How old were you when you find that you gay ??
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I knew when I was 11 - 12 but I "tried" to deny that part of me. I came out when I was 19
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I was aware of it when I was 5 or 6, as my first vivid memory is of my mother freaking out when she saw me trying to watch one of my uncles shower. I didn't quite understand it though until a few years later, when a talk, I mean condemnation from the church minister informed me of my "problem". I never denied it, but it rarely came up. If someone asked, I would answer honestly, much to my mothers shame. Her obsessive need to have a perfect family and appear to be the perfect family was quite the constant reminder that I was a problem.
I grew up in a Christian church, went to a Christian school, and only knew other Christians. Most people knew that I was gay, and didn't appreciate it. I never acted on it in any way, nor did I act gay in any way. There were no tell tale signs, but with a closed group of people, it was known.
Anyways, long story short, I went quite crazy at 18 shortly after meeting and having sex with the first gay person I had met (That wasn't the cause). I had no interest in men or women until I was 24, then turned back to "normal"… mostly. Yay!
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It's amazing to read your stories and see little bits of myself in many of them.
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It is always hard to pinpoint the exact time, but even as a child, when I was around 8 years old, I was very interested in the male body and especially in watching or showering with boys. Naked boys or men fascinated me but I could not understand why nor did I know what being gay was. Then joining the boy scouts and going to camp opened a whole new world at 12 and as they say, the rest is history
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I think when I was 13 I knew for sure. Puberty kicked in, for a short while I had the hots for the female sex, but that changed shortly after. Yeah, the puberty confusion happened the other way around for me than is usually told to be the case, hah! ;D
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I didn't know the term "gay" when I was a kid and I've always thought (and still does) that being infatuated with a dude is normal.
My homophobic parents taught me that, "gay" people are obnoxiously effeminate people who wears make up and so on…
It was only on my 1st year in High School (14 y.o.) that everything became clear to me -- that I was gay all along, and the things that my parent told me were nothing but hate.
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i think when i was 12
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I didn't know the term "gay" when I was a kid and I've always thought (and still does) that being infatuated with a dude is normal.
My homophobic parents taught me that, "gay" people are obnoxiously effeminate people who wears make up and so on…
It was only on my 1st year in High School (14 y.o.) that everything became clear to me – that I was gay all along, and the things that my parent told me were nothing but hate.
My parents taught me that, too. They fed me this stereotype that gay men are really effeminate and obnoxiously open and "in your face" about being gay and discussing sex. We're also very well groomed and lean and toned and have a niche for the arts. When I came out, I "couldn't be gay" because I was a clumsy tone-deaf colorblind bear that had been feeding them lies about liking girls since forever.
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I really don't know when it started, I think it happens when I was 14 y.o. It was when I discovered porn for the first time. I never feel aroused by looking at women. And, I always feel strange when I look at man things. Especially older folks. So yeah…
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I don't remember a time where I wasn't gay. I think I've known it since I was a child.
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around 6/7 years old
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VERY young… like before puberty
my cousin who's about 5 years older than me showed me a (straight) porno VHS he had, and I found myself mesmerized by the men and totally ignored the women. then I coerced him into letting me suck his dick lol
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Around 14 years, it just dawned onto me that the videos I watch I watch them for the men in them. :surprise:
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I didn't know the term "gay" when I was a kid and I've always thought (and still does) that being infatuated with a dude is normal.
My homophobic parents taught me that, "gay" people are obnoxiously effeminate people who wears make up and so on…
It was only on my 1st year in High School (14 y.o.) that everything became clear to me – that I was gay all along, and the things that my parent told me were nothing but hate.
My parents taught me that, too. They fed me this stereotype that gay men are really effeminate and obnoxiously open and "in your face" about being gay and discussing sex. We're also very well groomed and lean and toned and have a niche for the arts. When I came out, I "couldn't be gay" because I was a clumsy tone-deaf colorblind bear that had been feeding them lies about liking girls since forever.
I'm not effeminate nor am I masculine, maybe something in between. I am not that over-sexual too, that it's everything that I talk about. But these things shouldn't matter. It's not like we're hurting anybody. It's "their" problem that they're annoyed by it.
I'm not mad at them for telling me these lies - they just aren't educated about this and then there's "religion". From this situation, I've learned a lot: to always ask or question about things before making a judgement, etc…
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I was too scared to do anything until I was 18 - I just thought I had a tendency that will slowly subside ::)
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I guess when I was 13. I remember watching a beer advertisement where this guy was peeing in an urinal and found him hot. That's when I had my first hard on watching a guy.
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I had an idea around the age of 14 when I got a mad crush on my history teacher, many a time id just want him to fuck my arse after class
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I didn't have the full realization until I was about 20 or 21
I always knew I was "different" from other kids but, up until puberty, I thought that was because I was very smart and academically inclined. As I reached puberty, I got got clues like how my friends seemed to get a very physical, visceral reaction when they saw a girl they liked. I didn't seem to get that same feeling. At 16 I had my first experience. It was with a guy. After I went away to university, I realized that I'd get that same strong gut reaction my high school friends did but it happened to me when I saw a hot guy. By this time, I was playing with guys and going to bars. There was one Sunday morning when I'd just finished playing with my boyfriend at the time and I realized, "This is what I like. I like guys." I don't think that I could admit to myself that I liked guys until I realized that I could like guys and still be "me". I didn't have to act effeminate or talk with a lisp. I don't hide the fact that I'm gay but I don't advertise it either. I just don't think that my preference is relevant to every conversation or inter-personal relationship that I have.
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Six or Sever years old maybe younger. I always played with my friend as a female character but I started to be fond of guys when I was 12.
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My very, very first exposure is…second grade. Mike Tyson vs. Evander Holyfield. laughs awkwardly
I didn't think much of it back then but in fourth-fifth grade there's this (male) friend of my brother who smells so good and-- unlike with most girls, I have this desire to sniff around more and more..
..but I think it is during my middle school era that I know more about sexuality, about GLBTQ+, and about yaoi. And there's no looking back.
There's also an interaction with the Internet crowd that made me sure..yep.
