How many people know you're out?
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Actually, I do have a thought about moving overseas. I hope once I graduate I can live my own life somewhere far away. I intend to go to New Zealand and find a job there. But it'll cost me some fortune, so… until then, that's not gonna happen anytime soon.
But if I did leave, I may have to leave my boyfriend... :afr2:
It's so confusing! Maybe I could tell my parents via text message instead?
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Not a fortune. You just have to work and save some cash. I bet you're able to do that. I did that too. If you study hard enough you can get scolarship as well. It's all about hard work and knowing how to wisely spend your money.
I think that's a good idea if you feel so much pressure about your sexuality in your country.
So you have boyfriend here, now ? Why don't you both leave ? Should be even easier to do than on your own.
Don't know what everyone else thinks about it but to me telling that via text message is like breaking up a 5y r-ship over the phone. Not serious. -
Actually, I do have a thought about moving overseas. I hope once I graduate I can live my own life somewhere far away. I intend to go to New Zealand and find a job there. But it'll cost me some fortune, so… until then, that's not gonna happen anytime soon.
But if I did leave, I may have to leave my boyfriend... :afr2:
It's so confusing! Maybe I could tell my parents via text message instead?
Not a fortune. You just have to work and save some cash. I bet you're able to do that. I did that too. If you study hard enough you can get scolarship as well. It's all about hard work and knowing how to wisely spend your money.
I think that's a good idea if you feel so much pressure about your sexuality in your country.
So you have boyfriend here, now ? Why don't you both leave ? Should be even easier to do than on your own.
Don't know what everyone else thinks about it but to me telling that via text message is like breaking up a 5y r-ship over the phone. Not serious.Text messages are worse than breaking up over the phone..
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Not a fortune. You just have to work and save some cash. I bet you're able to do that. I did that too. If you study hard enough you can get scolarship as well. It's all about hard work and knowing how to wisely spend your money.
I think that's a good idea if you feel so much pressure about your sexuality in your country.
So you have boyfriend here, now ? Why don't you both leave ? Should be even easier to do than on your own.
Don't know what everyone else thinks about it but to me telling that via text message is like breaking up a 5y r-ship over the phone. Not serious.I think I can do that. But not so much about my boyfriend. I'm not exactly rich, though not really poor either, more like financially capable, but my boyfie is not exactly, so I wouldn't say saving up some money to simply go abroad wouldn't be so easy either, not for a couple of months, or years, I think. Though I feel like, if I could take him with me, he would have a better chance of landing a very much proper job, one that is suitable with his passion and interest…
okay, no text message then, but it's okay via phone call?
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only 2 for now. Still gathering more strength to come out to more people.
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My family knows.
It wasn't easy in the beginning, since they were pretty confused on what being gay is (they thought it was a desease and they took me to the doctor, lol).
With time (I came out in 2003) they processed everything and now they are cool with it.
All my close friends know, anyway I wouldn't have any problem to reveal my sexual orientation to other acquaintances.
The only problem would be with my relatives (uncles, aunts etc.), as they talk to much and can be very judgemental. Honestly I want to spare this kind of drama to my parents.Anyway, I think that the only way to live is to be open and not be afraid of who you are. It could be hard at first, but it's the right choice and life will be better and better after that.
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My family knows.
It wasn't easy in the beginning, since they were pretty confused on what being gay is (they thought it was a desease and they took me to the doctor, lol).
With time (I came out in 2003) they processed everything and now they are cool with it.
All my close friends know, anyway I wouldn't have any problem to reveal my sexual orientation to other acquaintances.
The only problem would be with my relatives (uncles, aunts etc.), as they talk to much and can be very judgemental. Honestly I want to spare this kind of drama to my parents.Anyway, I think that the only way to live is to be open and not be afraid of who you are. It could be hard at first, but it's the right choice and life will be better and better after that.
So, you are not 100% out, are you?
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I would say 90%, lol ;D
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I would say 90%, lol ;D
I guess that the remaining 10℅ of these people that you know are.. just people that you don't have many things to do together! They should be something like strangers!!
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It's very sad, most people I know are still in the closet afraid of the reaction of the society.
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It's very sad, most people I know are still in the closet afraid of the reaction of the society.
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Less than ten, one is my relative and the rest are friends. ;D
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Less than ten, one is my relative and the rest are friends. ;D
Still good. Don't need everybody to know right? As much as you care about people you can tell them. Though living out of the total closet sure has its advantages and more chances to meet somebody.
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Only my family doesn't know I'm gay, so that's a huge percent of people I know who are aware of my orientation: around 85% give or take.
It's still hard for me to tell my family, because the moment I do, I'd be forced out of the house. Or shot at. I remember the last time there was a hint of gayness I showed. And the one guy appreciating another excuse is bullshit to my mother's ears.
So yeah, that's a debbie downer. But hey, when I move out, I can be at ease with myself.
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Only my family doesn't know I'm gay, so that's a huge percent of people I know who are aware of my orientation: around 85% give or take.
It's still hard for me to tell my family, because the moment I do, I'd be forced out of the house. Or shot at. I remember the last time there was a hint of gayness I showed. And the one guy appreciating another excuse is bullshit to my mother's ears.
So yeah, that's a debbie downer. But hey, when I move out, I can be at ease with myself.
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I am out to everyone. :cheers:
I came out when I was 19 and moved to the UK from South Africa.
It was very easy for me because I had no family in the UK at the time, So I could be myself, I was here for a few months and then sent an email to all my friends and family back in South Africa telling them I was gay.
I was very scared but everyone said they didn't care if I was gay or not as long as I was happy. :love:
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Basically everyone that needs to know, knows it. My family, my friends… I don't exactly parade it around and tell every single person ever but if someone were to ask I'd of course be honest. So I guess I'm out to everyone
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The people I'm close to all know. My general rule is that I don't bring it up unless it's relevant to the conversation, but I don't lie about it - so if someone asks why/when I'll get a girlfriend, I tell them, and if someone asks if I'm seeing anybody, I tell them. Really,, if someone asks and it's not in the context of, say, a bunch of skinheads about to punch my lights out, I'm going to answer truthfully.
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The people I'm close to all know. My general rule is that I don't bring it up unless it's relevant to the conversation, but I don't lie about it - so if someone asks why/when I'll get a girlfriend, I tell them, and if someone asks if I'm seeing anybody, I tell them. Really,, if someone asks and it's not in the context of, say, a bunch of skinheads about to punch my lights out, I'm going to answer truthfully.
It's good that you don't lie about it!
;D
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I don't hide being gay, everybody knows. I left it to my sisters to tell their children themselves but that is more a thing of being lazy. ;D
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I don't hide being gay, everybody knows. I left it to my sisters to tell their children themselves but that is more a thing of being lazy. ;D
Lazy to your young relatives?
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