Monogamy
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Do we need to put a label on it?
The idea is that you have a partner that you care for more than others?
I care for my friends the same as I care for my partner ( I am talking about close friends, that I would consider family).Sex is Sex. You don't need to put a problem to it. Many try to live as the "heteros" and they don't even have it right.
If you want to monogamous then be so, but don't judge others for not conforming to your standards.
You will have a stronger relationship without worrying about an affair. -
Do we need to put a label on it?
Unfortunately, we have to.
Regarding as living like heteros, well…it can't be helped that gay people try to emulate some concepts taken from the heteronormative society, is the only role model we have.
On the other hand, I think maybe we should be better in the long run if we tried to create new social forms according to our own reality, instead of trying to copy/paste those of the heterosexuals. But maybe that would be too revolutionary for the rest of society.
Gay people got more acceptance, but they're being assimilated by mainstream society, which I don't find totally bad. But we do need to rethink this social forms to better fit them to us.
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The way I see it, monogamy has a strong appeal because it means that you and someone special to you have chosen to put each other FIRST, above everyone else in your life. Even your closest friends, and family. That brings a sense of security and ideally creates a space where you have trust in the person and feel safe enough to allow yourself to be vulnerable. That's a very precious thing.
If others feel that an open relationship is the way to go, then as long as both parties are fine with it, it should work. Though there is a greater chance for jealousies and uncertainty to come up- specially since there is always the risk that letting someone new in will result in a stronger bond with one of you and lead to the dissolution of your relationship.
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Monogamy has nothing to do with heteronormative society blah blah blah.
Monogamy happens.
It can't be forced. It can't be preferred instead of the other option. We are polygamous by nature.
If you haven't found monogamy or the lack of desire for other people than your partner, you just haven't found the one. Only that one really special person can bring monogamy to you. And when you find them, believe me, you WILL NOT feel like having sex with anybody else. -
Open. I don't think I could be with someone who'd be jealous if I had sex with another guy.
Of course, every open relationship is different, and I don't want one where both parts actively keep searching for others to play with. But if it happens every now and then… so what. It doesn't mean I live him any less, and I know it doesn't mean he doesn't love me. As long as it's just sex. -
The older I become the more I stray away from the idea of monogamy…
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I Prefere monogamy
