Std paranoia

dzirlo

What to do when you get informed about stds to the point of killing your libido and overall idea of ever touching another human being sexually. I have a feeling it really messed my mind to the point of, well, i just explained what. Anyone else having issues of that kind and if so, how to overcome it?

Of course i'm referring only to single guys that don't have the security of a peaceful harbor that strict monogamous relationship is.

Few months already that i don't feel relaxed enough to have sex with anyone. Few attempted dates I aborted cause of this.

JohnAllenson

So, a couple of issues here.

1/ This level of anxiety might be something to be looked at by a profession in RL rather than by crowd-sourcing among people who are pirating porn.

2/ That being said, there are ways to be sexual where the chance of getting an STD are about as low as a Sharktornado. Wearing condoms for penetrative sex is extremely low risk. Having non-penetrative sex like mutual masturbation is zero risk. And unlike what they told us in kindergarten, don't share your toys when you're playing with them.

dzirlo

Ok, trying to kill the discussion by sending me to a psychiatrist is really not why i would open a topic on a forum. I know they exist and i'd go if i wanted to.
This is a forum where people discuss all the other topics in the world (especially sex related ones) but you think this one is not appropriate.
I guess that is the collective fear of stds coming through as (auto)censorship. I see many people who are afraid to even think on the subject.

And no, sex with a condom is not safe enough. Men commonly get genital warts at the bottom of a penis cause there's no condom there.
Also how are you gonna protect yourself from genital herpes and hpv in general with a condom?

I also don't want to have to control myself so much through sexual act. I love kissing, rimming and whatnot but rarely ever do it cause I try to be careful and that kind of "lab" sex truly sucks.

nikolaos84

I have passed a phase during which STD phobia has affected my sexual life negatively.

I came to the conclusion that the risk of STD is permanent and it is reality that we all have to face and I have to continue my life facing that risk in a more responsible way that is possible. After all we cannot live in a "tube".

And sorry to tell you again pal, but if you feel that the STD phobia cannot let you live a normal sex life, for a long time, the best solution to address the issue is the help of a psychologist.