How do I tell my boyfriend I want an open relationship?
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I'm afraid that just the discussion itself will make him go nuts. On the other hand, if he opens his mind up to the idea, I really think it could be beneficial to the relationship. (I won't go into the whole story of our relationship now).
What experiences have you guys had with open relationships?
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Watch a movie about it together and listen to his opinions afterwards, you may get surprised.
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Open your mounth and pronounce the words you want to say.
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Yep, it's better to be frank and direct to the point with openly sincerity.
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Would you like your boyfriend to be honest with you? Oh, you would? Then you need to be honest with him.
If this the last thing that you two could try to save the relationship, then say that.
He's a man, once he gets past his hurt pride, he'll understand the want of new dick.
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start with a threesome? >:D
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I believe communication and honesty is key. Tell him what you want and why you want it. Of course, it's important to be sensitive about the issue and also respectful of your bf's decisions and thoughts. You could also try warming up to the topic and gauging your partner's reaction by asking his thoughts on open relationships.
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try 3some first
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Once you tell him he's going to dump you. So the problem is going to work itself out.
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Yeah, I dont know about that. I have many couple friends who had tried open relationships, threesomes, foursomes and always ended nasty. So my opinion is if you have both tried spiritually, mentally and emotionally to connect to each other and it still isn't working, rather be real with each other and call it quits. You owe it to each other that much rather than destroying each other through mental and emotional pain, especially if you want to move into an open relationship, seriously dude it will screw with your mind eventually. Rather be single and play
Just my opinion.
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Aside from adding my vote for honest communication the way many others have already stated here, I think a very important question you need to ask yourself before taking this whole thing up with him is: What are you prepared to do if he absolutely refuses?
If he is not and will not be open to the idea- you will either have to decide that he is more important than your sexual freedom and stick it out with him, OR you go your separate ways since it will never work if only one of you feels strongly about being monogamous.
Either way, you acted like an adult and had a discussion with him about what you want out of a relationship.
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Has anyone here had a "success story" from being in an open relationship?
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Only do it if you're totally sure! Can make or break relationships
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He is going to wonder what it is that you need that you are not getting from him.
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Has anyone here had a "success story" from being in an open relationship?
Nop. One of my friends got into such thing with his bf since they went to study to two different countries. In the beginning they promised each other that they would let the other know if they did stuff with someone else. It did not happen that way, both of them were hiding their stories then started to accuse and blame each other.
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My partner and I have been together in an open relationship for 38 years. It hasn't always been easy. We've always been honest with each other. The one thing we agreed on in the very beginning is that sex and love are not mutually exclusive. Hope I got that right. What I mean is that we both believe that men in particular are not built to be monogamous. We believe we can love each other and still have sex with others. Sex is just another bodily function like sneezing, coughing, pissing, etc. It has had some good aspects in that we've had 3, 4, and more ways which were very exciting. Since we both agreed that it's only sex, jealousy hasn't been too much of a problem. Actually the only jealously I can remember is being jealous that he's had sex with some guys that weren't interested in me but I was interested in them.
I don't know how I would approach the subject with a partner who I've already started a closed relationship with. Sorry I couldn't offer any advice. I think you have to do what is right for you to keep your sanity and live as stress free as possible.
