Dick size in relationship
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Guys… I never thought I would create such a stupid topic. But how do you feel about sizes... REALLY.
I had a funny situation, I'm talking more and more with the guy I thought we had started to think about something like relationship cause it was clearly not a friendly talk. If he was here we would already date and stuff. I made a joke something about a penis and then he said he hates small penises and if he was below 15cm he would have a surgery and that it's so egoistic towards the other person. I joked "well with my 4inch penis I won't embarass you then, so let's part here" he said "well to be honest I couldn't go on with that. we don't have to end the relation - we can be colleagues forever". And I was like. WOW. "Are you joking?". And he wasn't. Literally. I thought it was all a joke. To me it was at least.
So that makes me think. Would you really turn down someone because of the size?
I can say it was a joke and I can prove him wrong and then continue the relation, but... lol wouldn't it concern you ? So what, you'll have an accident - like my friend had one and he had a surgery and he has now average balls instead of huge like they were before - would you leave someone then? What? Just what the fuck. So if I loose an arm during a war or just a finger or have acne, then he would leave me because of my appearance? How many of you focus on the dick? Cause I take in an account actually everything BUT it. -
Guys… I never thought I would create such a stupid topic. But how do you feel about sizes.
So if I loose an arm during a war or just a finger or have acne, then he would leave me because of my appearance? How many of you focus on the dick? Cause I take in an account actually everything BUT it.
It's not a dumb topic.
A little prolog, gay men when I was coming out were obsessed with sex and had too few places for release. There was comparatively little pornography to todays supersaturation and nowhere near the knowledge of what you could do sexually.
When I came out my first bf was way too big for me and since we didn't know what we were doing, sex was awful but when I gossipped with my friends they were all envious: a man with a big dick was what you wanted, so that idea got wedged into my mind.
Sometime later I dated a guy with, no joke, about 1.5 - 2-inch penis. It freaked me out. We had sex but I ghosted him later.
Now that I'm older and understand where sex fits into a relationship and know what I'm doing in bed, penis size isn't so important.
I guess what I'm trying to say in a roundabout way is that for many men there's a learning curve where you think you know what you want, you think you know what sex means, then you grow up and put things into perspective. Of course, there are people who never mature past a certain point and others who need a longer penis to be able to reach inside. For me, not such a big deal.
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I think it is a good question, and not really an easy answer. Yes, I agree with being cautious about being superficiality, , but there is also something said for honesty. Years ago, early on in a conversation, a guy I was talking to made it clear that he only like 8+ which I am not. It saved me a ton of time, because I am not 8+ and no need to judge him, at least he knew that was what mattered other than pretending to be something he is not. It is kind of like would you want someone who hated giving head to "pretend" to like oral and then be dissatisfied later?
I think what you are describing is a yellow flag, not a red flag. If you have the equipment he is looking for…then keep chatting. Ask some other questions and see if he is really just a superficial prick, or just has a fascination with large dicks (which would not be unique to him).
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hmmmm - if you met him on website i would said ok - there are people who want it big, try to discover if he is prick anyway - like, if i would have relationship i would not leave someone who got in accident and now has smaller penis, it isnt only about sex
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I don't know really, it's sex, I try not to be so judgemental when it comes to that. Sometimes I met bottoms that asked me whether I was close or above 19 cm for they told me "they would not feel my penis otherwise". I was shocked, to say the least but in the end. It's that. Some gays get to be really shallow but you could always choose not to talk to them anymore. That's what I do. :blind:
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I think it is a good question, and not really an easy answer. Yes, I agree with being cautious about being superficiality, , but there is also something said for honesty. Years ago, early on in a conversation, a guy I was talking to made it clear that he only like 8+ which I am not. It saved me a ton of time, because I am not 8+ and no need to judge him, at least he knew that was what mattered other than pretending to be something he is not. It is kind of like would you want someone who hated giving head to "pretend" to like oral and then be dissatisfied later?
I think what you are describing is a yellow flag, not a red flag. If you have the equipment he is looking for…then keep chatting. Ask some other questions and see if he is really just a superficial prick, or just has a fascination with large dicks (which would not be unique to him).
I don't know really, it's sex, I try not to be so judgemental when it comes to that. Sometimes I met bottoms that asked me whether I was close or above 19 cm for they told me "they would not feel my penis otherwise". I was shocked, to say the least but in the end. It's that. Some gays get to be really shallow but you could always choose not to talk to them anymore. That's what I do. :blind:
What you both mentioned… I'm ok with that. But you skipped the most important part. I wouldn't bother with someone who is like that from the start. But the issues is - we talked for months before it happened. So it wasn't "early in the conversation".
We didn't talk since I started this topic. Says for itself...
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warpaint, I am sorry about your experience. :hug2: That guy sounds really superficial. :blink:
What if you for example gained or lost weight.. :crazy2: Would he have ended things because of that?![😕](https://community.gaytorrent.ru/assets/plugins/nodebb-plugin-emoji/emoji/apple/1f615.png?v=hvqg2qn0nb4 ":-\")
You are better of without him and people like him.
I guess everyone is a bit superficial, but I don't understand how a "small" penis could be a deal-breaker.
I could understand if it's a micropenis, but 15 cm is more than enough, especially if it has girth. -
warpaint, I am sorry about your experience. :hug2: That guy sounds really superficial. :blink:
What if you for example gained or lost weight.. :crazy2: Would he have ended things because of that? You are better of without him and people like him.
I guess everyone is a bit superficial, but I don't understand how a "small" penis could be a deal-breaker.
I could understand if it's a micropenis, but 15 cm is more than enough, especially if it has girth.Aww cute, thanks. I don't understand it either. Mine is a little over those 15 so not big, but I fucking love it. It could be bigger but at least I can fit it anywhere without lube and guys noticing I'm trying to fuck them hahaha. And I though this guy is a decent one…
So it doesn't matter for you guys. But there is a lot of dudes on grindr who won't even talk to anything under 21 cm. This is so funny. At least I know who to block. -
warpaint, I am sorry about your experience. :hug2: That guy sounds really superficial. :blink:
What if you for example gained or lost weight.. :crazy2: Would he have ended things because of that? You are better of without him and people like him.
I guess everyone is a bit superficial, but I don't understand how a "small" penis could be a deal-breaker.
I could understand if it's a micropenis, but 15 cm is more than enough, especially if it has girth.Aww cute, thanks. I don't understand it either. Mine is a little over those 15 so not big, but I fucking love it. It could be bigger but at least I can fit it anywhere without lube and guys noticing I'm trying to fuck them hahaha. And I though this guy is a decent one…
So it doesn't matter for you guys. But there is a lot of dudes on grindr who won't even talk to anything under 21 cm. This is so funny. At least I know who to block.I find that people have distorted perceptions when it comes to penis sizes. :cheesy2: I bet most have not seen a 21 cm penis, since a lot of men are not completely honest about their size. :blink: To be honest I don't understand why you would even want to talk to someone who only cares about penis size. :crazy2: I mean.. That's such a limited way of thinking. :cry2: There are more important things when it comes to a relationship.
