Have you ever ended a relationship because your partner cheated on you?
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Have you ever ended a relationship because your partner cheated on you?
That's a question which should lead to a quite interesting discussion, isn't it?::)
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Have you ever ended a relationship because your partner cheated on you?
That's a question which should lead to a quite interesting discussion, isn't it?::)
None of my relationships ended due to that reason, although if any cheating happened, it was on my end for sure. I'm pretty sure the next relationship I enter will be an open/poly type of arrangement because of my tendency to cheat.
Now, if I was in a closed relationship and caught my partner cheating, I still don't think I'd end it. Yeah, I'd be pissed off that he didn't talk about his urges with me but I don't think it's a deal breaker if I really care for him and if he does care for me too (and made a lapse in judgment). Everyone makes mistakes. But if he's a prick about, then I'd kick him to the curb.
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Yes, but looking back on things that was not the main reason, not really, it was really messed up, it was our first relationship for both of us but still, it hurt, a lot…
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yes but i was the cheater, always. now i'm in an open one.
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I cheated on my first boyfriend. I told him when he asked and we broke up.
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Never actually had this happen to me, but I conducted a study a few years back for a book I was writing and determined the cheating is most often a symptom of a relationship where there is a lack of appreciation being expressed by one or both of the partners within the relationship. Now you also have to take into account the fact that the lack of appreciation experienced within a relationship is really a matter of personal perception of the participating partners within the relationship. So you have to consider the various different personality types when you draw this conclusion as a person who rates very high for in the "ego" category (i.e. an egotistical person) will never feel they are being fully appreciated within a relationship. As a result in some cases this is a problem that can be resolved simply by expressing the appreciation that you have for all the things your partner brings into your life. In other's however you could bow down before them every time they enter the room and it still wouldn't be enough for them. I'd say take a good look at your relationship and your partner before considering any option, cause in the long run trying to save the wrong relationship could be far more detrimental than ending the relationship and starting fresh with someone new.
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Yes, I have.
And the bastard had the nerve to say it was unfair for him to have to only sleep with me because he was bisexual.
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Yes I have. It was a very short relationship, thank God we had not moved in together. Sex in a relationship is good and healthy but this guy was a "sex-aholic". Apparently he wanted a monogamous relationship where I was to be faithful and he could do what he wanted, but to my understanding it was to be a monogamous relationship. I used to spend Sunday afternoons with him at his home. Every Sunday at about 5PM he started hinting how tired he was, that he had to get up early for work…blah, blah, blah. So I would let him have his space and go home.
I usually called him when I got home and sometimes never got an answer. We spent the weekend at his home about 4 months into the relationship and I was helping him clean house. I offered to do his laundry. I was sorting clothes and noticed many pairs of his underwear with cum stains in his crotch, I said nothing but began to wonder. I mean it wasn't like a drip or so...it was major staining. I went on about my business. We would see each other about 5 times a week, spending the night at each others homes. Sometimes while he was at my home he would get phone calls and step out of the room " oh it was my boss" or "oh it was my best friend having a crisis". Once he even had to leave because he had a gut feeling something was wrong at his house. I started to become suspicious. One Sunday when he pulled the "I am fading and getting tired/work early crap" I thought okay, I am going to park down the block for about an hour and see if he leaves. Low and behold about 15 minutes after I left I see him pull out of his driveway. I follow him at a distance. He ended up at an adult bookstore. I waited till he went in and till he came out 2 hours later. I was fucking furious. No wonder he never wanted sex on Sundays.
When he got to his car, I walked up and confronted him. He turned a shade of white I had never seen before. All I said was" caught ya" and walked off. I ended the relationship the next day and went to the doctor immediately. He gave me an STD. I then went on craigslist and wrote an ad in the "men seeking men" section, saying that if you have been with this man you need to go get checked. I got over 100 responses saying they had either sucked his dick or had been fucked by him. I contacted the TX department of health as well. Come to find out he had been going to the bookstores, bath houses and posting ads on craigslist. He needed to have legal action against him for spreading this STD to so many people. I let it go and decided to move on. But you talk about a sex addict...I don't think any partner could have ever satisfied his needs. So yes, I ended a relationship because my boyfriend cheated on me. GUYS BE CAREFUL SOMETIMES YOU REALLY NEVER KNOW WHO YOU ARE DEALING WITH! -
In fact I broke up with my first boyfriend just to avoid being a cheater with him. So, I was single again when I started to date another guy… I think that it was for the best, bc while we were together I was faithful and loyal to him. :hug2:
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Never actually had this happen to me, but I conducted a study a few years back for a book I was writing and determined the cheating is most often a symptom of a relationship where there is a lack of appreciation being expressed by one or both of the partners within the relationship. Now you also have to take into account the fact that the lack of appreciation experienced within a relationship is really a matter of personal perception of the participating partners within the relationship. So you have to consider the various different personality types when you draw this conclusion as a person who rates very high for in the "ego" category (i.e. an egotistical person) will never feel they are being fully appreciated within a relationship. As a result in some cases this is a problem that can be resolved simply by expressing the appreciation that you have for all the things your partner brings into your life. In other's however you could bow down before them every time they enter the room and it still wouldn't be enough for them. I'd say take a good look at your relationship and your partner before considering any option, cause in the long run trying to save the wrong relationship could be far more detrimental than ending the relationship and starting fresh with someone new.
Very true! Something to really think about seriously. :ok2:
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Yes I have. It was a very short relationship, thank God we had not moved in together. Sex in a relationship is good and healthy but this guy was a "sex-aholic". Apparently he wanted a monogamous relationship where I was to be faithful and he could do what he wanted, but to my understanding it was to be a monogamous relationship. I used to spend Sunday afternoons with him at his home. Every Sunday at about 5PM he started hinting how tired he was, that he had to get up early for work…blah, blah, blah. So I would let him have his space and go home.
I usually called him when I got home and sometimes never got an answer. We spent the weekend at his home about 4 months into the relationship and I was helping him clean house. I offered to do his laundry. I was sorting clothes and noticed many pairs of his underwear with cum stains in his crotch, I said nothing but began to wonder. I mean it wasn't like a drip or so...it was major staining. I went on about my business. We would see each other about 5 times a week, spending the night at each others homes. Sometimes while he was at my home he would get phone calls and step out of the room " oh it was my boss" or "oh it was my best friend having a crisis". Once he even had to leave because he had a gut feeling something was wrong at his house. I started to become suspicious. One Sunday when he pulled the "I am fading and getting tired/work early crap" I thought okay, I am going to park down the block for about an hour and see if he leaves. Low and behold about 15 minutes after I left I see him pull out of his driveway. I follow him at a distance. He ended up at an adult bookstore. I waited till he went in and till he came out 2 hours later. I was fucking furious. No wonder he never wanted sex on Sundays.
When he got to his car, I walked up and confronted him. He turned a shade of white I had never seen before. All I said was" caught ya" and walked off. I ended the relationship the next day and went to the doctor immediately. He gave me an STD. I then went on craigslist and wrote an ad in the "men seeking men" section, saying that if you have been with this man you need to go get checked. I got over 100 responses saying they had either sucked his dick or had been fucked by him. I contacted the TX department of health as well. Come to find out he had been going to the bookstores, bath houses and posting ads on craigslist. He needed to have legal action against him for spreading this STD to so many people. I let it go and decided to move on. But you talk about a sex addict...I don't think any partner could have ever satisfied his needs. So yes, I ended a relationship because my boyfriend cheated on me. GUYS BE CAREFUL SOMETIMES YOU REALLY NEVER KNOW WHO YOU ARE DEALING WITH!So he gave you a STD just for sucking his dick? Or did you also practice bareback with him?
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Yes I have. It was a very short relationship, thank God we had not moved in together. Sex in a relationship is good and healthy but this guy was a "sex-aholic". Apparently he wanted a monogamous relationship where I was to be faithful and he could do what he wanted, but to my understanding it was to be a monogamous relationship. I used to spend Sunday afternoons with him at his home. Every Sunday at about 5PM he started hinting how tired he was, that he had to get up early for work…blah, blah, blah. So I would let him have his space and go home.
I usually called him when I got home and sometimes never got an answer. We spent the weekend at his home about 4 months into the relationship and I was helping him clean house. I offered to do his laundry. I was sorting clothes and noticed many pairs of his underwear with cum stains in his crotch, I said nothing but began to wonder. I mean it wasn't like a drip or so...it was major staining. I went on about my business. We would see each other about 5 times a week, spending the night at each others homes. Sometimes while he was at my home he would get phone calls and step out of the room " oh it was my boss" or "oh it was my best friend having a crisis". Once he even had to leave because he had a gut feeling something was wrong at his house. I started to become suspicious. One Sunday when he pulled the "I am fading and getting tired/work early crap" I thought okay, I am going to park down the block for about an hour and see if he leaves. Low and behold about 15 minutes after I left I see him pull out of his driveway. I follow him at a distance. He ended up at an adult bookstore. I waited till he went in and till he came out 2 hours later. I was fucking furious. No wonder he never wanted sex on Sundays.
When he got to his car, I walked up and confronted him. He turned a shade of white I had never seen before. All I said was" caught ya" and walked off. I ended the relationship the next day and went to the doctor immediately. He gave me an STD. I then went on craigslist and wrote an ad in the "men seeking men" section, saying that if you have been with this man you need to go get checked. I got over 100 responses saying they had either sucked his dick or had been fucked by him. I contacted the TX department of health as well. Come to find out he had been going to the bookstores, bath houses and posting ads on craigslist. He needed to have legal action against him for spreading this STD to so many people. I let it go and decided to move on. But you talk about a sex addict...I don't think any partner could have ever satisfied his needs. So yes, I ended a relationship because my boyfriend cheated on me. GUYS BE CAREFUL SOMETIMES YOU REALLY NEVER KNOW WHO YOU ARE DEALING WITH!So he gave you a STD just for sucking his dick? Or did you also practice bareback with him?
Oh my..
That's a big sad story.. :cry2:
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Yes I have. It was a very short relationship, thank God we had not moved in together. Sex in a relationship is good and healthy but this guy was a "sex-aholic". Apparently he wanted a monogamous relationship where I was to be faithful and he could do what he wanted, but to my understanding it was to be a monogamous relationship. I used to spend Sunday afternoons with him at his home. Every Sunday at about 5PM he started hinting how tired he was, that he had to get up early for work…blah, blah, blah. So I would let him have his space and go home.
I usually called him when I got home and sometimes never got an answer. We spent the weekend at his home about 4 months into the relationship and I was helping him clean house. I offered to do his laundry. I was sorting clothes and noticed many pairs of his underwear with cum stains in his crotch, I said nothing but began to wonder. I mean it wasn't like a drip or so...it was major staining. I went on about my business. We would see each other about 5 times a week, spending the night at each others homes. Sometimes while he was at my home he would get phone calls and step out of the room " oh it was my boss" or "oh it was my best friend having a crisis". Once he even had to leave because he had a gut feeling something was wrong at his house. I started to become suspicious. One Sunday when he pulled the "I am fading and getting tired/work early crap" I thought okay, I am going to park down the block for about an hour and see if he leaves. Low and behold about 15 minutes after I left I see him pull out of his driveway. I follow him at a distance. He ended up at an adult bookstore. I waited till he went in and till he came out 2 hours later. I was fucking furious. No wonder he never wanted sex on Sundays.
When he got to his car, I walked up and confronted him. He turned a shade of white I had never seen before. All I said was" caught ya" and walked off. I ended the relationship the next day and went to the doctor immediately. He gave me an STD. I then went on craigslist and wrote an ad in the "men seeking men" section, saying that if you have been with this man you need to go get checked. I got over 100 responses saying they had either sucked his dick or had been fucked by him. I contacted the TX department of health as well. Come to find out he had been going to the bookstores, bath houses and posting ads on craigslist. He needed to have legal action against him for spreading this STD to so many people. I let it go and decided to move on. But you talk about a sex addict...I don't think any partner could have ever satisfied his needs. So yes, I ended a relationship because my boyfriend cheated on me. GUYS BE CAREFUL SOMETIMES YOU REALLY NEVER KNOW WHO YOU ARE DEALING WITH!sweet jesus.
may i ask what kind of std is that, if you can sue someone over it?
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Yes, I've ended two relationships due to that problem. One I had been in for ten years and the other for four. They both cheated on me. When confronted they fessed up but by that time it was OVER! -
No but my 2nd longest relationship ended after he got a whole other boyfriend behind my back. I knew he cheated alot but he literally left me for his meth lab partner.
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Yes I have. It was a very short relationship, thank God we had not moved in together. Sex in a relationship is good and healthy but this guy was a "sex-aholic". Apparently he wanted a monogamous relationship where I was to be faithful and he could do what he wanted, but to my understanding it was to be a monogamous relationship. I used to spend Sunday afternoons with him at his home. Every Sunday at about 5PM he started hinting how tired he was, that he had to get up early for work…blah, blah, blah. So I would let him have his space and go home.
I usually called him when I got home and sometimes never got an answer. We spent the weekend at his home about 4 months into the relationship and I was helping him clean house. I offered to do his laundry. I was sorting clothes and noticed many pairs of his underwear with cum stains in his crotch, I said nothing but began to wonder. I mean it wasn't like a drip or so...it was major staining. I went on about my business. We would see each other about 5 times a week, spending the night at each others homes. Sometimes while he was at my home he would get phone calls and step out of the room " oh it was my boss" or "oh it was my best friend having a crisis". Once he even had to leave because he had a gut feeling something was wrong at his house. I started to become suspicious. One Sunday when he pulled the "I am fading and getting tired/work early crap" I thought okay, I am going to park down the block for about an hour and see if he leaves. Low and behold about 15 minutes after I left I see him pull out of his driveway. I follow him at a distance. He ended up at an adult bookstore. I waited till he went in and till he came out 2 hours later. I was fucking furious. No wonder he never wanted sex on Sundays.
When he got to his car, I walked up and confronted him. He turned a shade of white I had never seen before. All I said was" caught ya" and walked off. I ended the relationship the next day and went to the doctor immediately. He gave me an STD. I then went on craigslist and wrote an ad in the "men seeking men" section, saying that if you have been with this man you need to go get checked. I got over 100 responses saying they had either sucked his dick or had been fucked by him. I contacted the TX department of health as well. Come to find out he had been going to the bookstores, bath houses and posting ads on craigslist. He needed to have legal action against him for spreading this STD to so many people. I let it go and decided to move on. But you talk about a sex addict...I don't think any partner could have ever satisfied his needs. So yes, I ended a relationship because my boyfriend cheated on me. GUYS BE CAREFUL SOMETIMES YOU REALLY NEVER KNOW WHO YOU ARE DEALING WITH!So he gave you a STD just for sucking his dick? Or did you also practice bareback with him?
Yes, I sucked his dick and yes we had bareback sex (I was the bottom) because we were both hiv+ undetectable.
and the other answer was he gave me syphilis. It took three months of shots to get rid of…he had over 100 encounters that I was aware of through the craiglist ad I posted and 40 of them had syph. I don't know if you can sue someone for that or not but I do know that Karma is a bitch.
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Yes I ended my relationship/partnership with my ex because he cheated on me. He did not lie about it which was good and he was honest when it happened; but I was very hurt by this and any trust I ever had in him was destroyed. There were other factors as well as to why I ended the relationship. We had been together for 2 years.
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Yes, I have.
And the bastard had the nerve to say it was unfair for him to have to only sleep with me because he was bisexual.
Holy moly! (Did you punch him in the face? Crushed his balls? That's what I would have done..)
The problem with being in a relationship with a bisexual while you're homo/hetero is that some of them will assume, since they're bisexual, that they have carte blanche regarding sleeping with other people if they are the opposite sex of their partner. Or that any relationship is an open relationship.
This is an example of the type of relationship not worth to salvage.
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Surprisingly, no. In a couple of my more serious relationships, I only found out about the infidelity after we'd broken up.
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Yes I have. It was a very short relationship, thank God we had not moved in together. Sex in a relationship is good and healthy but this guy was a "sex-aholic". Apparently he wanted a monogamous relationship where I was to be faithful and he could do what he wanted, but to my understanding it was to be a monogamous relationship. I used to spend Sunday afternoons with him at his home. Every Sunday at about 5PM he started hinting how tired he was, that he had to get up early for work…blah, blah, blah. So I would let him have his space and go home.
I usually called him when I got home and sometimes never got an answer. We spent the weekend at his home about 4 months into the relationship and I was helping him clean house. I offered to do his laundry. I was sorting clothes and noticed many pairs of his underwear with cum stains in his crotch, I said nothing but began to wonder. I mean it wasn't like a drip or so...it was major staining. I went on about my business. We would see each other about 5 times a week, spending the night at each others homes. Sometimes while he was at my home he would get phone calls and step out of the room " oh it was my boss" or "oh it was my best friend having a crisis". Once he even had to leave because he had a gut feeling something was wrong at his house. I started to become suspicious. One Sunday when he pulled the "I am fading and getting tired/work early crap" I thought okay, I am going to park down the block for about an hour and see if he leaves. Low and behold about 15 minutes after I left I see him pull out of his driveway. I follow him at a distance. He ended up at an adult bookstore. I waited till he went in and till he came out 2 hours later. I was fucking furious. No wonder he never wanted sex on Sundays.
When he got to his car, I walked up and confronted him. He turned a shade of white I had never seen before. All I said was" caught ya" and walked off. I ended the relationship the next day and went to the doctor immediately. He gave me an STD. I then went on craigslist and wrote an ad in the "men seeking men" section, saying that if you have been with this man you need to go get checked. I got over 100 responses saying they had either sucked his dick or had been fucked by him. I contacted the TX department of health as well. Come to find out he had been going to the bookstores, bath houses and posting ads on craigslist. He needed to have legal action against him for spreading this STD to so many people. I let it go and decided to move on. But you talk about a sex addict...I don't think any partner could have ever satisfied his needs. So yes, I ended a relationship because my boyfriend cheated on me. GUYS BE CAREFUL SOMETIMES YOU REALLY NEVER KNOW WHO YOU ARE DEALING WITH!So he gave you a STD just for sucking his dick? Or did you also practice bareback with him?
Yes, I sucked his dick and yes we had bareback sex (I was the bottom) because we were both hiv+ undetectable.
and the other answer was he gave me syphilis. It took three months of shots to get rid of…he had over 100 encounters that I was aware of through the craiglist ad I posted and 40 of them had syph. I don't know if you can sue someone for that or not but I do know that Karma is a bitch.
That's crazy and yet not surprising that 40 of the men you met on Craigslist had syphilis. Did a lot of them want or have bareback sex too?
