Spanking & Sex
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I was going to post a poll but it seems like a long process so I decided to just open a thread:
What's everyone's view on combining sex with spanking? Like it? Hate it? This topic was recently raised in an email group I subscribe to and I thought it was interesting. For me it has always been a sexual thing, although I like to give PROPER spanking, not just the playful slaps, it doesn't have to be a lead to sex but nothing turns me on than to tan the boy's butt nice and red.
I'm posting this to "test the water" as I intend to open a thread to seek people's ideas in play (James you probably can comment if this is appropriate for this SIG?)
Cheers
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Hey,
Thanks for bringing this up
I think there are a variety of folks into spanking, and that includes all genders, some straight guys love being spanked by another guy, but without the
sex, for other guys sex plays a mild or heavier role depending on the appetities of the two individuals.In the case of partners definately it is included in foreplay or perhaps more and I guess it depends on the relationship as well. There are also lots of different levels of spanking, from mild erotic to heavier role play and all can be a precurser to sex, or as part of. In my own situation there are both, we sometimes enjoy erotic sessions followed my some amazing sex and on the other hand as we practice domestic discipline, I can be spanked as punishment which I can tell you always begins with one hell of an erection, but that soon tapers down as my partner reddens my rear end but at the same time that can also lead to some pretty sizzling sex later on …...
Being spanked during our more intimate bedroom fun is always really hot, anything from a few swats to being taken over his lap while we are both naked can be ... well you get the idea I guess
Anyway there is what i think!
James
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Sounds very interesting James, I'm very into humiliation scene too, so I was going to suggest everyone to share their ideas etc, you think that's still within the guidelines of the group?
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Absaloutely, there is so much that can spice things up and make it interesting.
In terms of humiliation I think it caters to a deeper emotional need and for sure there are plenty that go with spanking. If I get moody and 'out of sorts' its not unusual for me to find myself standing in the corner, nose to wall for a bit of attitude adjusting, which 90% of the time leads to well spanked bottom.
Other tactics my Top uses are:
Confining me to nothing other than a teeshirt for a day (offers easy access)
Sitting bare butt in the spanking chair, either before or after a spanking and sometimes both
Laying over the spanking chair prior to my spanking, naked
Brushing my hair with the very thing he is going to spank me with (the hairbrush)
Ensuring the hairbrush and paddle are packed before trips (drives me nuts that one)
Occasionally but not very often I have to write an essay on a subject usually on one of our rules I brokeBut the very worst one ….......
There are a few people that know we practice DD, some individuals and some couples, (close friends) and occasionally
a warning is given, subtle mind you but enough to attract either a wink of the eye or sympathetic look, that has my
face going reder than my bare bottom ever has been and has me twitiching in a certain place
But would love here otheres views and experiences
James
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Great ideas James!
I like the T shirt only days, though with my interest, I'd add a pair of white socks
I have also tried the essay idea, and being naught boys, confession about masturbation is an all time favourite -
Tee only days do happen, I would say on average twice a month, usually on a weekend but you are right I do wear socks as well, because it would be too cold walking on the floor otherwise! It's a bit like being grounded in a sense, because you arent't going anywhere in just a tee, and if my partner goes out for any reason I spend some time in the corner - to be truthful, I sneak out of the corner once I am sure he has gone and park myself back when I hear the car in the drive
Tee days as I am sure you can guess are always accompnied with spankings, usually several, spread out over the day and evening when we discuss my behaviour at some legnth and any rules or boundaries I managed to break. What is interesting is that a tee day can be announced out of the blue for what could be termed as a review or maintenace session - it spices things up a lot and I just never know when one is going to happen …... its the not knowing and the sudden finality that one is about to begin out of the blue, for example at breakfast my partner might look up and say 'strip to your tee and go stand in the corner before your first spanking'
The rest well, you know what happens then .....
James
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Sounds great, although the sock part is my fetish
I think we should really compare notes with ideas.
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White thong and socks, over the knee, head down, bottom up and his hard hand on my soft bottom.
Thats another favourite top senario!
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white socks goes well with jockstraps and running shorts IMO, perfect for hairbrush and ruler
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Owww the haibrush! Reches the parts no other impliment can! especially the curves of the cheeks!
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I LOVE a good spank. To bend over my husbands knee (in my jockstrap) and get a real spank. I can get so horny i literally cum (precum that is). So Yes spanking its at great part of our sexlife.
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My boyfriend spanks me hard whilst fucking me, dayum it feels so good.
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:true: :zing:
I don't care about one things then the other, if you can get both of them at the same time, nothing beats a really good rimjob with some hard slaps in between >:D
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My partner (sub) and I (top) always use spanking/Corporal Punishment to start our play sessions.
We have collected a wide range of implements which adds to the play.
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I couldn't agree with this more! Even though it seems to be a while ago…
I always refer to spanking as both erotic sexual enjoyment and life-long individual well-being. For long have I imagined a sort a relationship where I could practice both whenever needed. The erotic kind of spanking should be mild, from my point of view, since for me what turns me on is not the severe pain(it depends on one's level of endurance) but the whole process of the spanking ritual. And the serious spanking, or simply addressed as discipline or corporal punishments more popularly, which is adopted as a method to keep one in line if he thinks adults still need to be castigated and righted when making mistakes, should be really painful. It should be strictly education-oriented, no sexuality involved, old-fashioned and therefore renders one squirm around, kick legs, and possibly shed tears and cry out loud.Hey,
Thanks for bringing this up
I think there are a variety of folks into spanking, and that includes all genders, some straight guys love being spanked by another guy, but without the
sex, for other guys sex plays a mild or heavier role depending on the appetities of the two individuals.In the case of partners definately it is included in foreplay or perhaps more and I guess it depends on the relationship as well. There are also lots of different levels of spanking, from mild erotic to heavier role play and all can be a precurser to sex, or as part of. In my own situation there are both, we sometimes enjoy erotic sessions followed my some amazing sex and on the other hand as we practice domestic discipline, I can be spanked as punishment which I can tell you always begins with one hell of an erection, but that soon tapers down as my partner reddens my rear end but at the same time that can also lead to some pretty sizzling sex later on …...
Being spanked during our more intimate bedroom fun is always really hot, anything from a few swats to being taken over his lap while we are both naked can be ... well you get the idea I guess
Anyway there is what i think!
James
