No clothes = no worries (or, a story of nudism and friendship)
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So this summer I had my first nudism experience. I actually wanted to try it for a long time but never actually did (mainly cause I didn't have any friends who would like to go to a nudist beach w/ me or sth like that).
July came and I finally got to meet this guy that we have been talking on fb for a long time and is actually pretty rad (anarchist, polyamorous, fetishist, artist, you get the idea). We decide our first meetup is going to be a trip to the beach cause why not. He asks me if he can bring his boyfriend too and I'm actually kinda worried cause I don't know if his bf is gonna like me or not. But I say yes after all cause at least I can try. Once we met they told me it's a nudist beach where we are going, I'm like "oh", they are both like "oh, is there a problem with that?", I'm like "no, not really, in fact I was kinda expecting this a lil bit plus I really wanted to try it someday so I'm pretty excited for it" so they were relieved and we were all happy again.
The beach was a small rocky one, close to a family beach but pretty hidden because it was enclosed by cliffs. It was a gay nudist beach so a lot of stuff happen (including cruising, public sex, etc) but the atmosphere is pretty good so we had a good time. The guy I was worried about, he turned out to be one of the greatest people I ever met in my life. We ended up having a wild threesome that night. We went to the same beach again for a few times, had tons of sex, did a lot of other stuff together and had a blast in general. We are in a polyamorous open triangle relationship now.I think this entire thing ended up pretty well because we showed our real selves from the very beginning. With clothes off, you cannot really lie about yourself to the other person, nor you can make them think you are cooler than you actually are. If I had to meet this 2 guys the regular way, I'm pretty sure it would be awkward, even tho we had a lot in common. But this way it kinda worked magically, it was basically the natural flow of things. No clothes = no worries!
- this entire experience also helped me understand and appreciate myself more. My body image, my blemishes, my fetishes and my instincts.
Do you guys have similar experiences? Do you think that it really works this way? What are your thoughts about nudism and body freedom in general? :s)
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sighs… nothing exciting happens in my life!
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How has things changed, now that the clothes are back on?
You need clothes anyhow. Where will you keep the condoms and lube, hehe
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How has things changed, now that the clothes are back on?
You need clothes anyhow. Where will you keep the condoms and lube, hehe
once you get used to the nude reality then clothed life is pretty easy lol
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I know this is super late of a response, but just came across this post and wanted to say it's totally awesome and I strongly agree about the attitude on nudity.
Gay culture can be disillusioning for a lot of guys, especially younger guys who often grow up with constant, easy access to hardcore porn, way earlier than guys like me did (I'm 34). Our culture in general is just getting so hypersexual, but it's even crazier for gay men. We have such intense sexual needs and now have a lot more freedom to put sexual pleasure and our pursuit of it as a central (or even the central) focus of our lives.
So that naturally leads us to sites like this where we can enjoy both insane amounts of porn but also explore nearly unlimited fetishes. Our porn consumption programs our minds to be extremely sexually sophisticated. It's like our dicks get hardwired to expect orgasms triggered by watching beautiful men with massive dicks having wild sex. Personally, I think it's great. It's just fun to cum a lot and to cum hard. And men should be proud. Our sexual output both results from and pushes us further toward true gay sexual liberation.
The problems pop up when we indulge in the pursuit of our deeper needs for active, immediate, and more intimate sexual bonding with other men. When the sex becomes "IRL." Getting naked and fully exposing yourself to your buddies. Exploring bodies, masturbating each other, hoping our male instincts sync up and everyone gets a good nut.
It can take a lot of courage. I could definitely sense insecurity in the OP. That takes many forms but almost always involves body issues and fear other men won't find us physically arousing. We're not all porn stars. But nudity is the perfect cure for it. Men become communal through exhibitionism. We respect the limb we're all going out on. Even if a guy I thought was ugly whipped out his dick to show it off, my immediate thought would be, "Awesome. I like seeing new dicks." My second thought right after that would be, "I wanna whip mine out and show off too." It doesn't mean we're going to play. But it does mean we're going to bond on some level.
We all should feel (and submit to) an urge to just grab our full cock and balls and obscenely wag it to each other on display. All in agreement, "Yep, got that epic tool and perfect toy here, too!"
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How has things changed, now that the clothes are back on?
You need clothes anyhow. Where will you keep the condoms and lube, hehe
once you get used to the nude reality then clothed life is pretty easy lol
