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      durexxx 0 last edited by

      hello everyone i wanna know your thoughts about this matter if i'm being over sensitive about it or i should act normal. apparently one of my friends are going out with my ex boyfriend. nothing sexually is happening they always meet with friends and in public places and they post pics!!! should i be worry about this, that something might happen ? should i talk about it to both of them? or do you think i should act normal like nothing is happening and it doesn't bothers me though it does.it makes me jealous and uncomfortable about the whole situation. whenever they wanna hang out i should be informed or at least to be invited!!! right? please tell me what do you think or kindly if you have any advice to give me 🙂 thanks

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        hellcraving last edited by

        Hello Durexx
        Just read again your post. Obviously you are feeling still something… It can be love or, depending on the circumstances of the breakdown, you are still hurt. You must be sincere about your true feelings and ask yourself: is it because I am still in love with him? Or is it just the fact of me being single at the moment and I don´t want him to have a new relationship while I am on my own?
        If the answer is: I am still in love with him, then: TRY TO SEDUCE HIM AGAIN AND GET HIM BACK TO YOU
        If the answer is: I don´t want him to have a relationship while I am on my own, then: YOU MUST WORK ON YOUR SELF ESTEEM AND FORGET ABOUT ALL THE COMPLEXES. Say to yourself: I am hot stuff and I wish him the best... You have much to live and... you know... It´s raining men everywhere!
        Hugs,
        Hell  😉

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          durexxx 0 last edited by

          @hellcraving:

          Hello Durexx
          Just read again your post. Obviously you are feeling still something… It can be love or, depending on the circumstances of the breakdown, you are still hurt. You must be sincere about your true feelings and ask yourself: is it because I am still in love with him? Or is it just the fact of me being single at the moment and I don´t want him to have a new relationship while I am on my own?
          If the answer is: I am still in love with him, then: TRY TO SEDUCE HIM AGAIN AND GET HIM BACK TO YOU
          If the answer is: I don´t want him to have a relationship while I am on my own, then: YOU MUST WORK ON YOUR SELF ESTEEM AND FORGET ABOUT ALL THE COMPLEXES. Say to yourself: I am hot stuff and I wish him the best... You have much to live and... you know... It´s raining men everywhere!
          Hugs,
          Hell  😉

          hey hellcraving thanks a lot for replying to be honest whatever you just said its actually in my head and heart i know that im hot and i have it all in all aspects its just hard for me to open my heart to a new guy i actually believe that he is the one for me.but the problem is that when we met and started dating we were young and immature now i know what i want but he doesn't, i guess he has this fear of commitment i dunno know why would you sleep and have sex with your ex boyfriend if you dont have feelings or some lingers for right
          ??????!!!! i dunno but him going out with my friend and posting pictures it means something i dunno what he is trying to prove by this?!!! though couple of days ago we were together and happy and i actually slept over his house i dunno i guess he uses his brain more than his heart and i do exactly the opposite im a Pisces…...

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            batangtegak last edited by

            I used to experience like what u're going through. He is your past. Move forward. (oh ya, I second Hellcraving post.. only two options exist, act wisely!)

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              Sprky198 last edited by

              Durexxx

              Take stock of your current situation.  Since you don't say what the situation was that you two split, I can only assume that it was a mutual parting of the ways and not a messy breakup.  If this is the case decide if you are still in "love" or just that you don't want to be alone. 
              (I am currently going thru the same thing.  Except that I know for a fact that my ex is seeing other people.)  I still love them but I know that they are happier doing their own thing in their own way and that's OK with me.  We are still friends and I occasionally do get hurt by what they do.  I get jealous sometimes as well.  That's all part of life.  You also don't say how long it has been since you broke up.  I'm going to assume it is a recent thing and that is why you feel the way you do with your friend and your ex being out together.  I would also like to point out that they are going out of their way to make sure that you know that they are not romantically involved.  Take that as a good sign.  Give it time.

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                altoids582 last edited by

                @durexxx:

                @hellcraving:

                Hello Durexx
                Just read again your post. Obviously you are feeling still something… It can be love or, depending on the circumstances of the breakdown, you are still hurt. You must be sincere about your true feelings and ask yourself: is it because I am still in love with him? Or is it just the fact of me being single at the moment and I don´t want him to have a new relationship while I am on my own?
                If the answer is: I am still in love with him, then: TRY TO SEDUCE HIM AGAIN AND GET HIM BACK TO YOU
                If the answer is: I don´t want him to have a relationship while I am on my own, then: YOU MUST WORK ON YOUR SELF ESTEEM AND FORGET ABOUT ALL THE COMPLEXES. Say to yourself: I am hot stuff and I wish him the best... You have much to live and... you know... It´s raining men everywhere!
                Hugs,
                Hell  😉

                hey hellcraving thanks a lot for replying to be honest whatever you just said its actually in my head and heart i know that im hot and i have it all in all aspects its just hard for me to open my heart to a new guy i actually believe that he is the one for me.but the problem is that when we met and started dating we were young and immature now i know what i want but he doesn't, i guess he has this fear of commitment i dunno know why would you sleep and have sex with your ex boyfriend if you dont have feelings or some lingers for right
                ??????!!!! i dunno but him going out with my friend and posting pictures it means something i dunno what he is trying to prove by this?!!! though couple of days ago we were together and happy and i actually slept over his house i dunno i guess he uses his brain more than his heart and i do exactly the opposite im a Pisces…...

                He may just disconnect emotionally when it comes to sex and not think of it as a sign of wanting a relationship necessarily.

                About the friend thing, I feel like most people that are friends have some traits in common. If your ex is dating a friend of yours, it may be that while he doesn't feel like he syncs up with you romantically, that he sees traits in your friend (that you also have) which he is attracted to. Maybe it'd work out for them, maybe it won't, but I'd assume it's just a regular relationship they're engaging in rather than something more complicated.

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                  hellcraving last edited by

                  Hey man
                  Listen: if you are certain that he is the one for you, then try to sort things out: explain your feelings and, if he tells you that he doesn´t want a commitment, then you just know what is all about. You cannot force him to love you but at least you will feel more free, and then you can start again.
                  If you are still emotionally attached to him, cherishing memories and scenes from the past, then that is a hard rope that doesn´t let you go your way ahead. When you know all about him and his plans, you will be aware about your position and then move forward.
                  And if you wanna play with someone, feel free to play… Do not feel ashamed or hurt. All of us have been in a situation like that and know how hard is sometimes to confront your own feelings. But time heals every wound. I thought I would never overcome a breakdown, it almost killed me... and some years after the affair I cannot recall the details of the event. There is more life ahead you. Do not let any other gay rule your life... You are worth it!!!!
                  Hugs

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