Bf can't get off with anything but jacking off
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My bf has this weird thing where he can only get of by his hand. It drives me insane, at first I thought it was me. I thought I didn't know what I was doing. I thought I was shit at sex, then I found out he has never orgasmed any other way. I really want to get him off, any tips?
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You've already solved your problem - realizing that there is no issue with what YOU are doing!
Suggestions:
1. Spend a week watching him masturbate whenever he does it. Learn how he gets himself off. What and where does he focuses attention on. Is he gentle or rough with stroking? Lots of friction on the grip or very loosely done? Get inside his head. What is he thinking about? Have him verbalize it.
If you are looking to get him off by blowing him, try to re-enact what you've learned that he likes when you blow him. For example, my sub was amazed at my staying power for oral sex. He challenged himself to find a way to get me to blow a load for him in 8 minutes or less. He now knows that some gentle sucking for five minutes or so followed by 3 minutes of aggressive, hoover type action on just the head of my cock while talking dirty to him will have his mouth filled in no time flat.
It was a win-win for both of us. He has the confidence and ability and multiple ways to make me blow whenever he wants, and I learned that there are now several ways that I can actually get off from oral, whereas I never could before.
Same concepts apply to anal…. Long story short, find out what he likes, and give that to him in a way that makes him focus on nothing but what YOU are doing to him, not just what his hand can do
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I've been having this problem too with my partner. He says he is really close but then loses it when I suck/jerk him off. Even when he's pounding me full force. He told me the only time he's gotten off from a blowjob was from some guy with a tongue ring and it was pretty quick. I don't want to get a tongue ring anytime soon but I need him to blow a load inside of me. pls!
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I usually have to masturbate to get it off, so I think I can give you a different perspective.
One thing that really bothers me is when my boyfriend (6,5 years) "demands" me to cum. When there's expectations about it.
I've came while being fucked, fucking and receiving blowjobs, but only when it is in a very calm and no pressure ambient.
So, for me, the pressure of having me cum, makes me loose it.
Try to make it easy going, don't say "I want to see you cum in my mouth" or anything like it. Just go with the flow. It might take some time, but in my case i can honestly say that the anxiety of not cumming any other way than with my own bare hands with the pressure of "having to do" makes me not want to have sex at all. -
It's medically called "delayed ejaculation" and about 5-10% of guys have it. I'm one of them and I can't cum from sex. It's purely a psychological thing that some guys have. It's kinda' similar to how some guys can't pee when they feel like they're being watched - you're body says you need to pee you've got your dick out and you want to pee but you just can't - similar thing here, everything's doing exactly what it can but you've just got this psychological block that won't let you go over the line and let it out.
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-try moaning
-talk a little naughty when he's close,
-ask for cum in your ass – that you want it badly, you got to have it in your ass
-have him jerk off outside of your ass and cum on your hole then ask if to use his cock to put all that cum back in your ass, maybe next time when he's close, he'll do it in your ass.You sound thirsty though haha. At least he's getting off.
My bf has this weird thing where he can only get of by his hand. It drives me insane, at first I thought it was me. I thought I didn't know what I was doing. I thought I was shit at sex, then I found out he has never orgasmed any other way. I really want to get him off, any tips?
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So, for me, the pressure of having me cum, makes me loose it.
Try to make it easy going, don't say "I want to see you cum in my mouth" or anything like it. Just go with the flow. It might take some time, but in my case i can honestly say that the anxiety of not cumming any other way than with my own bare hands with the pressure of "having to do" makes me not want to have sex at all.This! Nothing takes me out of the moment more than being requested to cum or asking if I'm going to cum but everyone is different and at least he does get off. In my early days I had cum with more women than men despite only ever being with one women. My first boyfriend, who I lived with for a year, still believes I am not human as he never once saw me cum.
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So, for me, the pressure of having me cum, makes me loose it.
Try to make it easy going, don't say "I want to see you cum in my mouth" or anything like it. Just go with the flow. It might take some time, but in my case i can honestly say that the anxiety of not cumming any other way than with my own bare hands with the pressure of "having to do" makes me not want to have sex at all.This! Nothing takes me out of the moment more than being requested to cum or asking if I'm going to cum.
Agreed.
As for the original question, I would have thought it was very common for guys to cum only by their own hand. I can usually cum pretty easily if I'm fucking a guy, but other than that, it's rare for me to cum except if I'm jacking myself off. Other things get me hard and feel really good, but just don't push me over the edge. I guess it's just because my dick's used to jacking off.
I mean, look at porn. How does every single guy cum in every single movie ever? He has sex, then pulls out and jacks himself off.
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turn him into a bottom
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better find a new partner! AHAHA just kidding! "sometimes being hard is difficult than being soft"
