I'm sexually attracted to women and romantically attracted to men?
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I am a woman, just to clarify.)
The title question pretty much sums it up. I really only feel sexually attracted to other women. I'm not repulsed at all by the idea of having sex with a man, but it doesn't appeal to me in the least. Having sex with a woman, on the other hand, is something that I love doing and would absolutely do again. This is becoming a problem for me, because I only see myself in long-term relationships with men, which obviously destroys my relationships with women.
I've considered just giving up on enjoying myself in bed, but I think that a satisfying sex life is part of a healthy relationship. Is this something that gay people experience? Am I just not comfortable on some level with the idea of spending my life in a homosexual relationship? This is really frustrating for me, because I'll give up enjoying sex for a great, monogamous relationship with a man, but I don't particularly want to, and I don't particularly want to have an open relationship.
Is there something that I can do to make men more attractive sexually?
(Sorry for the essay, I'm just a little annoyed and lost.)
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I suggest you read the book "Delusions of Gender" by Cordelia Fine. Might clarify some things up.
Maybe you'll eventually run into a woman you're attracted to, but who also has some of those qualities you are "romantically" attracted to in a male, but in a woman.
Fascinating case I must say. Best of luck. ;D
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"several" gay men are emotionally attached to women and sexually to men, living in the straight world you are taught patterns of romance… that might lead to this... but that is me actually just trying to figure it out, my first gay memory was seeing small hairs going down the neck and spine of a friend in 3rd grade...(finding the light and skin beautiful) in a way i can see now, how it was not really sexual or romantic but the balanced mix that I felt that day, but one thing that made me crash the mold of thoughts i had was to read a lot of gay romance comics, not the let's shag kind but the romantic kind, maybe it just helped my brain to get to the, it's ok to have this kind of emotional response to that impulse too... :hug2:
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Sometimes things in sex and attraction are not just black or white. People have to explore things that turn them on
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good
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i'm a men and i'm attractted with both men and women fisically, romantically only with women. I suppose that's my definition of bisex