Am I Ugly?
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Ok first of all I want to thank you for being brave enough and putting a picture of yourself online. I just want to say this is me.
http://i.imgur.com/WFvICIG.jpg
So now that we know what the both of us look like.
Me being single, I would totally date a guy with your profile. I like the fact you wear glasses, as you can see I do as well. I don't hate contact lenses, but I prefer glasses. Really like your hair.
But to be honest, to many gay guys, I wouldn't say ugly, hell no. But you wouldn't be in the top tier at all.
Like I know for a fact, I wouldn't be in the top tier of guys at all either. So I don't mean that to be rude.
To answer your question; No I don't think you're ugly, but that's just me.
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Admittedly, looks are an important part of getting the interest of a potential partner. But I've found that while looks may get you an introduction- it's really personality and charisma that will keep things going. As long as you're not a slob, you take care of yourself, and try to be an interesting person, you'll have no trouble finding lots of interested people.
To answer your question- no I don't think you're ugly. And I commend you and Domosuke for sharing your pics here online. As I said, looks are just one part of attraction- be the best you can be and you'll find someone out there who's looking for your type.
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I agree with Domosuke and brianboru72 as looks are usually what most guys (not just gays ones) go for.
The problem is when chasing the perfect bod or face, what happens when it changes? These guys are never happy for long.
I too know I am not the best looking but I have had relationships with many different types of guys and after the inital looks the guys needs to have personality and brains in order to stay.Here's me
http://tinypic.com/r/2dcdgsw/9
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sure not ugly, some kind of atractive! :hug:
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I like the fact you wear glasses, as you can see I do as well. I don't hate contact lenses, but I prefer glasses. Really like your hair.
But to be honest, to many gay guys, I wouldn't say ugly, hell no. But you wouldn't be in the top tier at all.
Like I know for a fact, I wouldn't be in the top tier of guys at all either. So I don't mean that to be rude.
Yeah.. The glasses have never been a huge deal to me, but it seems to be very off putting to other guys. Being born with cataracts in both eyes, I have worn glasses basically since birth. I wore contacts a bit as a little kid, as well as a short time in high school, but never really felt comfortable in them. I would say I look better, but I have never been a "beauty hurts" kind of guy.
I know I am not fantastic looking. I don't think I am ugly either. Yet I have been trying for my first relationship for about ten years, and get turned down every time. Family members say I don't look bad, but that is family, they are supposed to say that.
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Admittedly, looks are an important part of getting the interest of a potential partner. But I've found that while looks may get you an introduction- it's really personality and charisma that will keep things going. As long as you're not a slob, you take care of yourself, and try to be an interesting person, you'll have no trouble finding lots of interested people.
That is correct. Yet in the day of age where apps include just a picture and a Twitter like bio, how you look is your selling point. I have always had a hard time being given the opportunity of an introduction.
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[to OP] Honestly, I think the only thing that I don't really like is your hair. But this is a pet-peeve of mine, I don't like long hair on men at all.
Otherwise I think you are attractive, just not the stereotypical "beauty" promoted by media, etc. But honestly, that "model beauty" is getting boring. Beauty is not much about being ripped or having the perfect face/hair/eyes, it's much more about confidence and learning how to project yourself to others. I'm not in the "model" category either, but the last year I have done HUGE steps towards loving my body and appearance in general and accepting it as it is. And it worked to the outside too: once I became more confident in my own body, I started getting more compliments, both by people who were sexually interested in me but also people in general
IT'S ALL ABOUT THE CONFIDENCE!!!
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Beauty is not much about being ripped or having the perfect face/hair/eyes, it's much more about confidence and learning how to project yourself to others. I'm not in the "model" category either, but the last year I have done HUGE steps towards loving my body and appearance in general and accepting it as it is. And it worked to the outside too: once I became more confident in my own body, I started getting more compliments, both by people who were sexually interested in me but also people in general
IT'S ALL ABOUT THE CONFIDENCE!!!
I agree. I guess my point is, you need the model attractiveness to have the opportunity to showcase all of what you are expressing.
I personally am a well educated guy, who not only has a series of interests, but many different passions. I know who I am, what I want, and what is worth looking for. I have had guys tell me that this is what they are looking for, only to then reject me. That is of course if we are not talking about websites and apps, where I get almost zero attention compared to what most people get.
I even went to a matchmaking service, who told me they approached 100s of guys I would have interest in, only to be told "he seems like he would be a nice guy, but I'm not interested". I just wish I knew what I was doing wrong.
I am 6 foot 180 pounds. Since March I have lost 17 pounds. I know I am not thin enough, and still need to work on it, but I have tried very hard over the years.
Here is another picture :
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You really need to do something about your pictures' angles. They aren't flattering.
Also, your glasses get in the way. Either take them off or buy those anti-reflecting glasses, so your eyes show.
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You really need to do something about your pictures' angles. They aren't flattering.
Also, your glasses get in the way. Either take them off or buy those anti-reflecting glasses, so your eyes show.
Based on the type of lenses I need, that is not possible. Either way.. If guys recognize what you just did, then does it even really matter? I can see someone saying "OMG he has pretty eyes" and falling for someone, but I can't see someone thinking "he has average looking eyes" and rejecting someone.
I did not take those pictures. And trust me.. I am awful at the selfie. lol
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You really need to do something about your pictures' angles. They aren't flattering.
Also, your glasses get in the way. Either take them off or buy those anti-reflecting glasses, so your eyes show.
Based on the type of lenses I need, that is not possible. Either way.. If guys recognize what you just did, then does it even really matter? I can see someone saying "OMG he has pretty eyes" and falling for someone, but I can't see someone thinking "he has average looking eyes" and rejecting someone.
I did not take those pictures. And trust me.. I am awful at the selfie. lol
Then learn the art of taking selfies.
(If you learn to take awesome photos you can even make an extra money O: )And take your glasses off. I know it can be uncomfortable, but bear with me.
Also keep in mind that a photography tries to put in 2D something that is 3D and it distorts it, so from the start, photos are screwing us over.
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Then learn the art of taking selfies.
(If you learn to take awesome photos you can even make an extra money O: )I take the glasses off and I can't see. LOL
Let me guess, you are one of those Instagram models?
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I take the glasses off and I can't see. LOL
Let me guess, you are one of those Instagram models?
Instagram model…me? Heavens forbid! (There are enough 'Instagram Models' for the lifespans of 2 universes already)
Learn your best angles...so you say to yourself: 'Damn! I'm some hot bastard!' and then by the 'rule of confidence' you become 200% sexier (sexy % might vary from person to person)
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I agree with the comments above about confidence. On the other hand, I don't really like avoiding the truth to spare people's feelings.
You asked a direct question. 100% honest answer? I don't find those photos attractive at all, but cut the hair, and we'll talk.
Of course, I'm like ffuck; I hate long hair. To the point that even tall, muscle-bound, hairy-chested, porn star-bodied, movie star-faced guys with long hair just make me want to grab the clippers and cut it all off.
So, between the long hair and the glasses that hide your face, I really can't tell how you look underneath that. I'm not saying cut your hair because a random stranger on the Internet doesn't like it. I'm just saying, theoretically, cut your hair and take your glasses off for a second, and I could give you a better assessment.
I would gladly jump on the bandwagon and post a photo to broadcast my flaws, as well, but I'm too lazy.
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You asked a direct question. 100% honest answer? I don't find those photos attractive at all, but cut the hair, and we'll talk.
Of course, I'm like ffuck; I hate long hair. To the point that even tall, muscle-bound, hairy-chested, porn star-bodied, movie star-faced guys with long hair just make me want to grab the clippers and cut it all off.So, between the long hair and the glasses that hide your face, I really can't tell how you look underneath that.
As I think I clearly stated in an earlier post (or maybe not…) I wear the glasses everyday, no exception, because I cannot see without them. I had surgery when I was really young. If you are by chance saying I should take pictures without them, I don't like being deceiving. I mean.. If me having glasses is that big of a deal, to where I am not getting responses, how do you think these people will feel when we meet and I am wearing glasses? Not being truthful rarely works out in the end, and it isn't a good way to start off a potential relationship.
Not sure if I said it before in here, but when I was in my early 20s I had short hair. When I was in my mid 20s I had medium length hair. I can't say at any point in my life I have had an easier time getting attention. So while I respect your opinion, I am not so sure having long hair is the complete dealbreaker as to why I can't even get a date.
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No, my only point about the glasses was that in the two photos you've shown, the glasses are producing glare and obscuring part of your face, so we can't really see what your eyes look like. In real life we could probably see you better even with the glasses on, but not in these photos.
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You asked a direct question. 100% honest answer? I don't find those photos attractive at all, but cut the hair, and we'll talk.
Of course, I'm like ffuck; I hate long hair. To the point that even tall, muscle-bound, hairy-chested, porn star-bodied, movie star-faced guys with long hair just make me want to grab the clippers and cut it all off.So, between the long hair and the glasses that hide your face, I really can't tell how you look underneath that.
As I think I clearly stated in an earlier post (or maybe not…) I wear the glasses everyday, no exception, because I cannot see without them. I had surgery when I was really young. If you are by chance saying I should take pictures without them, I don't like being deceiving. I mean.. If me having glasses is that big of a deal, to where I am not getting responses, how do you think these people will feel when we meet and I am wearing glasses? Not being truthful rarely works out in the end, and it isn't a good way to start off a potential relationship.
Not sure if I said it before in here, but when I was in my early 20s I had short hair. When I was in my mid 20s I had medium length hair. I can't say at any point in my life I have had an easier time getting attention. So while I respect your opinion, I am not so sure having long hair is the complete dealbreaker as to why I can't even get a date.
Just to clarify, I personally meant that long hair doesn't look good to ME personally. And not only on you, on anyone. But there are tons of guys out there that like long hair a lot (in fact I think there are more of them than guys who like baldies or nearly baldies like me). So yeah, I don't think that the long hair is a dealbreaker by itself. It really depends on what kind of guys you encounter. And also, changing style on your hair may help. I don't mean to cut it if you don't want to, I mean to try and stylize it in a different way: manbuns, ponytails, etc are all possible and you don't even have to worry for trying it: go with it once, see how it goes, if it goes well keep it, if not don't do it again. Also, trust a barber/headdresser on that. They should give you advice on that.
When it comes to glasses: I don't think it's a problem that you wear glasses. I wear glasses 24/7 myself too, and I know by personal experience that many guys (and girls too) are actually attracted to that. But I should try to make a change there too. You know, buy a different set of glasses, different shape, color, anything. Pretty much the same as it is with clothes (for all people).
To sum up, I don't think you are ugly. You just seem that you have given up on finding a style that suits you or creating a new one. Experiment. Switch it up. Try something crazy. DO NOT BE STATIC. This is what makes you think of yourself as ugly. Cause being the same all the time makes you see yourself as boring.
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I've read some of the replies, and because they didn't resonate with my either way I decided to throw my 5 cents in. There are many things to attractiveness: ambitions, social standing, where you are in life in terms of career, how wealthy you are, sense of humour, charisma, knowledge and intelligence, personality, agreeableness, and yes, looks. And also: what are you looking for in another person? If you don't care about the above but are only looking for warmth and love, then finding anyone is easy, but we usually want to find someone a little more specific.
How are you on all the other fronts? Because some shortcomings in area can be overshadowed by positives in other area. Trump is not a nice thing to look at, but people don't seem to care. Physical attractiveness is something that is subjective, in many ways. And it is also not a 1 - 0 thing. It's not that someone is just attractive or unattractive. Having said that there are some beauty standards that large numbers of people seem to share.
A guy I fell in love with was not my first choice when it came to looks. My friend when I showed her his picture summed him up as "old man" which made me laugh. He was scruffy and would not care about what he was wearing but there was a method to his madness, he was determined to save money for other things and that was attractive. His accent is gorgeous, he is an English gentleman and has a great personality, is kind and helps me grow as a person. And he impressed me with how hard he worked to go up the career ladder. Later on I also thought he was best looking, but then I've already fallen in love;)
The problem is some times in attracting someone in the first place. Examine your other attributes. If you're unemployed, penniless, have bad attitude, these might be more burning issues to fix.
And look at the way you look too. If you are happy with yourself, just live your life. When we are happy we attract people anyway. The thing with looks we can always be better versions of ourselves. As a clever guy (or smart if you're American) you know all the methods: we can be better groomed, get better haircuts (I don't mind long hair but yours don't look great, either it's the haircut or hair is damaged by bleaching), get more fit and muscular, get nicer looking glasses, braces, and what not. It takes time and effort. If this is not something you want to do, or you don't want to change just in order to attract someone you like, then just focus on yourself. And also ask yourself, is another person in your life really necessary? -
And to be more specific, if you wanted to take action - you have a very round face, I come from a country where many people do, and it is not the best look on a guy. Round faces suit women a bit more, guys don't look as masculine. With guys people are attracted to square jaws and everyone like cheekbones. One way to counteract would be to try and lose weight and get body fat down to a minimum that would also make your face look more square and slender. In Korea everyone has a round face, while their beauty standards are the opposite, many people there get plastic surgery to get ahead in the competitive world. It's quite invasive I have some Korean friends who have done it.
People are usually attracted to glasses, as they make people look more intelligent. The type of glasses you wear, which makes your eyes look bigger, has the opposite effect. I am sure you are a clever guy, but we are just talking about looks and first impressions. If you can get one that look a bit different, that would be a good idea.
