficial and rather tactless. Or at least, it does to me.
When you say something in a public forum, people may draw conclusions about you. They may draw conclusions about your depth of character, your intellectual capacity, your personal beliefs, your maturity and wisdom (or lack thereof). They may form conclusions about whether you are the kind of person they would like to get to know, or even meet fleetingly.
This goes a lot further than just the simple question of whether something is or is not racist. Another poster on this thread has said the following:Personally I would never date a Muslim, won't even be friends with them. And this poster defends this statement on the grounds that it is not racist. This is probably correct: the comment is not racist, but to my mind it reveals quite a lot about the character of the person who wrote it, and some readers will draw conclusions about him (I will assume it is a male - I don't know many women who write such things) on the strength of it.
Finally, I would add that while it is true that we all have preferences (and perhaps even prejudices!), we don't necessarily all have to say everything that we think. The fact that we may have the right to say something doesn't mean that it's a good idea. There is something to be said for moderating things we say, not only out of a wish to avoid causing offence (what we old-fashioned types used to call 'politeness' and is now sometimes labelled 'political correctness'), but also because we recognise that things we say might come back to bite us. It's not always bold and brilliant and daring to say something just because it's true. Sometimes it's just being a jerk.
Yes I am male, and what exactly does not liking Muslims reveal about my character? That I can think rationally and critically about things instead of blindly accepting that everything and everybody in the world is nice/good thing or person? That I prefer to stay away from people who have extreme religious views that could endanger my life? Because those are the only things I can see it "revealing about my character". Just think about the Orlando attack. You don't see Buddhists or Hindu's or any other religious groups committing such atrocities. So I guess apologize for not being politically correct and having an opinion based on events currently happening around the world, bad me for being an informed citizen ::) I guess having an informed opinion and speaking about it in a forum that specifically asks about the topic makes me a jerk too… jeez.
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Normally I just kind of lurk… but reading some replies has managed to get my blood pumping so i guess i gotta respond.
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No putting "no blacks or Asians or what evs" is not racists... If a guy is not into those races/ethnicity then they just arn't. They all have their "reasons" why they are not interested... some may be shallow some may have deep subconscious reasons. but it is their tastes ... and there is nothing wrong with it (after all if a gay man doesn't like women it does not mean he is a misogynist.) you can't (shouldn't) go around shaming them for their preferences.
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To the guy who says its discrimination... That's wrong... you are not entitled to sex with a person... as such if someone does not want to spend time with you regardless if its because of your skin tone, politics, lifestyle, hygiene, fashion, personality. its again their right and you nor i can dictate or should make them feel guilty for whom ever they decide to or refuse to spend time with or have sex with... Rejection hurts. Get over it move on... its not discrimination because again you are not entitled to people... its not like a job where there's an expectation that as long as you fill the qualifications you are entitled to a job, position, seat or what ever. I can only assume you've never experienced discrimination if you think that some dude not wanting to date/sex you because he isn't interested/turned on by your skin color is discrimination. Or you're just some shallow person who wants to guilt some dude into having sex/spending time with you.
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To the guy who tried to say that... guys put that because media and society is going around pushing some idea of white beauty... you are also wrong. I'm not saying porn or basic media isn't full of white guys(it is....) although ironically its filled with varying types of guys with VERY different physical appearances to just boil it down to "generic white guys". I mean that the theory that white guys being common in media as the reason for guys (people) not finding "non whites" unattractive doesn't have weight when you consider that billions of guys(PEOPLE) are bombarded with these images are actually attracted to non whites...so that theory doesn't hold that much sway.
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You guys also need to take into account that UNWANTED affection (aka someone your not attracted to being attracted/hitting on you) is Honestly the worse. I am a long time sufferer of that. ever since i was 16 (younger too) I've had old guys 65+ constantly hit on and proposition me both on online dating apps/sites and real life. Its like im cat nip for grandpa types.... I dunno if they all have some weird Latin fetish, or maybe my resting sad face makes them think i'm emotionally weak enough to fall prey to their advances. But boy do i get constant barrages of it... (and I've tried to do it with an older guy and i came out of it feeling like i was molested... he was pushy, made me uncomfortable, wasn't even pleasurable and i felt more like i was a living flesh light for his enjoyment then a partner... till this day i have Vietnam level flashbacks and i wasn't even in nam.) I'm a nice person... mother taught me to be polite and i fell into the trap of try it once (stupid green eggs and ham story)plus i was young and stupid. I put on my profile no one old enough to be my grandpa (i actually am okay with older guys just not grandpa level old)and i get messages saying im ageist, people telling me one day you gonna get old and wont have your looks. So i 100% sympathize with guys who state their preferences. and this isn't even takeing into account all the blocks you have to hand out to weed these people out.
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People need to stop getting personally offended by things and toss out buzzwords like Racist, homophobia, and misogynist. Im pretty sure 95% of the guys who put no black or what not are not racist. they would never treat someone else like they are sub human (short of bdsm stuffs). or even less then. So to call these guys racist is unfair to people who actually have to experience racism. and its unfair to force people to i dunno date someone they are not attracted to (for what ever their reason whether legitimate , based on ignorance / misinformation or foolishly believing stereotypes) because there's a .000001(gross over exaggeration and i mean it in appearance I.E. a tall Mexican) chance that some individual might be an outlyer in his ethnicity and is not like the others. and he should what? try it. Just like straight people who say that a gay guy isn't gay he just hasn't met the right girl yet to give him good "pussy?" these "no Asian" guys haven't met some Asian guy to give him good Asian dick (or booty) and turn his life around?
6) Never mind the hypocrisy of how an Asian guy can exclusively only be attracted to white guys and its somehow acceptable. Its come to a point that when ever i see a topic about racism it somehow only ever talks about or uses white people as an example(as if racism has changed meaning to something only white people can do.) ... and ignores that there are black people who also put no Asians, no whites or no Latino aswell. Or the black guys who only want white guys.
I totally agree with everything this poster said and couldn't have said it better myself! Thanks for this post :cheers:
Personally I am getting really tired of the hypocrisy myself and seeing other cultures/ethnicities (NOT RACES BECAUSE THEY DON'T EXIST) constantly bashing on white people, as though white people are the only ones who discriminate. Meanwhile by centring-out (Canadian Spelling) white people you become just as prejudice, if not more prejudice, than all these white people you claim are doing the "racism". It's really sad and pathetic how people's minds work sometimes. In the same breath they can contradict themselves and use that as "evidence" for their arguments, sad.
And just for clarification again for all those who don't understand the concept of "race", race in biological terms is defined as:
(biology) race - a population within a species that is distinct in some way, especially a subspecies.
*note the "especially a subspecies" part of that definition. If you know anything about human biology we are all ONE SPECIES, there are no subspecies that exist in the HUMAN RACE, therefore it is impossible to actually be "racist". Discrimination, bias, and prejudice all do exist though, and those words should be used to describe someone who takes negative actions against a certain culture, sex, ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation, etcetera.
Saying you have an attraction for a certain skin tone, facial feature, or way of life by no means makes you "racist", it doesn't even make you prejudice, it simply means you have a preference. End of story.
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I've never been with any asian guys because I've never met any asian guys that I've felt attracted to, so I always thought they weren't my type. But then, one day I got this Japanese co-worker… The dude is a mountain, a fucking hunk, prime beef. And I've been lusting after him ever since, but sadly, he has a girlfriend. So I guess I'm not anti-asian. I'm just anti-not hot.
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I've never been with any asian guys because I've never met any asian guys that I've felt attracted to, so I always thought they weren't my type. But then, one day I got this Japanese co-worker… The dude is a mountain, a fucking hunk, prime beef. And I've been lusting after him ever since, but sadly, he has a girlfriend. So I guess I'm not anti-asian. I'm just anti-not hot.
Is it superficial to post that you're not intrerested in guys that are not hot?Even if it is superficial, which it's not because we all have a different opinion about what we find attractive, who cares? I don't know why people feel like they have a right to tell other people how to think or act and then get upset with other people don't think or act like they do. Get a life people and stop worrying about what other people are doing/thinking, mind your own business! I say be as superficial as you want, it's no-one else's damn business!
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Yes , it is. You dont have to mention "not this, not that", You can only say "I am attracted to White people exclusively" and that is it, perfectly clear for everyone to understand and free of unnecesary , Rider and unsensitive pointing info that nobody Cares anyway.
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I personally think it's racist only based on why you wrote it. If you have a dislike of that group of people (sexually and non-sexually) then it's racist. The motivation behind you writing this matters. However, if you don't explain your motivation, you can assume that some will for sure make the assumption that the statement is racist.
The important thing here in my opinion is that people argue that these things are racist opinions but they usually are just sexual preferences. As a black man that is mostly sexually attracted to white men, I've been called many negative things and even been accused of being racist against my own race. I'm usually able to quite them quite quickly by explaining that i get turned on (or hard if you prefer) by white guys and I can control what turns me on any more than they can. If we could control who we are attracted to, some (maybe most) gay guys would have chosen women because it seems to be an easier choice given the discrimination (name calling, shaming… etc) gays face. I think this point of view usually puts them "in my shoes" and I've very often had people apologize to me and understand how they were chastising me over a choice I didn't necessarily make.
One more point I'd like to make on this issue... as I mentioned earlier, motivation matters. When I post an online ad, I say something like "sexually I prefer white guys." This explains my motivation for the preference (and it would even if i said I preferred black guys) and it also makes a positive statement, rather than a negative one. When you choose to say things in a way perceived as negative, I think negative connotations are sometimes subconsciously (and consciously) attached to the type of person you are. The only thing guys have to base their opinion of you on is your profile and thus, I think choosing to make points about what you like, rather than what you don't (in all areas, not just racial preference) is the better choice when presenting yourself to those who may read your profile/ad.
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I'd say no. Personally, I'm not even vaguely attracted to Asians. I'm definitely most attracted to white guys. It has nothing to do with their skin color, just various physical traits I do or don't find attractive. There are also plenty of white people I don't find attractive, for one reason or another, or a few rare people of other ethnicities that I do find very attractive, but it just boils down to white people being far more likely to have the features that I like.
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It's 100% racist. I think anyone who attempts to say that they are disinterested in a whole race of people is more racist than they'd like to admit, and is trying to make themselves feel better about their blatant disregard for a whole race. Think of how many times you see "no black" or "no asian", and then think about how many times you've seen "no whites"… The difference is quite obvious. Every time someone says they aren't interested in a whole race, it's almost always people of color. Are people trying to imply that whites are better looking than everyone else? Does that imply that whites are better than everyone else? Doesn't that sound kind of racist to you?
I myself don't typically date people of the same race as me, and neither has my boyfriend. However, we both have talked about instances of us being attracted to people of the same race as us. Yes, we both admit that they are rare instances of attraction, however neither one of us has completely disregarded a whole race as not attractive, because it's not possible to have judged every single member of a race. If you think you aren't attracted to a race, you're solely judging on stereotypes such as "chink" eyes, or big noses or big lips. If I didn't date white guys solely because I think every white guy has small lips and a small dick, I'd look pretty insensitive and ignorant, and like an overall jackass.
I think it's fair to say that not everyone in a certain race is gonna appeal to you. I think it's also safe to say that members of one race are going to appeal to you more than members of another race. That's fine, not everyone has to be your cup of tea. But to say a whole race of people doesn't interest you is just ignorant. Think of how many different looking white people there are... Would it be fair to say that you aren't interested in any of them? It's exactly the same with different races.
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Actually… as an Asian guy, I do feel a bit jilted when I see something like that... but, I don't think it's racist... merely stating a preference
Anyhooo... like someone said previously, maybe choice of wording can be less blatant...
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As an Asian, i often get rejected simply because I'm an Asian. I guess it's a preference after all (and YES i do get upset by things like this). Though technically speaking, this is being racist. Because a person is discriminating against a race (simple as that!)
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As an Asian, i often get rejected simply because I'm an Asian. I guess it's a preference after all (and YES i do get upset by things like this). Though technically speaking, this is being racist. Because a person is discriminating against a race (simple as that!)
asian too, I think that just a preference of human being, all of us will feel more comfortable with similar race. that's the results of evolution.
