Have You Ever Cheated On Someone?
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I've been in a few relationships and two of them, the guy cheated on me. I guess, I've almost come to expect it in our community. Have you guys cheated on someone and why? Boredom?
I never understand it. Of course I have fantasised about others but I have never acted upon it. The hurt and guilt would kill me.
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You sound like a really sweet person, and sadly, having cheated with some who were “attached,” I don’t think I’ve ever took into consideration the feelings of their significant others.
Going back to my college days, totally closeted, and in the midst of a four year relationship with my “high school sweetheart,” I had a “thing” with another female during my freshman and sophomore years. Ironically, out of the blue, and after those four years, that “sweetheart” dumped me; and I couldn’t tell you how long I cried and begged, and was bummed about it all.
After that, there was one other girl, who happened to be the girl I was “going with” back in high school, before the “sweetheart,” and years later we somehow reconnected, etc., etc. I never really thought about it until now, be she might have been the very first one I “came out” to, seeing that the “other woman” was a guy who ended up being what I’ve termed as my “live and die guy”–the one I live for, and the one I’d die for, the one who continues to put up with me and my shit, and has always been there for me since we got together in 1982.
One of the countless pluses in our relationship for me, is that from day one, taking into account the 20+ years age difference between us, he made it clear that he didn’t want me to miss out on any “opportunities” that might come my way (probably reflecting on his last 20 years, in “The City” (San Francisco), the “baths,” and all that stuff). I, on the other hand, said, “I’m selfish, self-centered, and insecure; and I DON’T “share.”
Anyway, he pretty much said, “Just know where ‘home’ is and don’t bring home any ‘bugs’.”
The only other thing was to give him a “good night” call just to let him know I’m okay. Since we don’t live together, that’s come to be a nightly thing; however, now he calls me--everyday at 2AM, to let me know all is well with him.
So, without having to cheat, I still have been able to take advantage of those opportunities coming my way over the years, both with guys and girls. I’ve always been upfront regarding having a partner and essentially guilt-free--on my part that is, since most of the females were in solid relationships with boyfriends…oh well.
The flings ranged from “one-night stands” to your so-called “normal” relationships lasting years; as is currently the case, with my other SO of over 20 years.
A this point in my life and relationships, I can’t imagine it happening, but In spite of having been a cheater, fuck all that “what goes around, comes around” bullshit, I still know how badly I’d take it, if I was cheated on.
These days, the only “cheating” I do with someone else are the rare, but highly pleasurable occasions via the phone, as in “phone-sex.” (Anyone interested, let me know. >:D)
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I've cheated on my ex. When we got back together, sex was none existent. I was really horny, so I cheated on him with 3 different.
I said this to my ex when I broke up with him. Not proud of it but I did it.
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I have never cheated on any of my exes nor my current bf, but I have been the 3rd person for some time in a fucked up situation that took place in 2012. I have regretted about it many times since then.
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I have never cheated on any of my exes nor my current bf, but I have been the 3rd person for some time in a fucked up situation that took place in 2012. I have regretted about it many times since then.
Sorry about that daydrm. I have a friend who was in that situation as well. But in his case it was 5 people.
It was mayhem!O/T
I do not condone cheating but I urge to ask your partner and talk things out. -
No, never ever. I'm so loyal to do something like this.
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Sorry about that daydrm. I have a friend who was in that situation as well. But in his case it was 5 people.
It was mayhem!O/T
I do not condone cheating but I urge to ask your partner and talk things out.Well it's true what they say… No one is going to take advantage of you unless you let him do that.
I also believe we can protect ourselves from falling in love with the wrong person. I will never let that happen again. I wish I could do something to make up for the people that were hurt from my actions.
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do not have a conformed relationship
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was a guy who ended up being what I’ve termed as my “live and die guy”–the one I live for, and the one I’d die for, the one who continues to put up with me and my shit, and has always been there for me since we got together in 1982.
Thats mine right there. I'm still seeing the guy and I should know better but he moved on and found another boyfriend. I still slept with him knowing he had another boyfriend.
I guess it's easier being the guy who isn't being cheated on. I've been asked by guys for sex, who cheating on their boyfriends, and I can easily say no. But with my ex, I can't say no to him.
