How do I tell my bf he's not a very good kisser?
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He's very sweet and quite perfect in bed but when we kiss he sort of slobbers all over my mouth and chin. What should i do? Any suggestions?
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When my bf and I give each other feedback, we often tease and go about it in a joking way. It works better for us to be less serious, and just lightly (but not rudely) give each other shit.
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good communication means better sex. be considerate in your critique, but, if you're at a place in your association to deliver honesty, go for it. "sit still while i show you what i like", etc. i find that with sex, you lead by example; if he can keep saliva in his mouth while he's eating, he can definitely do it when he's making out.
then again, spit play can be fun too! -
Thanks…. I will keep that in mind.
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Do it jokingly….
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Like the others said above, try using a bit of humour. Of course it would depend on how well he can pick up on a "joke" or hint and if he takes offense to that. But if he does get offended, he's not a keeper in my book anyways.
Then again I was never famous for my diplomatic skills.. I'd probably go for something like, "Hey dude, I just showered (haha)", or "Hold on, I think I'll need a napkin.".
Though, as I said, I'm typically very straight to the point and honest and anyone involved with me would expect me to tell him off if I found something to be, for a lack of a better word, "wrong". Only you'd know if your bf can take such a remark from you in a good way. -
I went through the same thing. I just straight up told him I didn't like the way he kissed and explained what and why I didn't like, then taught him how to do it properly ;D He found it funny, his response was "why didnt you tell me sooner". Both of yall should be willing to learn how to please each other, communication :hug2:~
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Just out of curiosity…
What happens if, after you tell him, he says something like, "You know, that's funny...I was wondering how to go about mentioning something to you about the way you kiss."
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Just out of curiosity…
What happens if, after you tell him, he says something like, "You know, that's funny...I was wondering how to go about mentioning something to you about the way you kiss."
Good point
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I've always found the use of my retail skills to work with situations like these. The key is to focus on the better, without hitting too hard on the fault itself. You could call it avoiding the subject, but with sometimes, less is more when you're in that kind of position. One of the best ways to start this is so start with something like "Why don't we try…." as this leaves the understanding that you're experimenting and trying something new, while still maintaining control of the desired outcome. When the chemistry is right with both sides of the couple, things should start to spark as primal nature takes over when the desired target(s) are reached.
It's a bit of a different way of thinking of a solution, but it's a method that works great for a number of things, time and time again. It accomplishes the desired result (in this case, fixing a bad kisser), while putting the focus on the desired end result, without the need to point out what could be seen as a bad or negative aspect, or mentioning anything that would have a potential to become a sensitive subject matter. It's a rather different manner, but sometimes, it's the most effective.
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Just be open and give feedback
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I wouldn't tell him, I would show him how you like to be kissed…make it a game. make him do as you say. hopefully he will pick up on it without being criticized...when you start criticizing in the bedroom...can be a bad thing
