Culture + religion + environment v.s. being gay
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Being an Arabic guy, could it be possible for all of these mixture to live together ever-after peacefully?
To me its being gay means loneliness, jealousy, self-hating, backward developing in this society, questioning my self from teens and early twenties, I'm getting now into 30s, and i see no end to that. afraid of future, do I need a psychologist, even so I'm afraid of telling him.
My only conclusion is NO COMING OUT till the end, keep your personal life to yourself, no need for others to know about it that what happiness is to me. -
Being an Arabic guy, could it be possible for all of these mixture to live together ever-after peacefully?
To me its being gay means loneliness, jealousy, self-hating, backward developing in this society, questioning my self from teens and early twenties, I'm getting now into 30s, and i see no end to that. afraid of future, do I need a psychologist, even so I'm afraid of telling him.
My only conclusion is NO COMING OUT till the end, keep your personal life to yourself, no need for others to know about it that what happiness is to me.Hi,
i was a Muslim so i can relate your problem even though our culture is different in many aspect. i can't say much since i haven't coming out yet, but keep the spirit. If you can, try to move out from your country. -
You should do coming out not now maybe but one day , you will feel better.
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just be you , i cant begin to understand what its like being in an Arab nation however as an Australian that has a Turkish heritage , added to that the fact that my parents are Turks of two religions ( Islam and Judaism) i can understand ( a little) the anxiety that you must be feeling
do not feel that you need to give up what you believe in though , im still very much a Jew that believes in a higher power , no religion or book can take that faith away from me , my parents who i thought would disown me when i came out at 16 actually supported me a lot , i judged them for something that they did not do , which is my hubris Turkish culture however is different from Arabic culture , i have a lot of Arab friends here in Australia who are out but not to family , i think the key is to find the balance , not everywhere is going to be like the west.
respect yourself and love yourself dont be so hard on yourself being out is not the be all and end all of who you are. -
My roommate is out, Muslim and very happy.
If you live in an Arab nation, I'd suggest immigrating to a different place if that's a possibility. It does make a difference.
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The first thing I would suggest is starting with how YOU perceive being gay. I believe there's nothing wrong with being gay, it's misguided people who have and cause problems with it. That was very important for me to understand in my journey. I'm a gay man and I'm fortunate to have a lot of love in my life with really good people. For me, my religious beliefs and environment altered to support my authentic self.
