No interest in anal sex
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I've never really been all that much into anal. My last long term relationship was about 7 years ago, and I bottomed just a handful of times.
I have dated a few people since, but always managed to dodge anal sex. If it ever started, I would avoid it by saying I wasn't feeling too good…Most recently, I was dating a guy who was a bottom, and openly told him I wasn't interested in anal (which later turned out to be a deal breaker for him). After we stopped dating, we tried doing the friends-with-benefits thing. After persistent asking, I tried to top him, but lost my erection as I just wasn't turned on in the slightest. That was the last time I saw him out of pure embarrassment and awkwardness!
So now, I am thinking I am the worst gay ever, I'm so attracted to men, but even watching porn, it gets to the anal part and I'm rewinding back to the foreplay... Is there anyone else out there who feels the same about anal as I do? Or am I destined to wander the earth looking for someone who can live with just foreplay? Don't get me wrong, I like to get adventurous in the bedroom/floor/stairs/dining table, but is that enough?
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I like anal sex but I could deffinitely live without it - there are so many things to do besides fucking. I had so many great orgasms which didn't include anal sex - I really like scent of a real man, sweat, so just to sniff and/or lick armpits, feet, ass, balls, cock can drive me crazy. I also don't ever do enema - because I find that really unhealthy if done often. And if you have sex regulary - that is too often.
I just have sex when I feel that everything is fine inside, and I was never wrong. If I feel it's not really clean inside - I tell that to the guy who tries to top me and we move to some other activities. Guys who know nothing beside fucking and sucking are boring in bed anyway. I know most of tops here will be disgusted by reading this, but none of the guys who topped me have ever complained because believe it or not - you can really be clean even without enema, just listen to what your body tells you. If it's not a day for sex then it just isn't. -
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If it's not a day for sex then it just isn't.
Good answer, thanks
well what's the point of forcing anything? spontaneity is the key for me.
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I have never liked anal sex either (though I dont mind watching it in porn). I think its just that the anus was never an erotic zone for me growing up, and I am kinda repelled by anything to do with it. The first time I watched gay porn (I was 18) was the first time I realized that gay sex actually includes anal sex and I was both surprised and turned off.
I have never rimmed anyone. I have topped others occasionally, but I make it clear at meeting someone new that anal sex is right at the bottom (heheh) of my list of interests. Ive been lucky that my long term relationships have always been with guys who share a similar lack of interest in anal sex and butt play.
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I am torn between wanting sex and not wanting sex. I was a bit older when I had sex.
I didn't really have proper full blown sex until about two years ago and find myself wanting more but my reservations about having it the first time still remain.
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I personally love anal… But, what you're feeling is completely normal! No need to feel like you're a bad gay or as if there's something wrong. Lots and lots of gays are not into anal sex at all, and I know plenty of people who are in very serious long-term relationships and who never have anal.
After all, anal sex is only one of many ways to have sex. It's quite annoying how gay commmunity often expects people to be either top, bottom or vers. When it just doens't apply to so many people.
My advice to you would be to simply be open about that you're not into anal sex from the start. Especially if you use dating apps or similar. It will probably save you lots of trouble, and it might even attract guys who feel exactly like you
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I don't mind topping if my partner is into it, but I would much rather skip the anal for oral or JO. I was raped a long time ago, and I just don't care to bottom at all. I will rim a nice ass for days, and find it much hotter to keep that going until you can't stand it anymore and cum on my chest.
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plenty of fun things and kinks you can do in the bedroom besides anal
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You should just do you. If you are not into anal? No biggie. I know a lot of people who are not into anal or at least aren't focused on it. There is a bazillion ways to have sex and there is nothing wrong with you if you happen to not be into one of them.
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lol
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Hi. I really feel the same. I never have interest in anal sex. I was being bottom few times, and it was really painfull and unpleasent to me.. When I trynig to be top - I have no good erection (in usual situation). Because I feel really horny from other things.
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I was like this for decades I did not do anal sex at all as I had no desire to do it.
It was not until I was in a relationship with a man that's versatile but more of a bottom that I found out that I like to give anal sex but only to a partner or someone who I am in a relationship with. Otherwise I do oral sex.
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LGBT liberation should be all about freedom and choice. anal is. Not mandatory
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anal sex does not interest me regularly.I prefer oral sex and other kinds of games!! Q)
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anal sex does not interest me regularly.I prefer oral sex and other kinds of games!! Q)
Amen :clap2:
