Long Distance Relationships
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Hi guys there, I am on a LDR for about two years with a German guy, i'm mexican, I want to marry him, he is a bit usnure despite we met last year and he constantly tells me he loves me a lot and he liked our meeting.
Remember when we met at the airport we were so happy and when I departed i was crying all the long-haul flight, i miss him so much, touhg we have skype but nothing is like real closeness and contact with him.
I know it's hard but we have endured it for 2 years,
So wht at do you think of LDR, they can be sucessful or not?, how much would you "wait" (to be patient until you decide to get married)?
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Personally I think they can be successful as long as you love each other unconditionally. I'm in an LDR myself, partnered with a German guy as well ^.^ Sure it's definitely not like physical contact, but knowing that we are there for each other, being able to treasure my partner more when we finally reunite, realising that these things are not to be taken for granted, these things are special connections that only LDR couples experience as we treasure each other more when together. Wow that's so cheesy sorry! But yea we have talked about marriage and the future, and although it's scary, I know that at the end of the tunnel, I will be on a one way ticket to him.
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Yes sometimes it is scary but I have confidence on my guy that he will finally accept, I tried searching for a job in Germany but is harder than marriage. He told me there is near his home a gay center where they offer legal advice, but he hasn't told me more (if he made an appointment with the lawyer or not).
He knows i am not after the papers, that i love him unconditionally as he does for me. For being two years i think is going fine, because i had one that lasted one year and we had to say goodbye because he got desperated (he was als german :D, and chubby with nice vbeard)
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Sometimes i feel sad because the distance between us, but try to be happy for what i have
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Definitely try to be happy as much as possible. If you're sad all the time, then the relationship will just be memories of sadness and what could've been. But yea good luck for the both of you!
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Thank you for you support i know is hard but but not impossible
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I can't do LDR's but I know multiple people who met their partners and started on a LDR before moving together.
FYI to get a job in Germany, you'll need apply for a work visa first.
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I wouldn't marry anybody until I've lived with them for at least a year. LDRs can work and be very beautiful, but marriage is another thing. While your visits may be great, that's not the same as living with someone and in my opinion that's how you really get to know a partner. How does he handle household finances, can you agree on household decisions, how is our chemistry after spending everyday seeing each other?
This is just my opinion and experience.
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I think it can work but it takes a LOT of work.
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Their is this guy I dated for 6 months he loves me and I do too but then I had to leave for one year for a job and we are now keeping a long distance relationship. We obviously talk day and night but it's killing me and I'm sort of panicking and thinking what if I haven't met him I don't know anything anymore help!!!
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My teacher always said: in a long-distance relationship , the four are happy
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Long distance is absolutely possible. My boyfriend and I were in a long distance relationship for just over a year when we decided to move in together. Granted, it was just across the county. You would have to move all the way around the world… But maybe you could suggest that instead of pushing marriage? Just be open and honest about your feelings.
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I Think that if you can't plan to be really together all become an ideal of what could be if, you fall in love of the possible future but not of the present.
If you suffer the distance alot, maybe you deserve a real guy near you. The only thing that you cant recover is time, dont´t waste it.
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It can work, but it's also stressful. We used to do it a long time ago.
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There are lots of different types of relationships. Are you still with him?
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no
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My husband and I started living together in 2011 after living apart since 1997 when we first started dating. We have also lived in different states (he is CA and me in MI then him in MI and me in CA then him in MI and me in VA). We finally got married last October after being together for 19 years. It can work but takes a lot of work and communication.
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Never works.
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I've tried with a Brazilian until a month ago and no, I would not do it again. I mean, really, how much can you talk through whatsapp during the day? It becomes boring at some point, and I'm not even going into the obvious point that you can't touch them nor hold them. Not to say anything about having sex.
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Only be in an LDR if there is strong potential for the long-distance aspect to end. For example, waiting through college. Otherwise, it is not worth it. After all, you don't want your lifestyle to just be LDR.
