Help to spice up our relationship?
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Hey guys,
So my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. About 9 months now. And things have been kind of… boring? Well it has been for a while... but never knew what to do. So I am coming to you guys for some advice
My bf john is, a lot older than I am. He is 33 while I am 19. Im into older guys, what can I say. He's pretty much straight up top. He let me top him before, but I found bottoming more enjoyable.
Anyways onto the problems.
One problem that bugs me is that, our sex has pretty much become routine. theres no more spice to it. I grab his dick and toy around with him, then I give him a blow job then he fucks me. Then we move on.
What he normally does when I give him a blowjob, is that he just lays there.. I mean yea he's enjoying it but he doesnt grab my head or face fucks me or nothing. He just lets me do the work.
2nd is that, normally while in bed he wants me to ride him, and I really dont enjoy that position since I dont feel nothing at all. even while taking in his 7 1/2 inch hard on.
3rd, kissing... I love to make out but it seems he doesnt. And I cant really kiss his neck or mess with his ear since he is ticklish. As soon as I go near his neck he starts to laugh or blocks me.
And lastly, he doesn't really like to give blowjobs. I love the feeling but he can never last long. If he ever does start sucking me, its only for like a minute or two.Now, those are problems I have with him.
Now for mine..
i've given up on masturbating during sex since it takes me forever to cum... I honestly don't understand why it takes forever... my bf tells me I should be happy that I last this long, and I say to myself "yea if I was a top, the bottom would be in full joy". Masturbating just becomes a frustration rather than a pleasure. Been a few times where I was able to cum while he was inside of me. And I feel like part of it is due to the fact that there is no spice in our sex to turn me on to the point where I just cant hold it anymore.2nd, is there a better way for me to clean myself before anal sex? He bought me a(n) enema, but having to clean it out every time after its use takes a long time and I lose the mood and it ends up not happening. Any products out there you guys would recommend that would be faster?
3rd, need some advice on giving some amazing blowjobs. its been only about 4-6 times where I have gotten him to shoot his load while I blow him. I wanna rock his world with something new.
Need some advice fellas, what should I tell him? I dont want to be rude....
and what advice could you guys gives to me.Thanks in advance guys!
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What about some dildo play?
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Lol, not into dildo play. Only sex toy we own is a Flesh Light.
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Well, even a flesh light is a sex toy for me
What about trying anything new, like frottage, (cum) docking, self fuck or self fuck?
The partner could be very useful in the last 2 options :cool2:
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self fucking sounds interesting but I dont think my dick can bend that way lol.
im only about…6 1/2 inches when erect, but ill give it a go lol. -
Well, self suck or self fuck can be interested because you could need the help of your partner for some position, or to bend over on your stomach.
I think that cum docking is interesting, too. Or, as a friend of mine do with his boy: he jerk himself off, and after he cums he gets all his jizz into his mouth and does a cum swapping with his boyfriend.
Everything to spice air up :hug2:
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Put some chili seeds in your lube, that'll spice things up. :cheesy2:
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sometimes you have to use your tongue and lips and put them on different spots… like the back of his ear, nibble his earlobe, nibble his nips, that sort of thing.
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boyfriend is out at work so I just tried self fucking.
I think I got close to getting the head in but I think my dick is too small to self fuck :S….
All I would get is the head..
And plus as much as I try it just ends up slipping or getting too hard. I get hard waay to easily. So getting my mind off of it is kinda difficult lol..
Any tips on self fucking? Kinda caught my interest after seeing some videosThing is I can feel my dick over my ass hole, I just cant get it in.
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For self-fucking your dick has to be soft enough to slide in your hole. If it's hard it becomes impossible and you get horny and you need to wank
In some videos, as you can see, you need to do more practice, spending lot of times shaping your body in the best way, but in the end if you wind you get endless pleasures.
If I were you, I could try even "self-suck": licking cum is good, but having a taste of our own is like to get on top of Everest :cheers:
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One way to spruce things up a little involves some chocolate sauce, strawberries, and whip cream… I think you should have an erotic enough mind to figure out where I'm going with that
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sounds painful… hehehe :cheesy2:
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Lol, i just gave up on self fucking.
I mean sure I can try the whole licking off deserts from him. Im just trying to get him to do more since he seems to be a lazy top lol… Just a while a go I was blowing him and I asked him if he can stand up and I lay on my back for him to face fuck me. But he said he didn't want to cause 1. when he face fucks me he thinks he's gonna choke me. 2. In his words "too much work". Lol.... I kinda get irritated at times, but eh... I dont want to have to ruin the moment from getting ourselves turned on and then making it into an argument. -
I dont want to have to ruin the moment from getting ourselves turned on and then making it into an argument.
Sex means fun not arguments and critics
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Hey Marius,
sounds to me that you are sexually frustrated. That's a bad omen for a relationship.
I think you really need to talk with your bf about this. Let him know in clear words what you want and need. If he doesn't understand that you BOTH need to have fun, then he's not the right guy for you.
I don't think that 33 is too old to learn a few new tricks but if he's too lazy to make an effort and satisfy your needs too then it's not going to work. The two of you might agree to open your relationship. Maybe invite a third guy to your bed to spice things up and give your cock the needed sucking. Or get yourself a fuck/suck buddy who is able to satisfy what you don't get from your bf.
I've been in similar situations. Met this cute, smart and nice 25 year old with a killer body but after a few months I just was bored to death with him. He didn't like to suck, he didn't like to get sucked, kiss or cuddle… he just lay down on his stomach and offered his bubble ass. Lick and fuck... that was the routine. We had a talk and agreed that it doesn't work. Good sex is part of any relationship.
Sure, after a few months it's not so exciting anymore and the sex frequency drops from 3 times a day to 2 times a week. And by then you know the sexual repertoire of your partner, but that's when serious communication has to start.
I've had relationships where we both had unfulfilled cravings and we agreed to have sex outside of the relationship...
I love oral and when that's missing it's becoming a big issue. My fuck buddy is cock crazy. He's the only guy I know who can make me cum with his mouth. He's an expert. And he likes to fuck rough and has the most amazing ass... but he's not bf material and doesn't want a bf... so it's the perfect arrangement.What I am trying to say: Every relationship is unique and you and your bf have to find a solution which suits both of you. Talk, talk, talk...
And honestly: you are only 19 and probably want to experiment a lot more before you end up in a relationship which is frustrating in bed.
If you can't find common ground and your bf doesn't get off his ass and makes you happy, the relationship is doomed. If he loves you he will do whatever he has to to satisfy your needs.added:
regarding cock sucking skills: practice, practice, practice and observe how the partner reacts... It's a skill you can learn... my fuck buddy is so good... when I face fuck him i honestly don't know if I am in his mouth or his ass.... he knows how to squeeze and let go... it's the most amazing feeling.... don't be frustrated if you can't make him cum. Some guys simply cannot reach an orgasm with oral...cleaning yourself: do it a few hours before sex... during that time your body can absorb left over liquid... I don't like the ready to use enemas... screwing off the shower head or getting a special attachment for anal cleaning is better. A few low pressure shots of water in your rectum, squeeze it out, rinse again... until there is no dark matter coming out anymore... don't fill yourself up with too much water... or you will never get clean... It's only the first few inches in your ass which are important...
Good luck,
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