The destructive effects of watching porn
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It is known that watching porn on regular basis is bad for your brain. A matter of reality vs expectations.
I would like to confess that porn has affected me very negatively over the years. I'm 37 and I experience its effects.
When I'm horny I always want the real thing and I can hook up with a guy only to experience less than a desired outcome with 80% of the guys I meet (probably more)
I don't enjoy sex most of the time because my brain is expecting a porn-like sex.
I don't think I'm strong enough to stop watching porn or decrease the amount considerably.
Anyone else? are you doing anything to combat this?
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@Kekkaishi If it isn't working for you and you have a hard time with self-control or the ability to change it you might want to talk to a professional therapist for help. They will not judge you, they will help.
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There's a couple things to unpack here.
First, porn in itself isn't bad (there's this wave nowadays of demonizing it), but as everything else it can be harmful if it becomes an addiction or start to interfere with your life.
Second, the not enjoying part, you said you still enjoy 20% of the time, what is different about those times? Not everyone is compatible, everyone has had not stellar sex experiences. So is it a matter of expectation or lack of compatibility?
Lastly, if you believe porn is ultimately the culprit and you're addicted my advice would be seek professional help. You could try methods that people use to get out of addictions, if they work for you great, but if you can't professional help might be your best bet.
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I don't think I'm strong enough to stop watching porn or decrease the amount considerably.
Don't be left alone ... [If possible stay away from pornographic material and dubious sites, [Take A break from online activities] ...
Go w/ your friends and find things to do ...
For instance make yourself busy by doing a house chores ... [painting, gardening, sports, etc that will prevent you from sexual desire/fantasy] ...Last but not the least consult a physician like [psychologists] that can refer about cognitive approach ...
- Cognitive psychology is the branch of psychology dedicated to studying how people think. The cognitive perspective in psychology focuses on how the interactions of thinking, emotion, creativity, and problem-solving abilities affect how and why you think the way you do.
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Both your brain and the porn are working as intended. It's hard for some people to realize that porn is a drug like any other, that you get self gratification from it like any drug and yes, you can get addicted. This addiction can present itself in many many ways, not all of them will be as harmful as completely killing your will to have real sex, but it can happen.
There are two conflicting discourses that are popular in our current time. One saying that porn is actually good for you, that it gets you to discover and explore new things, that it's liberating, etc. And the other saying it's actually the opposite, that you should avoid it completely.
Thing is, just like any drug, the frequency and amount will be key factors to what negative impact it'll have in your body. Quitting any drug is hard, but sometimes it's neccessary.
As an addiction, you put a considerable amount of your thoughts and free time into using that drug, the primary thing to successfully rehab yourself is to occupy your mind and your free time with something else. You can go out with friends, go to the gym, run, binge watch movies or TV shows, start playing a new game, all sorts of things.
The act of downloading and watching porn becomes just an habit after some time, you just do it and that's it. That's until you stop, then you'll definitely feel super important, you'll feel like you're missing out on good porn that you might never come across again, all sorts of thoughts like this.
But just like any habit, it's just a matter of consistency and time. Whatever you pick to override your addiction, make it something you enjoy and are able to do with the same frequency that you watch porn.
