My parents want me to marry a girl
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Pakistan for a girl is a very unequal country, with different conditions depending on rural/city areas, social class, financial situation.
But generally a women is subordinated to a man, and not encouraged in developing her own mindset.Being gay is difficult for him, how is he supposed to find an open lesbian girl interested in a marriage ?
I bet there's not a marriage agency open 4 this -.-''google is our friend :
[ [url=http://www.experienceproject.com/stories/Am-Looking-For-Marriage-Of-Convenience–-Gays-Lesbians/5287255]http://www.experienceproject.com/stories/Am-Looking-For-Marriage-Of-Convenience–-Gays-Lesbians/5287255 ]
oh yeah she is in England ! xDPlease let us know how this is gonna end ! We are with you :bighug:
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As it turns out my best friend is an Indian woman with a similar problem, her family wants her to get married and keeps throwing guys at her all the time. In response she fled the country for 7 years to pursue her education in America (where we met). Just tell your family that you need to better educate yourself. Although with the recent election results America might not be your best option, but England has some excellent schools and Germany has free colleges you could attend to better educate yourself. Once you have a degree you never have to return home, unless of course you're a member of a royal family, in which case they will find a way to lure you back. Still you should be able to support yourself and that's all you need.
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I wonder what happened to you after so many years. I live in Europe. I have a pakistani friend who is married but gay in closet. Tries very hard to balance both his needs. wants to live a life with a man but now has two kids and wife is too controlling she know about his orientation.
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I wonder what happened to you after so many years. I live in Europe. I have a pakistani friend who is married but gay in closet. Tries very hard to balance both his needs. wants to live a life with a man but now has two kids and wife is too controlling she know about his orientation.
Balance?
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I live in a very conservative European country. Being gay is legal everywhere in Europe, but in my region "traditional family values" prevail over basic human decency. Family bonds are praised and cherished. Homosexuality is a banned subject in public.
When I was about 9 or 10 years old, I was starting to figure out something was very wrong with the environment I was living in. I was starting to see that this permanent state of poverty and shortage of food correlated well with that "family bond" fetish. I was surrounded by families, none of which were functional, but still cherished for absolutely no reason.
The day I finished school and got the diploma, at the age of 18, I packed my stuff (a couple of books basically) and moved out to another city to study and never came back. At that time I had equivalent of 25 € in my pocket. I received almost no financial support from my "family" and during the next 3 years or so I was very dependant on State support and social security. University studies are completely free in my country.
Since the day I left, my parents played absolutely no role in my life.
Not sure if this scenario could have worked in Pakistan or in other muslim country, but it is still something to think about.
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I live in a very conservative European country. Being gay is legal everywhere in Europe, but in my region "traditional family values" prevail over basic human decency. Family bonds are praised and cherished. Homosexuality is a banned subject in public.
When I was about 9 or 10 years old, I was starting to figure out something was very wrong with the environment I was living in. I was starting to see that this permanent state of poverty and shortage of food correlated well with that "family bond" fetish. I was surrounded by families, none of which were functional, but still cherished for absolutely no reason.
The day I finished school and got the diploma, at the age of 18, I packed my stuff (a couple of books basically) and moved out to another city to study and never came back. At that time I had equivalent of 25 € in my pocket. I received almost no financial support from my "family" and during the next 3 years or so I was very dependant on State support and social security. University studies are completely free in my country.
Since the day I left, my parents played absolutely no role in my life.
Not sure if this scenario could have worked in Pakistan or in other muslim country, but it is still something to think about.
in pakistan, if a family member stains the honor of the family, they usually kill that member. It's usually reserved for girls who had sex outside of marriage, or got raped, or is seen acting inappropriately. But a gay guy in the family is also dishonor so getting outed can get you thrown from the roof or killed outright. that's why he's scared. if he gets married, then he has to have sex with his wife. if he's gay, he won't be able to do it properly.
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in pakistan, if a family member stains the honor of the family, they usually kill that member.
I’m not sure I agree with the word "usual" in this context. What you describe in your post is that in Pakistan every family is a mafia and a prison at the same time and is composed of pure psychopaths (and all of this literally). I am absolutely sure situations like these do happen, but they are not usual, because we’re all human beings and we’re not that different. We tend to show more respect and love to people with whom we live.
If what you say is absolutely true and that person risks his life by living at his parents, it would be insane to continue doing this. If for some reason I knew my parents were about to kill me, I wouldn’t just stand here waiting for my death. Maybe it’s just me, but I think it’s completely insane to live with psychopaths.
