Crystal meth _ Sex _ and …...... PLEASE HELP
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Hi guys,
I just had a hook up with a guy who I met through gay app… He wanted sex and he also told me that he takes drugs like crystal meth... he would be often horny that way...
Telling about me a bit I think I am bisexual... I don't hook up with guys easily... just some fun some times... always do sex with condom...
but I have a problem now...
I have only smoked weed few times but had not taken any drugs before... I was curious to know about the crystal meth and wanted to try it... I thought better was to meet him and try and possibly hook up with him...
So I smoked crystal meth with him... I smoked it many times.. It was my first time taking Crystal meth... but I felt normal.. I didn't go crazy or super horny... but I felt good and wanted more while we were doing foreplay... don't know if it was due to the effect of the crystal meth...
We had a nice foreplay... but he tried to fuck me without condom although I had told him that I would only do with a condom...
Then he tried to get inside me without condom... I let him try... (Well when I am with a guy, I try my best to make him happy).... I thought just little bit of dick although it was bare would not be a problem... he pushed hard... I think he could only get his dick head inside me... It was painful so I stopped him many times...
So he couldn't fuck me bare with full penetration... may be half of his dick must have been inside me at some time... but just for quick few seconds as I would just take it out... then after some time he used a condom but still he could not get full penetration because it was hurting me and I stopped him... so it was not a full fuck... mostly he was trying getting his dick in me...
....then I looked at a packet of extra condom in his bag when he was away... I was amazed to read that the EXP date was 2014/11
so now I do not know if the condom he had used with me was same like the above (expired?) .... and I am afraid that since he tried to put his dick in me before with out condom too and partially succeeded...
Question 1. Am I in danger of getting STD's or HIV or Hepatitis if he is a infected person?
Question 2. Since he came in my mouth although I didn't swallow it.. so am I in Danger?
your valuable reply is appreciated
Thank you!
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Yes to both questions. I urge you to get tested immediately and be very open with your physician about the unknown status of your partner, unprotected oral sex, unprotected anal sex, and later discovery of expired condoms so that they can appropriately assist. On that note, don't put yourself in a panic, hopefully nothing happened, but it's your responsibility to abstain from any future sexual activity until you are certain of your status or be upfront with any partner about how your status is currently unknown. You can say it's due to a broken condom scare or whatever.
On a second note, stay far away from crystal meth. It's a horribly destructive drug and the second you feel yourself honestly pursuing it again after this initial experimentation seek help. I can personally tell you it's so much easier to treat addiction in the early stages while your life is still intact, trying to recover when your life is falling apart or literally decimated around you is hell.
Wishing you the best of luck,
Phrere
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Hi Phrere,
Thank you very much for your reply…
Lets suppose if that guy was infected with any disease and I carried that then testing Immediately won't show any thing in me... right? The HIV virus needs at least 3 weeks or months to get detected?
What do you mean by unprotected oral sex? we of course suck with our mouth... but it is likely that when we suck.. some pre cum do get in our mouth... as I wrote in the post that he came in my mouth... I didn't swallow it... so how likely or what kind of disease I may have If he is infected with any?
As I also wrote in the post that he was not successful to fully penetrate so it was just brief tries to fuck... but how much chances are there to get infected with that too?
I don't know if the condom he used was expired as well... but I am also not sure that the condom broke while he was putting his dick in me...
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https://www.stdcheck.com/blog/how-soon-get-tested-for-stds-unprotected-sex/
http://www.nyc.gov/html/doh/downloads/pdf/ah/early-hiv-treatment-brochure.pdf
Here are Two links you may find helpful.
A HIV RNA Test can detect HIV after 9-11 days. I recommend a doctors visit as soon as possible because depending on your insurance or country's health services it may take time to have this or other tests approved. Furthermore if your results are positive for HIV the sooner you begin medication the sooner you can prevent the virus from spreading improving your health, life expectancy, and reducing the likelihood of developing AIDS
You are always at risk whether you swallow or not or whether he pulls out or not.
Unprotected oral sex is when you don't use a condom. I will tell you personally that I don't use a condom during oral sex, but it is considered unprotected sex. No one really knows what the likelihood of contracting HIV through oral sex is because of multiple factors like reliable information and it really depends on the viral load level of your partner, but it is possible and is thought to account for at least 3% of HIV infections.
It doesn't matter if his whole penis went into your ass, or whether or not he came in your ass, or whether you were exposed to precum or cum, or whether you are top or bottom. Yes each has it's own level of risk and anal sex where the top is HIV positive and the bottom is HIV negative and the top cums in the bottoms ass is probably the sex act with the highest risk, it is still possible to contract HIV through any oral or anal sexual activity.
Because your partner was a drug user, and not something basic like weed, ecstasy, cocaine, etc. but crystal meth, the likelihood of him having used intravenously administered drugs with a dirty needle is higher.
The line about the condom breaking, was just a story you could tell potential partners incase your embarrassed to just say you had unprotected sex with someone with a questionable STD status while still being upfront about how your current status is unknown and will remain unknown until your doctor tells you otherwise.
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Just because he did crystal meth does not mean the guy is using dirty needles. First one should consider how he took the meth if he injected it then he is a "slammer" and there is more risk with those users for sure. But if he was a smoker or snorter and does not slam it then the risk is less from a dirty needle and probably more from his being a slut and having unprotected sex with others when he is high and possibly not getting tested. But there are users who are not total tweakers who use it all the time and slut around so I would consider what type of person this guy is. Does he do it every so often or all the time.
Some guys do it because it helps them lower their inhibitions.
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Just because he did crystal meth does not mean the guy is using dirty needles. First one should consider how he took the meth if he injected it then he is a "slammer" and there is more risk with those users for sure. But if he was a smoker or snorter and does not slam it then the risk is less from a dirty needle and probably more from his being a slut and having unprotected sex with others when he is high and possibly not getting tested. But there are users who are not total tweakers who use it all the time and slut around so I would consider what type of person this guy is. Does he do it every so often or all the time.
Some guys do it because it helps them lower their inhibitions.
Thank you for the answer. He smokes some times only during sex as far as I know… he also uses poppers...
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Hey addic2porn
I would stay clear of meth, It is really a nasty drug.
As for unprotected sex, It is always best to be safe I know this is not always possible, or can ruin a moment, but it is important to try your best at staying safe.
The risk of contracting HIV though oral sex is low, but there is still a risk - http://www.tht.org.uk/sexual-health/Improving-your-sexual-health/Oral-sex
I would go get tested for all STI/STD as soon as possible - I found this German website which might be helpful to you. http://www.machsmit.de/hiv_aids/hiv_test_und_beratung/index.php
Good luck x
Hi guys,
I just had a hook up with a guy who I met through gay app… He wanted sex and he also told me that he takes drugs like crystal meth... he would be often horny that way...
Telling about me a bit I think I am bisexual... I don't hook up with guys easily... just some fun some times... always do sex with condom...
but I have a problem now...
I have only smoked weed few times but had not taken any drugs before... I was curious to know about the crystal meth and wanted to try it... I thought better was to meet him and try and possibly hook up with him...
So I smoked crystal meth with him... I smoked it many times.. It was my first time taking Crystal meth... but I felt normal.. I didn't go crazy or super horny... but I felt good and wanted more while we were doing foreplay... don't know if it was due to the effect of the crystal meth...
We had a nice foreplay... but he tried to fuck me without condom although I had told him that I would only do with a condom...
Then he tried to get inside me without condom... I let him try... (Well when I am with a guy, I try my best to make him happy).... I thought just little bit of dick although it was bare would not be a problem... he pushed hard... I think he could only get his dick head inside me... It was painful so I stopped him many times...
So he couldn't fuck me bare with full penetration... may be half of his dick must have been inside me at some time... but just for quick few seconds as I would just take it out... then after some time he used a condom but still he could not get full penetration because it was hurting me and I stopped him... so it was not a full fuck... mostly he was trying getting his dick in me...
....then I looked at a packet of extra condom in his bag when he was away... I was amazed to read that the EXP date was 2014/11
so now I do not know if the condom he had used with me was same like the above (expired?) .... and I am afraid that since he tried to put his dick in me before with out condom too and partially succeeded...
Question 1. Am I in danger of getting STD's or HIV or Hepatitis if he is a infected person?
Question 2. Since he came in my mouth although I didn't swallow it.. so am I in Danger?
your valuable reply is appreciated
Thank you!
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In the future, I strongly urge you to always use your own condoms when bottoming and handle them yourself (put it on him, etc). While not 100% certain, you'll have a pretty good idea of the integrity (that he didn't sabotage it in some way) and that it's not expired.
It's one area in which I am paranoid. While I love stealthing in stories and fantasy, I don't want the Bug, and having seen somuch talk of stealthing elsewhere, I am paranoid about condoms.
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I don't want you to go into a death/shame spiral. You have engaged in risky behavior, but it is unlikely you were infected. However, let this serve as a check in the future.
Even 13 years ago, we knew that the risk of transmission of HIV from oral contact without ejaculation, is considered extremely, extremely low. See http://hivinsite.ucsf.edu/InSite?page=pr-rr-05 While ejaculation in the mouth increases this risk, even the CDC states that this risk can be diminished by spitting it out quickly. So you made the right decision there. As for the actual possibility of transmission by having ejaculate in your mouth, it is still highly controversial. While of course it's theoretically possible, and there have been claims of such transmission in reputable studies, further evaluation of claims of "oral only" transmission have been held to be dubious because of problems in self reporting. Also, there needs to be co-factors such as open sores or cuts in the mouth. The mucus membranes are known to be highly resistant to HIV transmission (though other areas further down the throat are not as resistant).
The reason that a condom is not used after its expiration date is that the lubrication degrades and there is a much higher incidence of breakage through normal use. If the condom came off your partner intact, you have very little to worry about. Latex does not have increased porosity with time.
I don't want to minimize the risks you exposed yourself to, but we also must add a dose of reality. One time exposure to HIV (anal or vaginal) seems to have a transmission risk of 1.4%, (or about 1 in 65 people that has unprotected anal sex with an HIV positive man will seroconvert). http://www.catie.ca/en/pif/summer-2012/putting-number-it-risk-exposure-hiv Oral transmission, again, is considered to be much lower and harder. So your likelihood of transmission from this one exposure is probably low.
Do get a test to assure yourself. Do stop the drugs - the increase the likelihood of transmission many fold - not only through the lessening of inhibitions, but also they seem to be a chemical co-factor in increasing transmission. Recognize that you're always at danger of contracting STD in any unprotected situation. But also realize that there are risks in every part of life. Balance your risk profile wisely to enjoy your life without racking yourself with nerves over the risk.
