If you are not into anal, are you still gay?
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One of the perennial questions that seems to float around gaydom is this: Can you be gay and not into anal play.
Specifically, I’m talking about men who are attracted to other men but are grossed out by any type of butt play.In other words, no:
- Bottoming
- Topping
- Tire changes that involve a rim job
Believe it or not, these types of guys do exist and there are more of them than you might think!
:surprise:
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yes still gay this whole thing does not apply to me as i'm into all of that but yes.
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With the right partner I don't mind being the top, and I don't mind rimming him.. but I don't like to be a bottom.
Mayve one day when I find the right guy and he's gentle.. I MIGHT try to be a bottom, but so far I've hated all the attempts and it hurted way too much each and every time..
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Yes, Gay is Gay.
Would that mean a Straight guy who liked anal was gay? -
Yes, Gay is Gay.
Would that mean a Straight guy who liked anal was gay?Right !!! .. I mean as long as you want to have a sexual relationship with member of the same sex And ONLY same sex You are gay .
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im not actually grossed out by gay sex, just don't feel the desire to do it, so i don't and i'm still gay. and i pretty sure that no one can tell me otherwise.
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What a weird question. In a sense we must all pass the anal exam to get our gay card? How ridiculous is that? Gay does not equal anal sex or vice versa.
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Not a weird question.. But consider it this way… to characterize yourself as gay just because you are into anal...
So, I think that can still identify as gay without being into anal..
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If you don't fancy women but guys instead and you're guy, no matter if you're a virgin or sexed up, you're gay. You're born straight or gay, at least everyone says you are, so you are what you are no matter how much action you have or what you like. Well, that's what I think.
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Sure you can be gay and not into anal. Seems like sex would be kinda boring without it to me, but whatever works for you. :dick:
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Sexuality isn't just about lust but about love as well. I think lusting over a guy is only half of it. You can still be gay if you love guys
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So they say, you aren't.
If you don't have penetrating sex with a man, you're not gay.
I find it bullshit, but you can't argue with logic and facts. Because it's true.
Even though I hate anal and at 25 years old never had, I still consider myself gay, because I let a man do anything and everything else with me. Suck his dick. Piss on me. Suck his feet. Rims, frotting, spooning, jerking etc.
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is this a question, really?
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is this a question, really?
Cut it out.
Don't act like whenever a gay guy announces he's never had anal. People don't look at him weird and don't consider him gay.
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I always liked looking at dicks and balls and hairy crotches. I liked the size and shape of dicks and how they move and how they look getting hard, being hard, coming down from being hard. How they feel and how they taste and what it is like sucking them and feeling them go as deep as possible.
In short, it was always about the look of dicks and the sperm they release. All very oral for me. Many years later, I realized that some guys wanted to fuck an ass just as naturally as I wanted to suck cock. I knew that there were lots of fucking porn vids but never quite got the idea that cocksucking was often, maybe even usually, just a warm up for "the real thing." That not fucking or getting fucked was often not even considered "real sex." As in– I jacked him off and sucked him off but we haven't had sex yet.
This or similar topics has come up before, and yes, lots of people are only into oral. There are even people who are only into anal and like many women, don't want that yucky man cream slime anywhere near their face or tongue, so may go so far as to suck only with a condom on the dick or only if able to spit out the nasty evidence of ecstasy achieved.
Having finally figured out that for many people, across the entire range of sexual orientations, "gay" means "butt pirate," "fudge packer," or otherwise someone who dicks assholes as their preferred means of shooting a load, it finally dawned on me what many people I know were talking about or taking for granted. I was always so totally absorbed in wanting to look, touch, suck, taste, and swallow that I had always pretty much ignored or overlooked all evidence that there might be much greater intimacy involved and possibly greater and more powerful orgasms.
It naturally follows that the idea of cumming, hands-free or otherwise, from being deep dicked was something that no one had actually ever told me was possible and which I had never seen or heard of until, after I grew up and grew old, there was amateur and professional porn documentation that getting yr prostate poked and prodded could be like jacking off but from inside. Wow. Revelation.
So I missed out on a lot of stuff, including experiencing my favorite studs doing what, at least in some cases, is what they mostly preferred but rarely requested or demanded, and when they did manage to slip it through my tightly clutching sphincter, were only busy pleasuring themselves without necessarily giving me any hint that I could be enjoying physical sensations as a bottom to match their growing stimulation from topping.
And of course if I had known more about men fucking assholes, male or female, and fucking pussy, I'd have been better prepared for seduction of straight friends and intermittent horny hunks. And I'd have been better at sucking by really getting into the intimate details of how a cock getting sucked is like a cock that's fucking and breeding while fucking pussy or going through the closest equivalent via the same motions up an ass.
Ignorance can be astonishingly slow to vanish and even what subsequently is revealed as blazingly obvious can be mysteriously unknown in spite of a literal world of evidence. No one who climbed aboard ever said they wanted me to have fun, too. That was always in my head, the thrill of being pounded by a manly man in heat and doing what he does best to spew his seed triumphantly and way more intimately than pumping it down my throat or filling my mouth with hot, fresh cream for me to savor.
How stupid is that, huh? To have the "close yr eyes and think of England" approach to getting fucked and just waiting out the process rather than feeling an equal part of it. And that was going on all around me all those years. Which brings me to a great personal revelation:
It is entirely possible that whenever anyone learned or decided that I was gay, what they were thinking was something about me taking it up the ass or plowing some hairy shithole. Me, I always just thought of sucking and getting sucked, but since it finally clicked that buggery was the name of the game, whenever I came out or hit on someone, they were thinking I wanted some cock-ass connection when really all I wanted was a hot load or three, yum yum.
Interesting for me to find out that gay does not necessarily equal an ass frolic of any sort, not fingers, not dildoes, not rimming or more because some people do not recognize the anal sphincter as a gateway to Heaven that they are interested in, may not even realize it is a sex organ at all. So what "everyone else" has known all along has turned my world upside down or inside out or something now that my attention has been called to traveling the dirt track, which surely is one source of anti-gay prejudice: that strait dudes are afraid of being penetrated and associate the act with elimination processes, in contrast to "it's just a blowjob" and thus... hmm, not sex at all.
As in, "I did not have sex with that woman." Maybe heterosex does not include bj's as anything but warmup or quickie alternative to the real thing. Confusion reigns. What do "kidz today" think-- is oral sex "real" sex? So if a man only sucks cock does that mean he has not had "real" sex any more than that US president thought about his own extra-marital sperming?
Whatever the answers to any of the above, seems like getting or giving ONLY bjs does not determine whether a man is strait or gay, because the category you associate with (as defined by you, for better or worse) had nothing to do with whether or not there has yet been any follow-through. Similarly, a man who fucks a woman is not automatically Not gay any more than a sailor getting sucked off by some conveniently compliant dude is therefore irrevocably and forevermore gay.
Maybe a teen boy spends his time and attention and dating and wanking focused on getting his dick up inside a woman between her legs, but likes the idea of getting sucked off by a chick until he can get that far and do more than finger fuck her or get a handjob, but his Goal is pussy. That could be a considerable contrast to dudes who only want to suck or get sucked by another man and are focused only on that goal, not on buggery.
That is, while lots of gays center their interest on oral sex rather than anal, is there a hetero equivalent of dudes who are not generally intent on vaginal intercourse if time and circumstance can be arranged, so that anything oral is insignificant in comparison, closer to a handjob than loading up a pussy?
Nice to have a little reassurance that these questions afflict lots of people and that we all may have more in common than we suspect.
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Being gay has nothing to do with sex activities… you are gay because you can only LOVE the same gender. Again I said LOVE, there is way too much focus on sex ahaha!
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Just to stress a fact that has been already stated:
Being gay means you're attracted to someone of your same gender. How you show that attraction is not part of the equation.
There are gay men who won't do anal for a myriad of reasons: some physical, some based on opinions or beliefs. Luckily, having 'sex' or 'making love' is not reduced to just the penetration/being penetrated act.
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sure
