28, No BF
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I'm 28 and I've never had a BF and don't get what is going wrong here.
I have only ever topped guys, only ever been interested in guys, and sexually only really started playing about 4 years ago.
I've met a tonne of guys through Grindr, a handful who come back for more (but unfortunately the ones I fall for move abroad so nothing further happens). A couple are still friends but 99% vanish before round 2. I've even reached out to a handful of rentboys and banged them (for free) for fun so I don't think physical attraction is a problem here. Several find BFs after meeting me or just never reply or reply and we chat chat chat and nothing happens (despite inviting them back, or to the cinema, or for a drink etc). In the US its a completely different story, to the point that I got a proposal after 1 night.
I had little/no success on other apps in London (but Scruff worked well in the US, and Tinder was mostly yap yap no meeting for coffee even).
However, I am still alone as f**k and I really don't get why. Stable job. Decent looking (I think!?). Fit and healthy. In London. Been told I'm a decent guy.
My friend says it will happen when it does but at this point I feel like I've been through a tonne of guys and for none of them to have stuck is very odd. I've been to a therapist to be honest and was discharged because they said there is nothing wrong with me.
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Hmmm, there is actually nothing wrong there mate. Except getting kind of obsessed over it, enjoy life as it is or add up that you're open to long or serious relationships besides the shagging, perhaps that'll help?
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Yeah I always have on my profile I’m open to more if we click (friends etc) and a few have become friends also.
But no one ‘dates’ me it seems and literally everyone I speak to has had at least one BF. I’m not obsessed over finding one - it will happen when it does - it is just weird after this much time nothing has stuck given I’ve met a tonne of guys at this point.
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Sounds complicated, you're gonna have to keep trying so, good luck and get stylish. That won't fail :cool2:
