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    I like top but it's not working out for me! Any advice?

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      koolqee last edited by

      Hi guys, I'm a top vers but recently during sex I haven't found top enjoyable for various reasons.
      1. I can barely feel anything (even with a thin condom on) and this prevents me from being fully hard
      2. I get grossed out by poop and don't like to touch the anus with my hand but I like penetration
      3. I don't think my cock is big enough?

      Does anyone else go through similar issues? Any advice/tips to get around this? I'd love to hear from both tops and bottoms!

      Thanks guys!  :love:

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        oxphordo last edited by

        Find a guy you actually like and want to have sex with.  Someone who you can foreplay with and take things slow, without stress.  Someone who you don't mind shit on your dick once in a while, because you love him.

        and maybe until then stick with porn

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          Kekkaishi last edited by

          I can also relate to some of your concerns
          1. Unless I can fuck really fast, I don't feel much pleasure. and if I do fuck fast and hard I get out of breath very quickly
          2. I also get grossed out by poop and even just the smell of it can put me off to a point that I don't feel like fucking anymore.

          that is why I'm also a bottom, but unfortunately I can only seem to hook up with guys that are either only top or only bottom. which makes it hard to switch when I don't feel like topping.

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            cwamoon last edited by

            Don't masturbate for a few days - you'll definitely start loving that hole again.
            Also, when I top (which is rare), I prefer to fuck guys that are 'broken in.' Too tight, and it actually hurts my cock. I prefer it a little loose.

            When it comes to the curry-dick… OH HELL NO. NOPE. NOT HAPPENING. INSTA-HARDON-KILLER.
            Find a bottom that cleans himself INSIDE OUT squeaky clean before sex. Enema X 3. I mean, that's what I do for my tops when I bottom...

            When it comes to the size.. I mean.. Which direction does your dick curve? With the prostate's location in mind, choose your position accordingly so that the bottom's prostate is grazed against. Make sure to have him whine and quiver until the prostate is inflamed, and the size shouldn't really matter too much. Unless you are below average size, then maybe not.

            I'm a smal0 5'5" Asian with a 5.5" dick. Never had problems with fucking other guys. Although I guess I haven't tried fucking a 6' tall guy before either. Tallest I think may have been like 5' 9". Taller than that, because of anatomy, might be difficult to please.

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              koolqee last edited by

              @cwamoon:

              Don't masturbate for a few days - you'll definitely start loving that hole again.
              Also, when I top (which is rare), I prefer to fuck guys that are 'broken in.' Too tight, and it actually hurts my cock. I prefer it a little loose.

              When it comes to the curry-dick… OH HELL NO. NOPE. NOT HAPPENING. INSTA-HARDON-KILLER.
              Find a bottom that cleans himself INSIDE OUT squeaky clean before sex. Enema X 3. I mean, that's what I do for my tops when I bottom...

              When it comes to the size.. I mean.. Which direction does your dick curve? With the prostate's location in mind, choose your position accordingly so that the bottom's prostate is grazed against. Make sure to have him whine and quiver until the prostate is inflamed, and the size shouldn't really matter too much. Unless you are below average size, then maybe not.

              I'm a smal0 5'5" Asian with a 5.5" dick. Never had problems with fucking other guys. Although I guess I haven't tried fucking a 6' tall guy before either. Tallest I think may have been like 5' 9". Taller than that, because of anatomy, might be difficult to please.

              OMG the image that popped up in my mind when you said curry dick…. I actually almost vomitted  :puke:
              My dick is 16cm and it points to the sky so it kind of hurts to have it perpendicular to my body but usually I go for missionary. That works best for me. I stress about hygiene though and doesn't help that I have a sensitive nose so I can smell things easily. Sex is hard... lol

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                pasiecaaL last edited by

                What a complaints:-. If you can't handle bottoms that don't fuck up their organs with cleansing everything, than bottom yourself. Problem solved:).

                Really, have any of you done any research about how bad it is to clean yourself EVERY time?

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                  cwamoon last edited by

                  @koolqee:

                  @cwamoon:

                  Don't masturbate for a few days - you'll definitely start loving that hole again.
                  Also, when I top (which is rare), I prefer to fuck guys that are 'broken in.' Too tight, and it actually hurts my cock. I prefer it a little loose.

                  When it comes to the curry-dick… OH HELL NO. NOPE. NOT HAPPENING. INSTA-HARDON-KILLER.
                  Find a bottom that cleans himself INSIDE OUT squeaky clean before sex. Enema X 3. I mean, that's what I do for my tops when I bottom...

                  When it comes to the size.. I mean.. Which direction does your dick curve? With the prostate's location in mind, choose your position accordingly so that the bottom's prostate is grazed against. Make sure to have him whine and quiver until the prostate is inflamed, and the size shouldn't really matter too much. Unless you are below average size, then maybe not.

                  I'm a smal0 5'5" Asian with a 5.5" dick. Never had problems with fucking other guys. Although I guess I haven't tried fucking a 6' tall guy before either. Tallest I think may have been like 5' 9". Taller than that, because of anatomy, might be difficult to please.

                  OMG the image that popped up in my mind when you said curry dick…. I actually almost vomitted  :puke:
                  My dick is 16cm and it points to the sky so it kind of hurts to have it perpendicular to my body but usually I go for missionary. That works best for me. I stress about hygiene though and doesn't help that I have a sensitive nose so I can smell things easily. Sex is hard... lol

                  It really is xD.
                  I mean, I have a sensitive nose too so I always make sure I'm COMPLETELY clean.. Never any issues despite hours of sex. Of course, had to learn it the hard way.

                  In regards to it being unhealthy: actually, not really. Yes, there are concerns with flushing out the vitamins and minerals you need, potential contamination, loss of probiotics etc. That's not a problem for me considering that my supplement/vitamin stacks are quite extensive and split into 2 doses, so cleaning myself thoroughly like that never throws off my balance. Granted, I only have sex once every few months.

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                    ericthas last edited by

                    Not sure - maybe try bottoming?

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