Have you ever been criticized for having been with escorts in the past?
Have you ever been criticized in a relationship for having been with escorts in the past?
Does hiring escorts have effects on the way potential partners see you?
I haven't done it and haven't been criticized for it. I've been with someone who hired an escort in the past, I didn't think of him any differently.
Unless it's an addiction that occurs while someone is in a relationship, I don't see the big deal.
Try being the escort lol
Hiring escorts will only have negative effects if the potential partner is a judgemental prick. But having or having not hired escorts I wouldn't choose as a partner this kind of hypocritical false moralist, that thinks this is a big deal…
C'mon, people, we are all gay people, that are judged by others everyday, and we still choose to judge people about what they do with their sexual lives? That's just awfully stupid...
Well it depends on the person and how much they love you and all. It is a bit complicated to explain because my mother tongue is not english… But it has to do with the character of the others. It is normal and natural for people to be either judgemental or not even caring on the escort thing.
Honestly, that's a stupid thing to be concerned about or to judge others because of it.
Maybe it's because it implies 'paying for sex', but honestly…everyone pays some thing or the other in order to get laid, it's not always cold hard cash.
As long as the person takes safety measures for their health I find no problem in getting an escort.
As bebekid said: as long as it is not an addiction that happens while in a relationship, everything's fine.
i've never been with one. but i believe they shouldn't be criticized for their actions..
No one ever knew
I think part of the stigma might be related to the concept of "being within your league".
A prospect partner might think that if you had to pay for Sex, it's because you can't get a date that looked that good, and might thus think that dating you, he is getting himself within your league. And that might feel conflicting with his sense of self worth. I.E.: you have to pay for a good looking guy but you get me for free?
Of course there are a lot of reasons why you decided to get an escort's services, many of them having nothing to do with whom you can or can't date. But that's why it's called a stigma.
Many people go through the same mental process when deciding to date someone: they might look at the people the prospect date hang with, they look at his past dates and see if they are within his own league. If the guy dated hot guys, their self confidence get a boost; if the guy dated people they believe are beneath themselves, then they might think they are selling themselves short.
It's superficial, it's dumb, but it's a psychological process many, many people go through. Gay AND straight.
I have never been with a prostitute and it's not something I personally ever want to do.
None of my sexual partners have been with a prostitute either but if they were in the past I would not care as it happened before we were together; but I would not want an open relationship or to attempt a "relationship" with someone that's addicted to sex or paying hookers for sex as I have known people who are like this.
How would anyone know unless you blab about it and why would you do that?
In Victorian times there was a whorehouse on nearly every London corner but women (and chairs!) did not have "legs" for propriety's sake. But after a frustrating session sitting with a chaperone and girl who could not even be touched, the dude got his rocks off down the street and those ladies were none the wiser.
Does anyone actually even care about that kind of thing anymore? Is there still some sort of stigma? The "public Victorian" may be alive and well in some pockets of hypocrisy, but pay-for-play is pretty much like most men's sexual biographies– not able to stand inspection and not anyone's business anyway.
What a strange question. I wonder what prompted it-- some unfortunate personal experience maybe?
tried once just for the heck of it…
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Hmmm I'm the supporter of winning men with your own skills than money. It would just feel artificial. But hmm… I would give that one exception to Ray Stone. Though being a hypocryte I wouldn't want my bf to hire any escort but the same goes with me hearing stuff about his past adventures. I guess it's not really about an escort but more about my jealousy.