Should we care about others and come out?
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Should we care about others and come out?
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Yes because you need to ask yourself if it's worth the discomfort of facing discrimination in minor or major ways in the public sphere.
Or even worse, jail or death in less civilized countries.
So don't just come out. Use your head and weight the costs against the benefits.
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I think everyone faces that question in their own time and their own way. I agree there are some situations where you need to apply caution, not everyone is all that enlightened. But to the people who matter to you, if you feel strongly they need to know you have a choice to make. Be aware that not all relationships survive it, but the ones who do can grow closer than you ever imagined. It's been said "Be true to yourself", just keep in mind everyone's truth is different.
Most of the people who genuinely love you will not give it a second thought, as they know YOU didn't change. Some no matter how close they are you may never tell. you have to learn how to accept that too, especially since you are making that judgement. Keep in mind that there will always be a certain level of "don't ask don't tell" involved in your life depending on what your chosen profession is, mainly because you can't always control the ones you are surrounded by in such settings. You CAN however construct your best and most rewarding personal life, you CAN choose your friends.
I suggest if you have a particularly close open minded friend, you start with them. It can really help to have at least one supportive person with no axe to grind to help you sort things out. For me it was my adoptive older sister. Good luck with your decisions, I wish you the best.
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Come out when you feel ready to come out.
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NO. you dont owe anyone an explanation. come out if you feel like doing it.
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If you're married and secretly having homosexual affair in the side, then yes, I do think you should come out for the sake of your wife and children.
But outside from that, coming out should be a matter of YOU. Do you feel trapped with the way things are? Do you wish others can know you better?
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in most cases it should be a personal decision.
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Should we care about others and come out?
It has to be a personal decision. I don't think this is something you can ask on the internet, as all our personal experiences vary widely. You'll just have to sit down and take some time to evaluate your circumstances, and figure out what are the possible outcomes of coming out, and would it be worth it. For most gay men, we have to wait until we achieved a certain level of success, and or professional siniority before we can come out. Bottom line, You have to decide.
-AOS
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As long as you don't force someone into coming out, it's okay to be concious of others reality in order to help them get through.
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I personally don't care.
