Porn and Masturbation -- Not a Bad Habit
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I've been single for almost 6 years now due to the difficulty of finding men who want a serious relationship but that's not necessarily a bad thing neither. I know some people who are sexually active and have sex with strangers daily, while being on PREP and using protection responsibly. But I don't like sex with strangers.
I'm the kind of guy who wants sex only once total commitment has been reached and settled between me and the guy. But that doesn't mean I don't like sex. I've been out of work lately due to cardiac reasons and that resulted in me having a lot more free time. It means I also upped my daily masturbation times from twice a day to around seven times a day.
But honestly, porn and masturbation isn't really a bad thing as of itself, in my opinion. I always had a soft side for black men, especially after the death of my Kenyan fiancé back in 2019. Ever since I had him, my love for black men just completely skyrocketed. I got myself a black dick toy for oral purposes and I consume a lot of bbc porn. And it's not just the dick. Their faces has an impressive quality to it. It's hard for me to look away. It's so rough and yet terribly beautiful.
I'm going back to Africa next month to visit my in laws (we kept contact after my betrothed died) and apart from all the rest, the smell over there is just incredible. And the light and colours are all greatly enhanced because of the altitude. Anyone who loves black men would love it there.
Anyway, here I am rambling but I just wanted to enthuse about my newfound masturbation addiction. And I can't really say I find it bad whatsoever. What about you guys?
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@romantyke i am your antithesis!
i am aromantic, meaning i often don't feel any connection with sex partners other than the physical attraction. to me all attraction towards my partners come from what i see, smell, and of course from whatever i project onto them, which is inevitable. once i start to know them more intimatelly, i still find them physically attractive, but sexually i lose all interest, because that stranger who could be everything I crave no longer exists.
on the matter of masturbation, i share the same habit, but i would not go as far as calling it an addiction, it really is merely a habit. it's simply the activity i chose to spend my free time, but when i am doing something else i don't feel any urge to go back home and masturbate, if i stay several days without doing it it will not cause my body to start shaking uncontrollably or drop my pants and start doing it out of nowhere... so not fair to call it an addiction imo.
just like you, i am pretty happy with this habit, i could have a more balanced sex life, but it costs money to go out and meet people, and it can be emotionally draining, so i only do it very occasionally when i'm really feeling like it.
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@ianfontinell-0 I hear yah. It's definitely not an addiction. Hell, I've been masturbating daily since age 14. I'm going to turn 35 in November. It can't be an addiction. It's something that's ingrain in me.
When I feel like it, I masturbate. It's like second nature at this point. The thing is, I don't even need to think about it that much. It comes naturally. When I worked it was upon waking up and going to bed.
But now that I have more time, I've been working at making my sexual solo life as a much more embracing experience. The sex toy I bought myself greatly upped my daily fun and I have more time to read about it all.
And you're right. Sex with partners can be expensive. I prefer to do it on my own. I haven't touched a guy in years. I missed it at first, especially considering that my Late Fiancé Hawthorne and I had sex five times a night and it had been that way for thirteen years. So of course it took me a while to get used to solo sex.
But it's still a great way to live. I can truly embrace my sexuality.
