Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea?
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To be candid.
The difficult part isn't deciding to have a kid or not. There are worse reasons to want to have a kid and better reasons none of which would honestly last until you get the kid weaned. The only thing that matters is your reponsibility when you have a kid. -
Worth to have a try. having children is not just your own matter, it’s about your blood lineage. You have responsibility to bring up your children even abnegate some personal things such as your sexuality…, you should earn more money to feed the family and give them a better living environment. Finally you will gain the benefits. When you get older you won’t die in solitude. And one day you will proud of your
behavior.Most of us to be a gay caused by a irresponsible father, so learn how to be a competent father is very important. I don’t want to make a judgment of most of us. But I must say some people only love themselves, in this case the intention of setting up a family is not reliable, they don’t know what’s the responsibility of relationship or family, the only thing they want is they need. They treat their family or partner as a trophy.
To be a homosexual person will lead a hard life, but the life there isn’t different from the heterosexual person.
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No, I guess there are possible reasons to become a parents that this. Having children is always a bit selfish, especially in our case when there is no way for us to conceive them the normal way.
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No, I guess there are possible reasons to become a parents that this. Having children is always a bit selfish, especially in our case when there is no way for us to conceive them the normal way.
sorry i don’t agree with you about the selfish part of to be a father.
people are different, why you separate gay to be a freak? -
Worth to have a try. having children is not just your own matter, it’s about your blood lineage. You have responsibility to bring up your children even abnegate some personal things such as your sexuality…, you should earn more money to feed the family and give them a better living environment. Finally you will gain the benefits. When you get older you won’t die in solitude. And one day you will proud of your
behavior.Most of us to be a gay caused by a irresponsible father, so learn how to be a competent father is very important. I don’t want to make a judgment of most of us. But I must say some people only love themselves, in this case the intention of setting up a family is not reliable, they don’t know what’s the responsibility of relationship or family, the only thing they want is they need. They treat their family or partner as a trophy.
To be a homosexual person will lead a hard life, but the life there isn’t different from the heterosexual person.
True..
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Well… children won't be children forever and some day they'll get independent, bringing back the void you're describing.
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I dont think its possible to decide to have kids without being driven by the need to fulfill ones dreams and plans in life.
Another thing we get wrong in such theoretic discussions I think is the fact that there doesnt have to be one and only drive behind something like this. Different motives and reasons can coexist. The need for self fulfillment doesnt cancel ones ability to do it justice.As far as raising kids goes, all you need imo is the kind of character that can give love to the people around them. If you can love someone and care for them, what does it matter if deep down you see having kids as the next stage in your life that will help you grow as a person?
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Well… children won't be children forever and some day they'll get independent, bringing back the void you're describing.
you love your children not only love they are kids. no matter how old are they, they are still your son and daughter, the firstborn son have special responsibility here, as I did for my father, he will do the same things, make your family name continue, and take care parents if them needs when they are old. he will get all of my heritage (alto I only get several furry clothes from my father) but My son will get a lot of wealth from me. The motivation of earn more money after a marriage is all about them. that’s the reason of why I can’t living with my brother, we have those responsibility, he can’t have child for me and me too. finally responsibility beats the sexual orientation.
plz don’t treat your children like some kinds of pets. treat them like yourself.
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If you are not filling fullfilled is up to you. The kid wont make it happen… not a good mindset to do it and worse; you will put a expectation to the kid`s life.
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In Christian faiths, Adam and Eve were put on earth to reproduce and start the human race.
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In Christian faiths, Adam and Eve were put on earth to reproduce and start the human race.
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Now that the spammer above has been quieted, I'll offer my answer to the question at hand.
I'm a bit stymied by the question itself. Don't most people have children, in large part, to feel fulfilled? And if "feeling fulfilled" includes doing their best job at child rearing and development, why are we posing the question as if that, in itself, is a bad idea?
At least it was interesting to hear opposing views from a few GTRU members in countries/societies where having children was still intertwined with ancient traditions about family lineage, building up bigger tribes, and various patriarchal imperatives.
It made my glad that I live in a progressive and less-rigid social environment, especially as many of these more static cultures are not accepting of living one's gay truth. Imho, of course.
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Bad idea
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Having children for the sake of feeling fulfilled is a bad idea. Let's say you have a child and the only feeling you have is fulfilled? What happens when that fulfillment disappears? Is the love for both your partner and child still there? It most likely isn't, and it opens the door of wandering to other sexual partners or even being an absentee parent. It happens a lot in this world unfortunately; having kids because of love and caring is the way to go.
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Having children just to feel fulfilled is like having a trophy wife, well it's a trophy family to be exact. It's not good, because having a child for that purpose is useless, and could be extremely harmful. My advice: adopt/raise kids if you really do want kids to raise, but if you don't then just don't adopt any at all.
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Personally I think we should leave child rearing to straight people.
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the good thing about being gay and having kids, you can wait until you're truly ready.
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I have a neighbor who I found out has always been gay, but got married at 42, had 2 kids who are now 6 and 2. I found out he is fucking a 32 year old man who lives down the block. He tried to force me to sell him my house for 20% of its value so he could move his boyfriend into my house which is across the street from him. I told him to get lost, and somehow his wife found out that he's been fucking the guy down the block. They are now heading for a divorce. He never dares even talk to the guy down the block anymore, but the damage has been done.
